I did exaggerate - I think that should have been obvious. Lots of young families, first time buyers, are caught in a catch-22 situation.
First off, the notions about buying a "starter home" & trading up in a few years went out the window with negative equity & flat to declining prices. Anybody buying a house needs to realize that they may need to keep it for many years. That influences young families to look upscale from 2br/ 1ba scenarios to at least 3br/ 2ba homes, with a corresponding price jump. Schools & commutes figure strongly as well.
Typically this was always about 5-7 years. To me that's more than a few. If you buy today in the right neighborhood (read as middle class and above), you should see an appreciation of the property over the next 7 years. Maybe a bit of a dip here and there. Many of the prime areas have already gotten back on track. The news is mostly spinning Joe Mullet living in a neighborhood where most cars are up on blocks than down on their tires or those that bought the 'McMansions' with liar loans and dreams of a quick flip.
So they need more up front, along with the ability to make bigger payments, and they probably need to come up with closing costs, too. So they're saving money, not borrowing it, which means their FICO score suffers... Not to mention that in many areas prices are still being artificially inflated to the point where they're bumping up against reasonable earnings/ payment ratios.
There are plenty of homes today at $125-150k, traditionally at 2.5x a family income added to lower rates than historically; that median household pulling in $50k a year should be able to get a home with a paltry $4500 down. I haven't seen too many people in 20 years of banking that messed up their credit by saving instead of borrowing. There should be no reason why those looking to buy a home don't have 2-3 credit lines though with higher available balances and a history of taking on some larger balances and paying them off properly.
There still is a large population that believes they should be entitled to live where they dream of though. Many that work in Silicon Valley or NYC have to huff it to work each day or live closer in subpar accommodations. For every guy in NYC that has a $10000 a month studio, there are probably 100 paying a fraction of that in something most college dorms make look bad.
Housing is the one place where all this talk of uncertainty figures in, as well, at least wrt pending financial requirements for lenders. The current Repub sponsored impasse as to the final form of such isn't helping at all. Being cautious today doesn't mean that mortgage originators want to be prevented from raking it in somewhere down the road if another bubble can be conjured up... say, ten years from today.
There is a lot to be said in owning property now and holding it for that rainy day. Banks and investors are indeed being selective in a lot of this. Most of the work-arounds/modifications people are getting are on properties the banks do not want back. The more premium pickings banks are doing less for. Especially those that have paid a lot. People don't do the math so well, but on even a modest $200k home with a typical interest rate of 6%...over the course of 5 years you have paid the bank $60k in interest roughly and $12k in principal, the bank has gotten about 1/3 of what they lent you already that early on.
Those same people now may have lost work totally or now are underemployed...they go south on their payments 6 months or so, rack up $10-20k in past due interest and late fees. The bank offers to lower their payment through a rate reduction and tagging on all the fees to the loan. That $10-20k seems like nothing to most since they are paying less...however that extends the loan out another 30 years and that $10-20k is $30-60k usually if the loan goes full term.
Much of the time they end up with a higher principal than they financed originally.
The thing people miss because they are so desperate to live somewhere is they lost all credit for that original $70k+ they already paid. The banks are really only helping themselves.
Sadly this is why those with good incomes and money in the bank are able to tell the bank to stick it and take the credit hit. However, this is causing animosity with those that cannot and changing a lot of the rules. In the past on a default the bank took your home/car/boat and you lost any money you paid. Today they clipped the bankruptcy laws and allow deficiency judgments in some places...these are all things that make our capitalistic nation less capitalistic and more an oligarchy. This is also why quite a few financial writers are discussing how the middle to lower upper classes are being squeezed out.
The poor love this and the more they gain majority the more they try to vote to help that thinking it's going to help their plight. In the end if the lower upper class becomes low, it's going to paint a terrible picture for those making a fraction of their incomes.