How can I help my wife stop smoking?

[ballmode]

Divorce, no matter how hot or great a woman is, I would never date/marry a smoker.

 

[spaceman]

Originally posted by: ballmode
Divorce, no matter how hot or great a woman is, I would never date/marry a smoker.

:roll:

 

[SirChadwick]

Originally posted by: ballmode
Divorce, no matter how hot or great a woman is, I would never date/marry a smoker.

Great answer! That solves everything. I'll be sure to really listen to everything you say from here on out. :roll:

 

[jpeyton]

Threaten divorce.

I would.

 

[James Bond]

GENNNNNNGAVITISSSS

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s8Y_vEKbZhU

 

[TruePaige]

People here saying to divorce or threaten to dump her = Fucking Retards.

I say let her do what she wants. You are both separate people with wants and needs.

Nobody sucks dick for cigarette money, who cares? It's just smoking.

 

[James Bond]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick

Originally posted by: ballmode
Divorce, no matter how hot or great a woman is, I would never date/marry a smoker.

Great answer! That solves everything. I'll be sure to really listen to everything you say from here on out. :roll:

Seriously... Deep end, much?

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: jpeyton
Threaten divorce.

I would.

I hate to be someone who gives an ultimatum, but smoking is about as bad as cheating to me.

There's absolutely no chance my wife would ever smoke, but if she did take that disgusting habit up, she would get a "it's me and the kids or those cancer sticks" ultimatum from me.

It's hard for me to believe that people are still stupid enough these days to take up smoking, but I guess stupid people are just as stupid as they ever were.

 

[Red Squirrel]

I should take closeup pictures of the overhang of my neighbor's house and post them. It's all yellow from cigarette smoke. If it does that to the OUTSIDE of the house imagine what it does to the inside of the lungs.

Then again, smokers know all this, they just don't care.

My neighbor died from lung cancer in his house recently.

 

[TruePaige]

Originally posted by: Pacfanweb

Originally posted by: jpeyton
Threaten divorce.

I would.

I hate to be someone who gives an ultimatum, but smoking is about as bad as cheating to me.

There's absolutely no chance my wife would ever smoke, but if she did take that disgusting habit up, she would get a "it's me and the kids or those cancer sticks" ultimatum from me.

It's hard for me to believe that people are still stupid enough these days to take up smoking, but I guess stupid people are just as stupid as they ever were.

...what the fuck.

 

[XZeroII]

Originally posted by: SlitheryDee

Originally posted by: XZeroII

Originally posted by: SlitheryDee
Man smoking's hard to quit. I'm starting to really want to quit, like I did when I quit drinking. It'll happen soon I think. Don't tell her that you want her to quit just because she smells bad and you don't like to be around her when she smokes. That just makes you look like a self-centered prick. Tell her you want her to live a long, healthy life with you and you couldn't stand to lose her to something like tobacco. That should be the real reason you're concerned anyway.

Wrong. Don't lie. Be upfront and honest. Saying that you want her to quit for health reasons is a losing argument and it's not the truth to begin with so don't even go down that road unless you really believe it. Be honest. It's all you can do.

I'm just saying that if someone wanted ME to quit for those reasons it wouldn't do anything but piss me off.

Example reply: "Oh am I INCONVENIENCING you ma'm"? "Well excuuuuse me"! "You can go fuck off and die"!

If you really would treat your SO that way, then you don't shouldn't even bother teller her. Just get a divorce already.

 

[jpeyton]

Originally posted by: TruePaige
Nobody sucks dick for cigarette money, who cares? It's just smoking.

Exactly, who cares if 20 years down the road you and your children get to watch her slowly die from lung cancer, and then you get the privilege of being a single father with a six-figure hospital bill.

Thanks for smoking honey!

 

[TruePaige]

Originally posted by: jpeyton

Originally posted by: TruePaige
Nobody sucks dick for cigarette money, who cares? It's just smoking.

