How do you file a police report against your own brother?

[Bignate603]

If he doesn't want to go clean you can't force him. Your best hope is to get him away from the drugs long enough that what's left of his mind will come to it's senses. My cousin went to jail multiple times for heroin. He's such a nice guy but going to see some one you know well in jail is tough. He went through phases, where he honestly wanted to come clean, and times he didn't care. It was terrible. I don't know where he is anymore, or even if he's alive...

 

[SlowSS]

Originally posted by: xuanman

Originally posted by: SlowSS

Originally posted by: xuanman
letting him go on with his habits will only prolong the suffering. Essentially the entire family is subsidizing his habit. He needs rehab. If he doesn't comply, have him committed or ship him off into the army...

I don't think even Army want a drug addict, they aren't hurting that bad.

Yeah, he needs lot of help, if everything else fails and he is hurting family,

then I would call police and get him some help that he needs.

I suggested the Army in half-jest, but you're right, the Army isn't exactly a repository for drug addicts. But, the reason why I suggested it was that I was listening to an NPR program in Chicago called "This American Life" which was a documentary on life onboard the US aircraft carrier John Stennis, and one part of the program mentioned a navy private(? sorry, i don't know the terminology) who was convicted of a crime and had the option of serving something like 8 years in prison or 4 years in the navy. The program is available at This American Life and just scroll down to Episode 206 "Somewhere in the Arabian Sea"

Just for your info, "Navy private" is call either Seaman, Airman, or Fireman.
As for option to serve prison or military, that might of been the case during 1970s,
but at current time, Navy or other branch of service don't need peeps who felony
conviction (assuming 8 years of prison time is due to felony crime). Some of the recruiters
don't even want to talk to you if you have some sort of convictions in your record.
I've met many Sailors/Marines while I was in the Navy and I don't ever recall meeting
anyone who said they came into the military because they had option of prison time or Navy/Marine Corp.
Of course, that doesn't mean they aren't any, it's just I never met one.

BTW, that is very interesting audio. I never been on Stennis,
but I have been onboard Lincoln, Washington, Nimitz, Vinson,
America, Independence, Midway and few other carriers.

That guy who opt for the Navy, I've meet few like him, they hated Navy,
will do anything to get out their responsibilities, lazy, late for work...
Those type don't last too long, they will eventually get weeded out.

 

[SlowSS]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Epiphany

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Jellomancer
Don't make your friend report him to the police. You do it.

Gah. That's a freaky clown.

His whole family KNOWS he needs to be reported, but none of them can do it because "they love him." It's so frustrating... I don't want to be the meddlesome third party, and I wouldn't want his family to hate me for it (even though everyone knows it's what needs to be done). I'm trying to convince my friend to do it, because he's the most logical one of his entire family... plus, he's the oldest brother, and the most mature.

Will he have to call the police when it happens again, or can he go to the station and fill something out ASAP? How seriously do the police consider these types of reports (family member reporting family member), and what type of investigation incurs as a result? The family has been through enough, and I think a quiet police report will be the best way to minimize their pain... although it'd be awful if they arrest him at home in front of his baby brother (age 7 ).

Peace,
Dezign

then dont be

There's a difference between being a meddlesome third party and a concerned friend who would like to take some sort of action vs. sitting back and watching the cycle perpetuate itself.

Peace,
Dezign

Too bad that his family is being passive. They won't have anyone to blame except
themselves if he commit some sort of crime (which might include hurting an innocent person)
to get money to support his habit.

 

[Lady In Red]

He hasn't stolen anything directly from me (I've been VERY careful not to leave my purse lying around when I go over, and he doesn't know where I live), but he has stolen gifts I've given the family (Christmas presents, etc.). Does that count?

Sorry, but once you give someone something it's not yours anymore. It's theirs to do as they wish.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Situation updated.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[neovan]

Considering what he has done and what he is trying to do (to the little bro) then he definitely deserves some more jail time. He needs to clean up his act or he can ruin another life. They need to set up some cameras and film him in the act.

 

[BD231]

Dezign what's up with all your crazy ass threads lately???? I don't know what's true and false coming out of your words anymore .

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Prison + Rehab. The only way this is getting resolved.

Stick up a video camera and put your purse out there (with something that LOOKS valuable) and catch him in the act. Get him to confess - preferably on-tape - to all the stuff he stole before. Ditto for the meth addiction.

- M4H

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: BD231
Dezign what's up with all your crazy ass threads lately???? I don't know what's true and false coming out of your words anymore .

I have a pretty weird life. To a lot of people, some things are hard to believe because the things I do/have done/find myself in the middle of are a little more outlandish than most... and the company I choose to keep is pretty eccentric, so interesting stories can come out of my interactions with them. All postings are true, but people can choose to believe it or not. I don't even post about a lot of things that happen... just the ones I need advice on/feel the need to share.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Prison + Rehab. The only way this is getting resolved.

Stick up a video camera and put your purse out there (with something that LOOKS valuable) and catch him in the act. Get him to confess - preferably on-tape - to all the stuff he stole before. Ditto for the meth addiction.

- M4H

Is that legal? I've considered it.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[thomsbrain]

believe it or not, some people do want to die, but are too afraid to just get it over with.

and personally, i'd rather die than go to a christian rehab clinic.