How many ATOT'ers have had to deal with a miscarriage?

[Iron Woode]

I was thinking about things from long ago and remembered when my GF was pregnant. At the time we didn't know she was pregnant and we were having relationship issues. We broke up and she later discovered she was pregnant. By that time she was already 1 month pregnant. We talked on and off for a month but she never mentioned it. After several months apart, we starting spending time together again and that is when she told me about it.

We had tried for nearly a year before to have a child. This is when things were going great for us. So it was quite a shock to find out she was pregnant but had a miscarriage after 2 months. I started having issues about the miscarriage and got very depressed. We were in no position at that time to be having kids. We started have issues again and one of the causes was the miscarriage. I think we both needed counseling, but neither of us went for it.

I have always wanted to be a father and believe I would make a good parent. Now I feel left out because the women I have gone out with since don't want kids and some don't want marriage either.

LOL. I am not getting any younger, either. Now I find myself wanting to settle down with a good woman and have a family.

Anyone else have to deal with miscarriages? My Aunt had 5 before my cousin was born.

 

[Zim Hosein]

I haven't had to deal w/ this issue, but you have my condolences Iron Woode

 

[CraigRT]

Not me dude, but if I was trying to have a child, that would definitely be hard.

I can't relate with you on how exactly it feels, but definitely can't be good... best wishes buddy, I am sure you find the girl you are going to marry in due time

 

[slag]

We have had 2 miscarriages, one at the end of the first trimester.

We are now the proud parents of 2 children, 1 and 3 yrs old.

Miscarriages are just God's way of taking care of something that just wasn't quite right, for whatever reason.

 

[NakaNaka]

Very sad a miscarriage but I agree with slag and I'm not even religious. My gf's mom had a miscarriage about a year or two before she was born. She's an only child and that would have been their only one. So I wouldn't have met my gf and we are madly in love. So things work out. But yes, If I was a prospective father I don't think it would be easy.

 

[JackBurton]

Yeah dude, my girlfriend had a miscarriage. Happiest day of my life. Close call. Seriously.

 

[tm37]

Had one and then 2 month later My Wife got pregnent again.

Five yearts later I have my little guy!

 

[Iron Woode]

Originally posted by: CraigRT
Not me dude, but if I was trying to have a child, that would definitely be hard.

I can't relate with you on how exactly it feels, but definitely can't be good... best wishes buddy, I am sure you find the girl you are going to marry in due time

Thanks dude!

 

[Iron Woode]

Originally posted by: tm37
Had one and then 2 month later My Wife got pregnent again.

Five yearts later I have my little guy!

:thumbsup:

 

[waggy]

I have twice actually.

When i was 17 i got my girlfriend pregnant. she miscarried a few weeks into it. I'm not sure if it was a blessing or not. I could not have raised a child at that time.

And when i was 23 my wife (well we were dateing at the time) got pregnant and she misscarried. That one really bummed me out.

 

[Jzero]

I can see it being tough if you are trying to have a kid, although unless you have fertility issues, it really shouldn't be a huge deal. I imagine it is a lot tougher on the woman than the man since she gets the feeling of loss PLUS all the hormonal mess.

My ex-gf had one, and like JackBurton, it was a bullet dodged. The fact that she told me neither about her pregnancy or the miscarriage until we broke up like 2 months later illustrates just why it was a good thing for us.

 

[Pacfanweb]

We had a miscarriage at 10 weeks the first time my wife was pregnant. Turns out the development stopped at just a few weeks, but took awhile for her body to decide to cancel the pregnancy.
The doctor told us that 1 in 3 pregnancies miscarries....I never knew...but when it happened, our friends and coworkers came out of the woodwork with stories of miscarriages in their families.

But I guess it worked out okay, we now have our daughter in an old pic, now 21 months old, and a son due next month.

 

[Encryptic]

Yep. My wife had a miscarriage at 7 weeks about a year ago.

It hurt for a while, but we got over it eventually and tried again. We just had a healthy baby boy about a week ago.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: slag
We have had 2 miscarriages, one at the end of the first trimester.

We are now the proud parents of 2 children, 1 and 3 yrs old.

Miscarriages are just God's way of taking care of something that just wasn't quite right, for whatever reason.

I'll edit this to:

That, in my opinion, is the most contradictory thing I've read in a long, long, time.

 

[Fausto]

Originally posted by: armatron

Originally posted by: slag
We have had 2 miscarriages, one at the end of the first trimester.

We are now the proud parents of 2 children, 1 and 3 yrs old.

Miscarriages are just God's way of taking care of something that just wasn't quite right, for whatever reason.

wtf. why didn't god do it right the first fscking time?


Or is it god taking care of his own fsck ups?

Dude. This thread is neither the time nor the place for this. Douse the flames now please.

 

[woowoo]

Originally posted by: armatron

Originally posted by: slag
We have had 2 miscarriages, one at the end of the first trimester.

We are now the proud parents of 2 children, 1 and 3 yrs old.

