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How can I help my wife stop smoking?

Originally posted by: moshquerade
Has she told you that she wants to quit?
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Yes, but she doesn't feel the need to. She said it will be easier when she finds a new job. But she's been searching for that JOB for 6 months... and nada.
 
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Has she told you that she wants to quit?
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Yes, but she doesn't feel the need to. She said it will be easier when she finds a new job. But she's been searching for that JOB for 6 months... and nada.
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tell her her new job is giving you blowjobs every morning
 
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Ok, so I used to smoke an occasional cigarette. Like once a month when I was out for a drink or whatever... just to get more of a buzz w/out drinking too much. The more I did it, the more I realized how useless and disgusting it was, so I quit altogether. I've never been addicted to anything though (food being the exception) so it was easy.

My wife (of 1 year) just picked it up at work because she says she gets stressed out and it calms her down and makes her feel better. Now she's smoking close to 7-8 a day and even sneaks outside to do it when I'm home. I hate the smell, hate the taste, and it's gotten to the point now where I just don't want to talk to her or be around her after she does it. It's frustrating because I think to myself... hmmm, it's just cigarettes. I can't let it ruin our relationship. But it's a social thing for her at work, w/ her sister, Mom, etc. and she thinks it's no big deal even though I've expressed my feelings on it.

She has a very addictive personality and I don't know how I can get her to stop. Sad part is she promised me that she stopped - and she's usually loyal w/ her promises. But she broke down to me the other day and said work has been rough and I needed to smoke. Now she's back to her usual habits and I'm back to being short w/ her and not wanting to really be around her. Am I overreacting? Need POV's from smokers and non-smokers on the issue.

Thx!
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Your needs are just as important as hers. I'd tell her that by relieving stress at work she's causing stress at home.

Unfortunately I cannot see this ending well. She knew you would not approve when she started for the second time, I think it's time to put your foot down.
 
Freak her cigarettes...

then she won't have to worry about pressure from her current job at least... she might have to put more effort into finding a new job though
 
i smoke about the same as you used to.

all you can do is just ask her to stop... smoking is pretty nasty because you can't get rid of the smell no matter what... even after the smoker brushes their teeth / cleans up, the smell remains. my wife wouldn't kiss me on the lips for a while after i smoked, and sometimes we would even do it without even kissing on the lips because of my nasty habit!! 0_0 foreplay without kissing... that's when you get creative lol 0_0

but anyhoo... if it is a deal-breaker for you, then just tell her. i'm sure she would let go of the coffin nails before letting go of you ( i hope ). the only thing that sucks is, if it is something she really enjoys, she might resent you for forcing her to quit, and then she will just end up doing it behind your back.

there are other stress relievers besides smoking.... i've seen the most hardcore smokers EVER @ my work give it up and become "addicted" to something else. one lady quit smoking, but now she NEEEEEEEDS to play euchre with us @ break. what your wife needs is a diversion and just to get over the first few days without a smoke. if she can get over that hump, she can quit for good or AT THE WORST become an occasional smoker like me, or like you used to be. if she has a super addictive personality, she will probably need something in the place of smokes to get over the habit. good luck man
 
Do like my old man did to me when I was 10....sit her down and make her smoke half a pack and eat the other half.

 
Originally posted by: lokiju
Talk to her?
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lol

edit: and i'm lol'ing @ you, lokiju. these "women"... are not all simple creatures. in fact, i've only met a handful in my life that "get it" like we do 😛

/runs and hides
 
Get her the electric cigarette. Same nicotine stimulation, same inhalation (if she's got the oral fixation), no smoke, no smell. It costs more than a pack of cigarettes, but it's worth it if it's causing a problem in your marriage.
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: lokiju
Talk to her?
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lol

edit: and i'm lol'ing @ you, lokiju. these "women"... are not all simple creatures. in fact, i've only met a handful in my life that "get it" like we do 😛

/runs and hides
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*hugs wife*

I think I hit the jackpot with my wife then.

Of course now that she's 7 months pregnant she's not always as level headed :laugh:
 
Originally posted by: lokiju
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: lokiju
Talk to her?
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lol

edit: and i'm lol'ing @ you, lokiju. these "women"... are not all simple creatures. in fact, i've only met a handful in my life that "get it" like we do 😛

/runs and hides
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*hugs wife*

I think I hit the jackpot with my wife then.

Of course now that she's 7 months pregnant she's not always as level headed :laugh:
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don't worry, she'll change. KIDDING
 
Just divorce her.

But seriously, its ridiculous that she would pick up smoking because of stress knowing how much you hate it. Tell her to get over herself.
 
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Has she told you that she wants to quit?
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Yes, but she doesn't feel the need to. She said it will be easier when she finds a new job. But she's been searching for that JOB for 6 months... and nada.
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I'd sit her down and just have an honest talk with her about it. Bring up her health, the fact that the longer she smokes the harder it is to quit and the less likely she'll be successful at quitting.
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: Nik
If she's just doing it for stress relief, simply have sex instead.
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dude, what part of MARRIED did you miss?
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Exactly. Married people always have sex with other people, never each other. 😉
 
Originally posted by: Insomniator
Just divorce her.

But seriously, its ridiculous that she would pick up smoking because of stress knowing how much you hate it. Tell her to get over herself.
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thats not why she picked up smoking, its just her excuse to continue it. her mom, sis and coworkers all smoke, so im sure that had a lot to do with it.


i can tell you from experience that she will never quit until she wants too, my ex gave me the "stress" excuse for a long time too. once she changed jobs and was happy, it was "i dont want to try to quit smoking and lose 25 lbs at the same time. weight first, then quit smoking"... she lost the weight after leaving me, but still smokes. shes back to the job stress excuse to the kids tho.
 
I would have her talk to older smokers who have tried to quite and failed. I was one and wish I could talk to her for just 15 minutes....... Smoking is nothing to mess with because after so long it has it's hook in you DEEP!

By the way smoke free for some time now after 27 years🙂
 
Originally posted by: hanoverphist
Originally posted by: Insomniator
Just divorce her.

But seriously, its ridiculous that she would pick up smoking because of stress knowing how much you hate it. Tell her to get over herself.
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thats not why she picked up smoking, its just her excuse to continue it. her mom, sis and coworkers all smoke, so im sure that had a lot to do with it.


i can tell you from experience that she will never quit until she wants too, my ex gave me the "stress" excuse for a long time too. once she changed jobs and was happy, it was "i dont want to try to quit smoking and lose 25 lbs at the same time. weight first, then quit smoking"... she lost the weight after leaving me, but still smokes. shes back to the job stress excuse to the kids tho.
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I simply do not understand why you will continue to put yourself through that filthy lifestyle.
 
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