Exactly, who cares if 20 years down the road you and your children get to watch her slowly die from lung cancer, and then you get the privilege of being a single father with a six-figure hospital bill.

Thanks for smoking honey!

Whatever, in general smoking cuts off the diaper years anyway. Smoke 5 cigarettes a day for 20 years and odds are you'll be a little phlegmy and have a bit less lung capacity but fine.

Look up stats that are actually correlated with the amount of cigarettes smoking.

Thanks for buying into the propaganda, jpeyton!

P.S. If everyone quit smoking and drinking it would severely damage the economy.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: TruePaige

Originally posted by: Pacfanweb

Originally posted by: jpeyton
Threaten divorce.

I would.

I hate to be someone who gives an ultimatum, but smoking is about as bad as cheating to me.

There's absolutely no chance my wife would ever smoke, but if she did take that disgusting habit up, she would get a "it's me and the kids or those cancer sticks" ultimatum from me.

It's hard for me to believe that people are still stupid enough these days to take up smoking, but I guess stupid people are just as stupid as they ever were.

...what the fuck.

What do you mean? Let me spell it out for you: Anyone who starts smoking today is a dumb fucking ass. I'd say it right to anyone's face who does so, and have done it.

That would be a serious deal breaker for me if my wife started smoking. She'd have to quite, or find a new husband.

She's not that stupid, though.....having watched her mom die in her 50's from smoking.

 

[TruePaige]

Originally posted by: Pacfanweb

Originally posted by: TruePaige

Originally posted by: Pacfanweb

Originally posted by: jpeyton
Threaten divorce.

I would.

I hate to be someone who gives an ultimatum, but smoking is about as bad as cheating to me.

There's absolutely no chance my wife would ever smoke, but if she did take that disgusting habit up, she would get a "it's me and the kids or those cancer sticks" ultimatum from me.

It's hard for me to believe that people are still stupid enough these days to take up smoking, but I guess stupid people are just as stupid as they ever were.

...what the fuck.

What do you mean? Let me spell it out for you: Anyone who starts smoking today is a dumb fucking ass. I'd say it right to anyone's face who does so, and have done it.

That would be a serious deal breaker for me if my wife started smoking. She'd have to quite, or find a new husband.

She's not that stupid, though.....having watched her mom die in her 50's from smoking.

You'd tear apart your family, take your kids from their mother, go through a divorce and seperation of assets, spend your whole lives apart (from someone you swore to be with through better or worse, rich or poor, sickness and health and should love more than anything in the whole world) over a simple cigarette?

Again.

What. The. Fuck.

I especially think you are crazy for the fact that it would fuck up your kids.

 

[jpeyton]

Originally posted by: TruePaige
Smoke 5 cigarettes a day for 20 years and odds are you'll be a little phlegmy and have a bit less lung capacity but fine.

Smoke 8-a-day like the OP's wife, escalate to a pack-a-day in a year, smoke for 20-30 years and...you think the OP should just ignore that?

Get her to quit or divorce. Don't live a miserable life with a woman who smells/tastes like the inside of a fireplace.

 

[SlitheryDee]

Originally posted by: XZeroII

Originally posted by: SlitheryDee

Originally posted by: XZeroII

Originally posted by: SlitheryDee
Man smoking's hard to quit. I'm starting to really want to quit, like I did when I quit drinking. It'll happen soon I think. Don't tell her that you want her to quit just because she smells bad and you don't like to be around her when she smokes. That just makes you look like a self-centered prick. Tell her you want her to live a long, healthy life with you and you couldn't stand to lose her to something like tobacco. That should be the real reason you're concerned anyway.

Wrong. Don't lie. Be upfront and honest. Saying that you want her to quit for health reasons is a losing argument and it's not the truth to begin with so don't even go down that road unless you really believe it. Be honest. It's all you can do.

