**FINAL UPDATE**
I just got back. In two short words; Happy Ending. My gut feeling was right. There's nothing going on between the two. When I saw her, she was so happy to see me with unusual kisses thrown at my face.
Of course, I didn't like it at the time because my mind was filled with assumptions and bad thoughts.
We ended up going to her mom's swing dance practice and I was waiting for the right moment to bring the issue. I sort of opened the conversation by asking her what's really important in a relationship.
"Openness of course. And honesty" She answered with a smile after a moment of thinking. I took this opportunity to bring up my true feelings. She continued, "I truly believe in honesty and if there's something that needs to be said, then it should be done." I studied her face very carefully as she said this.. Some moments went by, I finally brought it up, "I agree. And I have something to ask you." She looked at me jokingly because she thought I was gonna say something sweet but realized otherwise when she saw my serious face.
"Do you have feelings for anyone?"
She plainly said No. Then we went to series of serious convo about this. I specifically mentioned the kid "Jack" She smiled and said No. She told me it's just one of her friend and she's too crazy about me. Even assured me that Jack is just a close friend of her whom shared that he's still crazy his past ex.
All's well. She was bit insulted later by my suspicion, but appreciated my honesty.. after I sealed and ended the conversation with the following, "Don't be insulted. Honesty is what we truly value in our relationship and I had to get it out of me. And I expect you to do the same if you ever feel insecure about me and someone else."
Rest of the night we spent watching Bourne Identitiy on her lappy and many kisses.
final words for my fellow ATOTers
I was and still am bit startled by how you guys took this so negatively and assumed the worst. Not one of you said, "I'm sure it's all fine." Sure it's always safe to assume the worst but some of you need to get your attitude checked about dating. Not all girls/guys sleep around and fvck around... This isn't the movie Road Trip. And my GF is definitely a keeper
oh yea, about the "i love you" in 'Jack's profile, All's well
she just meant that in a friendly way, "oh jack you're so stupid, i love you ahha" And you guys failed to realize that those comments were one of MANY shout outs.. it's not like it was on his profile by itself.
for more future backfires, I'm not stupid. I know what's right and wrong when I took at her in the eyes... she's just crazy about me.. maybe too crazy
thanks for the support anyways all of u... negative or not.
**UPDATE**
She's here. I'll be picked up by her and her mom. I'm gonna wait til we are alone and ask her if she has feelings for that guy. And im gonna carefully speculate her response and reaction.
I guess it's just one of those days that I feel down and normal things get to me more than usual.
My GF and I are doing great. I'm Jr in college and she just entered as a freshmen. We have a good foundation of our relationship (1 year in one month) and we took my gf entering college as the opportunity to grow stronger towards one another. And everything is working perfectly fine so far.
But there's just one thing that bothers me. It's just probably me but she's met this guy that she's become close to among many other friends she met. Let's just call him.. Jack. I've very happy for her and all. But I gotta admit it's bothering me a bit.
It seems every time I call her, she with Jack. (well not everytime but they hang out a lot) I also got the chance to see him in person when I visited her campus. He seemed like a nice guy and my gf and he had lots of inside jokes and what not. (which kind of made me feel left out)
Today she's gonna visit my campus for the weekend. It's a matter of hours until I see her now.. I checked her AIM away message to see when she might've left and it said, "I'm not here, (IM Jack's SN). OK? So I naturally added Jack into my buddylist. He was also away so I just decided to check his profile. And it read this: (among OTHER shoutout from her buddies)
My GF's SN: you're such a corny ass weidro
My GF's SN: i love you
Eh? I love you? We don't even say "I love you" to one another (because we truly value that word). Probably I'm looking way to much into this.. It's obvious she meant it in a friendly way.. But my honest feelings aren't that great. You know? Put yourself in my shoes. It just bothers me that I don't even say "I love you" to my Female friends yet.. u see..
I don't know.. just want to vent out.. we Are doing great like I mentioned.. just little insecurities I must be going through..
any 3rd opinions? feel free to share Or have you had any experience of jealousy or anything like that toward your GF/BF's Guy/Girl friend???