Miscarriages are just God's way of taking care of something that just wasn't quite right, for whatever reason.

wtf. why didn't god do it right the first fscking time?


Or is it god taking care of his own fsck ups?

Don't know
Go ask him......

 

[slag]

Originally posted by: armatron

Originally posted by: slag
We have had 2 miscarriages, one at the end of the first trimester.

We are now the proud parents of 2 children, 1 and 3 yrs old.

Miscarriages are just God's way of taking care of something that just wasn't quite right, for whatever reason.

I'll edit this to:

That, in my opinion, is the most contradictory thing I've read in a long, long, time.

Here, i'll edit this out to make it non-religious.

Miscarriages are just Nature's way of taking care of something that just wasn't quite right, for whatever reason.

Sorry, I didn't mean for this to be a religious thread.

 

[Kadarin]

My ex and I had a rocky relationship. I had broken up with her at one point, and after not talking to her for about three months, she called me out of the blue to tell me that she was pregnant and that she thought it was mine. So we started talking again, and got back together a few weeks later. Shortly thereafter, she claimed she had a miscarriage.

Yeah, right.

 

[Beau]

I'll most likely have to deal with a couple. Seems to be very common in my wifes family Not looking forward to that.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

We 'probably' had a very early miscarriage before we had our first child. It is sad, and frustrating, but I believe its completely natural in that there was a reason for that miscarriage.

 

[lsman]

Originally posted by: slag
We have had 2 miscarriages, one at the end of the first trimester.

We are now the proud parents of 2 children, 1 and 3 yrs old.

Miscarriages are just God's way of taking care of something that just wasn't quite right, for whatever reason.

I will agree with it.

Had one. Just one month after the midwife "give the green light" for sex after the first child was born and my wife was pregnant. I believe nature does a good job when its not going to make it (tons of reason, mom's body not ready, the cells do not form good etc), there's the miscarriage, happen like after 5-6 weeks.

Its hard to accept at the moment. But you got to understand that this happen all the time, to many family in US, and the % is not low either. Got to accept that if its not right, its just a nature way "selection".

Love, relationship.... First is the feeling part, but i think after some time it will be gone because nothing is curious anymore. But its actually the second part: The Work, the effort to make the relationship work, is what it count.
Best wishes to u.

BTW, my second boy is health and big (bigger than the first boy), at 3 months old.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: Iron Woode
I was thinking about things from long ago and remembered when my GF was pregnant. At the time we didn't know she was pregnant and we were having relationship issues. We broke up and she later discovered she was pregnant. By that time she was already 1 month pregnant. We talked on and off for a month but she never mentioned it. After several months apart, we starting spending time together again and that is when she told me about it.

We had tried for nearly a year before to have a child. This is when things were going great for us. So it was quite a shock to find out she was pregnant but had a miscarriage after 2 months. I started having issues about the miscarriage and got very depressed. We were in no position at that time to be having kids. We started have issues again and one of the causes was the miscarriage. I think we both needed counseling, but neither of us went for it.

I have always wanted to be a father and believe I would make a good parent. Now I feel left out because the women I have gone out with since don't want kids and some don't want marriage either.

LOL. I am not getting any younger, either. Now I find myself wanting to settle down with a good woman and have a family.

Anyone else have to deal with miscarriages? My Aunt had 5 before my cousin was born.

Lucky for the child IMO. Why on earth would you try to have a child with someone you probably won't be with in a year or so? So the child can grow up in a split home? Way to go... :|

Next time you decide you want to be a father I suggest you find a good woman you can spend the rest of you life with and marry her first. It's much better for the child that way.

 

[Fausto]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: Iron Woode
I was thinking about things from long ago and remembered when my GF was pregnant. At the time we didn't know she was pregnant and we were having relationship issues. We broke up and she later discovered she was pregnant. By that time she was already 1 month pregnant. We talked on and off for a month but she never mentioned it. After several months apart, we starting spending time together again and that is when she told me about it.

We had tried for nearly a year before to have a child. This is when things were going great for us. So it was quite a shock to find out she was pregnant but had a miscarriage after 2 months. I started having issues about the miscarriage and got very depressed. We were in no position at that time to be having kids. We started have issues again and one of the causes was the miscarriage. I think we both needed counseling, but neither of us went for it.

I have always wanted to be a father and believe I would make a good parent. Now I feel left out because the women I have gone out with since don't want kids and some don't want marriage either.

LOL. I am not getting any younger, either. Now I find myself wanting to settle down with a good woman and have a family.

Anyone else have to deal with miscarriages? My Aunt had 5 before my cousin was born.

Lucky for the child IMO. Why on earth would you try to have a child with someone you probably won't be with in a year or so? So the child can grow up in a split home? Way to go... :|

Next time you decide you want to be a father I suggest you find a good woman you can spend the rest of you life with and marry her first. It's much better for the child that way.

Thank you, Captain Judgemental.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: Fausto
Thank you, Captain Judgemental.

You're welcome.

 

[JulesMaximus]

OP-How old are you?