Originally posted by: dullard
Originally posted by: jemcamIf you're sincere in your statement, you just fell into that category, you're too stupid or lazy to understand why someone cares how their name is pronounced.
You need to be careful with your assumptions about people. Take me for example, I'm an American grad student surrounded by foreign students. I've asked several times how to say their names, yet I never get the answer I'm looking for. Here are my current names of confusion:
1) Nisha. She is Indian. I've heard people call her "N ish a" and I've heard " N eesh a". I've asked her personally and she won't tell me which is correct (so I assume both are incorrect and she doesn't care).
2) Viljoen. He is South African. I've heard dozens of attempts at that name. My best guess is "full yuun". I've asked him personally, several times, as have other people. We still don't know.
3) Julia. She is Russian. Of course as an American I first think of "Ju li a", but knowing she is Russian it is more likely "U li a". Some people use one and other people use the other. She won't tell us which she perfers.
4) All of the other Indian students around here. They don't even try. When asked their responce is always to call them by their first sylable. For some of them I don't have a clue what their full name is (I need to sneak into their wallet to find it).
It isn't that I don't try - so I don't think I'm lazy. But most people don't want to correct me (even when asked they just say it doesn't matter). They have just given up with so many people mispronouncing their name. So I go around never knowing the proper pronunciation. Am I really stupid or lazy?