I'm just saying that if someone wanted ME to quit for those reasons it wouldn't do anything but piss me off.

Example reply: "Oh am I INCONVENIENCING you ma'm"? "Well excuuuuse me"! "You can go fuck off and die"!

If you really would treat your SO that way, then you don't shouldn't even bother teller her. Just get a divorce already.

Well, I'll admit I'd leave off the last sentence in the real event, but what about how this hypothetical SO is treating me? If I keep my smoking outside, chew some gum, and take regular showers the smell is a minor inconvenience that will rarely be noticed. I don't care what anyone else thinks. I'm right and they're all a bunch of whining idiots. It's not that damn bad, yet she expects me to do something about it? Just because she can't stand a subtle whiff maybe twice a day? Please. Nobody is that precious.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: TruePaige
People here saying to divorce or threaten to dump her = Fucking Retards.

I say let her do what she wants. You are both separate people with wants and needs.

Nobody sucks dick for cigarette money, who cares? It's just smoking.

people have deal-breakers........ in a marriage, the little things can become HUGE over time. it's gay but that's just the way it is

 

[TruePaige]

Originally posted by: SlitheryDee

Originally posted by: XZeroII

Originally posted by: SlitheryDee

Originally posted by: XZeroII

Originally posted by: SlitheryDee
Man smoking's hard to quit. I'm starting to really want to quit, like I did when I quit drinking. It'll happen soon I think. Don't tell her that you want her to quit just because she smells bad and you don't like to be around her when she smokes. That just makes you look like a self-centered prick. Tell her you want her to live a long, healthy life with you and you couldn't stand to lose her to something like tobacco. That should be the real reason you're concerned anyway.

Wrong. Don't lie. Be upfront and honest. Saying that you want her to quit for health reasons is a losing argument and it's not the truth to begin with so don't even go down that road unless you really believe it. Be honest. It's all you can do.

I'm just saying that if someone wanted ME to quit for those reasons it wouldn't do anything but piss me off.

Example reply: "Oh am I INCONVENIENCING you ma'm"? "Well excuuuuse me"! "You can go fuck off and die"!

If you really would treat your SO that way, then you don't shouldn't even bother teller her. Just get a divorce already.

Well, I'll admit I'd leave off the last sentence in the real event, but what about how this hypothetical SO is treating me? If I keep my smoking outside, chew some gum, and take regular showers the smell is a minor inconvenience that will rarely be noticed. I don't care what anyone else thinks. I'm right and they're all a bunch of whining idiots. It's not that damn bad, yet she expects me to do something about it? Just because she can't stand a subtle whiff maybe twice a day? Please. Nobody is that precious.

Exactly. Anybody that had to have that much control over my life... wow.

 

[Q]

Originally posted by: Atomic Playboy
Get her the electric cigarette. Same nicotine stimulation, same inhalation (if she's got the oral fixation), no smoke, no smell. It costs more than a pack of cigarettes, but it's worth it if it's causing a problem in your marriage.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: SlitheryDee
Well, I'll admit I'd leave off the last sentence in the real event, but what about how this hypothetical SO is treating me? If I keep my smoking outside, chew some gum, and take regular showers the smell is a minor inconvenience that will rarely be noticed. I don't care what anyone else thinks. I'm right and they're all a bunch of whining idiots. It's not that damn bad, yet she expects me to do something about it? Just because she can't stand a subtle whiff maybe twice a day? Please. Nobody is that precious.

By that same logic, if it isn't that big of a deal, you should be willing to give it up in favour of the relationship (with the hypothetical SO).

Unless you could actually see yourself happy when she is gone and you're alone, with your butts. Which is fine too, I'm just sayin.