I just got back. In two short words; Happy Ending. My gut feeling was right. There's nothing going on between the two. When I saw her, she was so happy to see me with unusual kisses thrown at my face.
Of course, I didn't like it at the time because my mind was filled with assumptions and bad thoughts.We ended up going to her mom's swing dance practice and I was waiting for the right moment to bring the issue. I sort of opened the conversation by asking her what's really important in a relationship.
"Openness of course. And honesty" She answered with a smile after a moment of thinking. I took this opportunity to bring up my true feelings. She continued, "I truly believe in honesty and if there's something that needs to be said, then it should be done." I studied her face very carefully as she said this.. Some moments went by, I finally brought it up, "I agree. And I have something to ask you." She looked at me jokingly because she thought I was gonna say something sweet but realized otherwise when she saw my serious face.
"Do you have feelings for anyone?"
She plainly said No. Then we went to series of serious convo about this. I specifically mentioned the kid "Jack" She smiled and said No. She told me it's just one of her friend and she's too crazy about me. Even assured me that Jack is just a close friend of her whom shared that he's still crazy his past ex.
All's well. She was bit insulted later by my suspicion, but appreciated my honesty.. after I sealed and ended the conversation with the following, "Don't be insulted. Honesty is what we truly value in our relationship and I had to get it out of me. And I expect you to do the same if you ever feel insecure about me and someone else."
Rest of the night we spent watching Bourne Identitiy on her lappy and many kisses.
final words for my fellow ATOTers
I was and still am bit startled by how you guys took this so negatively and assumed the worst. Not one of you said, "I'm sure it's all fine." Sure it's always safe to assume the worst but some of you need to get your attitude checked about dating. Not all girls/guys sleep around and fvck around... This isn't the movie Road Trip. And my GF is definitely a keeper
oh yea, about the "i love you" in 'Jack's profile, All's well
she just meant that in a friendly way, "oh jack you're so stupid, i love you ahha" And you guys failed to realize that those comments were one of MANY shout outs.. it's not like it was on his profile by itself.
for more future backfires, I'm not stupid. I know what's right and wrong when I took at her in the eyes... she's just crazy about me.. maybe too crazy
thanks for the support anyways all of u... negative or not.
**UPDATE**
She's here. I'll be picked up by her and her mom. I'm gonna wait til we are alone and ask her if she has feelings for that guy. And im gonna carefully speculate her response and reaction.
I guess it's just one of those days that I feel down and normal things get to me more than usual.
My GF and I are doing great. I'm Jr in college and she just entered as a freshmen. We have a good foundation of our relationship (1 year in one month) and we took my gf entering college as the opportunity to grow stronger towards one another. And everything is working perfectly fine so far.
But there's just one thing that bothers me. It's just probably me but she's met this guy that she's become close to among many other friends she met. Let's just call him.. Jack. I've very happy for her and all. But I gotta admit it's bothering me a bit.
It seems every time I call her, she with Jack. (well not everytime but they hang out a lot) I also got the chance to see him in person when I visited her campus. He seemed like a nice guy and my gf and he had lots of inside jokes and what not. (which kind of made me feel left out)
Today she's gonna visit my campus for the weekend. It's a matter of hours until I see her now.. I checked her AIM away message to see when she might've left and it said, "I'm not here, (IM Jack's SN). OK? So I naturally added Jack into my buddylist. He was also away so I just decided to check his profile. And it read this: (among OTHER shoutout from her buddies)
My GF's SN: you're such a corny ass weidro
My GF's SN: i love you
Eh? I love you? We don't even say "I love you" to one another (because we truly value that word). Probably I'm looking way to much into this.. It's obvious she meant it in a friendly way.. But my honest feelings aren't that great. You know? Put yourself in my shoes. It just bothers me that I don't even say "I love you" to my Female friends yet.. u see..
I don't know.. just want to vent out.. we Are doing great like I mentioned.. just little insecurities I must be going through..
any 3rd opinions? feel free to share Or have you had any experience of jealousy or anything like that toward your GF/BF's Guy/Girl friend???
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