Originally posted by: dullard
My dad is quite sexist too (I'm the opposite). But my wife can't shake the feeling that I want her to fail at her career and be a housewife. It can't be further from the truth. I pretty much renovated her building for her studio (walls, new wood floor, etc). I've helped with any policies/pricing/etc that she wants. I actively tell everyone I know about it and encourage them to go to her studio. Yet all along she sees me as my dad. That I'm against her working. Trust in that area has dwindled to zero. She says my actions speak louder than my words. I see a tile in the ceiling is water stained and replace it so that her customers will walk in and be impressed. She sees me as picking on her stuidos flaws and making her an idiot for not noticing the stain. I'm working on this issue too - but that is really getting off subject.
LOL - that's called "women", my friend, they are ALL like that.
You can make no changes in their life, any part of their life, or anything to do with any part of their life. Not only can you absolutely, under no condition, make any such change, you cannot SUGGEST it or even THINK about it. If she has a computer, you don't touch it. Doesn't matter how many viruses are on it, or how slow it starts up. Maybe tinker with it while she's not around, but she'd better not find out about it.
Etc, etc.
Living with a woman is all about learning to bite your tongue and just *deal* with their eccentricities.
As to your "social problem"...well, I'm afraid I don't see a problem.
Why do you need 'friends' just for the sake of having 'friends'? You want people you can call up and go out with? Why? It doesn't sound like you'd ever do that if you had them?
What you need is things to do. Find a local game shop (not computer games - boardgames/miniatures/CCGs/etc - more interaction with them) and join one of the groups. *Poof*, you've got one night a week covered with a social event that you don't have to make any friends for. Game shop won't care if you don't make any friends, just as long as you come and buy their products - plus, who knows, you might make a casual gaming friend or two.
Pick up a part time job at a bookstore. Barnes & Noble, Borders, etc - especially one with a coffee shop inside it. You get to hang out with people who at least value books, interact with customers who WANT books, etc. *Poof*, there goes two more nights a week covered with essentially serious social interaction without needing friends - but, again, you'll likely make some. Plus, hey, more money is always a good thing!
Hang out at a coffee shop one night a week. You've got 6000 posts here, you obviously spend a lot of time on the internet. Take a laptop to a coffee shop with a WiFi hotspot and do your ATOT posting from the coffee shop one night a week. You don't need to make friends, and usually there will only be one or two other people there at a time, excluding the barrista or two. Be sociable with the barristas (not TOO sociable, unless they seem interested) and you may end up with another casual friend or two.
Your situation is not as bad as you make it sound. You are putting the cart in front of the horse, I think. Don't look for friends just to have friends. Look for things you can enjoy doing in public, and make friends that way.
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