On the other hand, don't downplay the nastiness of the smell of cigarette smoke. People smell like fuckin ashtrays after they smoke. I used to smoke. Hell I had one last night with my 3 St. Patty's day beers. it's nasty ass smell on someone's mouth... blech

 

[TruePaige]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: SlitheryDee
Well, I'll admit I'd leave off the last sentence in the real event, but what about how this hypothetical SO is treating me? If I keep my smoking outside, chew some gum, and take regular showers the smell is a minor inconvenience that will rarely be noticed. I don't care what anyone else thinks. I'm right and they're all a bunch of whining idiots. It's not that damn bad, yet she expects me to do something about it? Just because she can't stand a subtle whiff maybe twice a day? Please. Nobody is that precious.

By that same logic, if it isn't that big of a deal, you should be willing to give it up in favour of the relationship (with the hypothetical SO).

Unless you could actually see yourself happy when she is gone and you're alone, with your butts. Which is fine too, I'm just sayin.

On the other hand, don't downplay the nastiness of the smell of cigarette smoke. People smell like fuckin ashtrays after they smoke. I used to smoke. Hell I had one last night with my 3 St. Patty's day beers. it's nasty ass smell on someone's mouth... blech

Actually it's her that has the problem with what he is doing, so he would be making the sacrifice for her. It's not bad to do that but if he doesn't want to quit they should compromise and maybe he can step outside or chew some gum like he said.

 

[QueBert]

I let people do whatever they want, my GF smokes Cigars, and it's her choice as an adult. Doesn't matter if I want her to stop or not - for the record I don't care. She enjoys it, so she has no desire to stop. So if I could somehow force her to stop, she wouldn't be doing it for the right reason. We all gotta die sometime, she ENJOYS smoking so I let her, if she comes to me ever saying she wants to quit and is serious I will help her.

 

[SlitheryDee]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: SlitheryDee
Well, I'll admit I'd leave off the last sentence in the real event, but what about how this hypothetical SO is treating me? If I keep my smoking outside, chew some gum, and take regular showers the smell is a minor inconvenience that will rarely be noticed. I don't care what anyone else thinks. I'm right and they're all a bunch of whining idiots. It's not that damn bad, yet she expects me to do something about it? Just because she can't stand a subtle whiff maybe twice a day? Please. Nobody is that precious.

By that same logic, if it isn't that big of a deal, you should be willing to give it up in favour of the relationship (with the hypothetical SO).

Unless you could actually see yourself happy when she is gone and you're alone, with your butts. Which is fine too, I'm just sayin.

On the other hand, don't downplay the nastiness of the smell of cigarette smoke. People smell like fuckin ashtrays after they smoke. I used to smoke. Hell I had one last night with my 3 St. Patty's day beers. it's nasty ass smell on someone's mouth... blech

You misunderstand. Smoking in and of itself IS a big deal. I'm arguing against the reasoning a lot of people use against it. Your SO should want you to quit smoking, but not because their tender little nose is recoiling in disgust. Does no one actually give a shit if their wife/partner lives or dies? Why is it always about ME and how I'M not going to put up with this, because it causes ME some minor problems that aren't lasting and are easily dealt with? In the beginning of that exchange I was recommending that the OP at least put up the appearance of being concerned with his wife's health because he loves her instead of coming off as an anal douchebag who must have everything in his space "just so", including his wife and whatever habits she may have.

Oh and smokers smell really bad for about 1 minute after smoking a cigarette if they are outside in the open air. Unless you're sitting inside and stewing in the smoke hanging in the air the smell DOES go away. The taste cigarettes leave in your mouth is bad but no one else will smell smoke on your breath if you use some kind of freshener.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: TruePaige
People here saying to divorce or threaten to dump her = Fucking Retards.

I say let her do what she wants. You are both separate people with wants and needs.

Nobody sucks dick for cigarette money, who cares? It's just smoking.

So he should then just divorce her 20 or 30 years down the road when the oxygen tank she has to be on 24/7 just isn't cutting it anymore and she simply can't get enough air no matter what she does? Not to mention the increased risk of cancer and stroke?

Fuck that. I will not marry nor date a smoker.