Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Skacer
Fear can cause a person to freeze in place or run faster than they've ever run in their entire life. Both Person A and Person B probably feared the news they heard, the reality of their situation. But Person A ran faster than he'd ever run, while Person B froze. Eventually, Person B will have convinced them self that it is already too late for changes and submit to their fate. I've seen far, far more Person B's than I've ever seen of Person A's. So while both scenarios are problematic, I'd take a Person A over a Person B any day. Sure, several spiteful people in this thread may think Person A would die first, but I would bet that to be the exception more than the rule where as the rule for all Person Bs is going to be a painful road until complete failure. Person B will eventually suffer multiple heart attacks and most likely still resist change. Even before that happens, Person B has already committed them self to a lowered quality of living.
I'm person A, by FAR.
Here's what goes through MY head on a daily basis, and it drives me crazy:
Diagnosed with high blood pressure when I was 19, and continued to gain weight. Doc shows me pictures of my heart when I'm 20, and how its thickening. I lose weight, get in shape. Mean while, I'm going to doctors left and right (ALL referrals!) and hearing "You're too young to be here!" 100 times. Makes me even more worried and paranoid.
I buy blood pressure machines. Then I buy another one. Then, before I know it, I have a blood pressure machine in my car, my work, and two at my house. I check it 5 times a day. Cause gosh forbid its higher than 120/80 for an hour or two, I'm paranoid I'm going to have problems when I'm older, and not be able to have kids and/or get married, which is what I've always wanted.
I turn vegetarian and eat right. I self-diagnose - I take classes on how to read EKG's (My friend is a nurse, and she gets freaked out when she can't see something on an EKG that I can).
I become afraid of closed corners. Because what if I'm in a plane, or on a train, and I have a heart attack, or my blood pressure spikes really high? How can I get to a hospital in time?
This is the way I was up until a year ago. Yes, I'm bad now, but I've very much improved. I will always be a "type A" as described above - MY problem is realizing that I work out 5 times per day, eat a vegetarian diet, eat VERY healthy, try to relax as much as I can, and I need to realize that I'm doing everything I possibly can.
I sit here now making one of the most important decisions in my life, and the only debate I have in my mind is my health. No matter what opportunity arises, no matter what options arise in my life, my decision is never about money, or friends, or fate: its about what will be best for my health, so that I can live as long as possible and be in shape as long as possible. Its turned into a passion.
Paranoid? Sure. My doctors don't think so though. They think its great. But deep down, I wish this hadn't happened so young. I've gone through a lot to get past my major paranoia of a year ago, but I still have a long way to go.