Sounds like you're trying to mix pro equipment with consumer equipment which is going to be a challenge. You'll probably need a mixer or other pre-amp that has both RCA and XLR inputs and outputs so you can mix and match the connection types for your various sources and amps.
Edit: It really sounds like you don't know what the heck the sub is, you say it's probably a HTIB sub, then you say its a PA sub. It's hard to give good advice when the amount of information you give is so conflicting. XLR means nothing, a HTIB might pass a line level signal over the XLR connection to the sub or it might abuse the connection and send an amplified signal that goes through a line level converter within the sub. If it's legitimate pro gear, it's almost guaranteed to be a line level input on the sub, but without knowing more about the equipment than it has an XLR plug and an AC cord it's impossible to tell.