Hm.. Suspicious(?) Jealous(?) of my GF's Guy-friend. **!!FINAL UPDATE I JUST GOT BACK!!**

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Grasshopper27

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Originally posted by: Viper GTS

High school kids are likely in the majority now.

Barring high school kids & those who have had sex, the remainder of the population is the classic geek who won't get laid unless some unsuspecting souls falls in his lap at the porno theater.

Viper GTS

Shoot, I considered myself a bit of a computer geek when I was in high school. Even did some computer work after leaving school while in college. All it takes is being nice and considerate, just talk to girls like people, show an interest in them, etc. It isn't hard, you'd think people with that many brains could figure it out. :)

Or maybe it takes a lack of brains, I don't know...

Grasshopper
 

Grasshopper27

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Originally posted by: DaveSohmer
I was amazed to learn that a few years ago, but it is indeed true. Nothing wrong with it either, but just make sure that you really believe it. Sex is empty and boring when it is just physical, it is the most wonderful thing when between two people truly in love. In or out of marriage, love makes it better.

Oh gee, I think I might cry.

Why, what did I say? :D

Truthfully, I made the mistake of having sex when I was younger, just for the sake of having sex. Sure, it is fun for 15 minutes (err, how about 45 minutes, yea that sounds better), but after that, what is the point?

Speaking from more recent experience, when you're in love, that great feeling stays with you long after the night is over...

Grasshopper
 

Red Dawn

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Originally posted by: grasshopper26
Originally posted by: Viper GTS

High school kids are likely in the majority now.

Barring high school kids & those who have had sex, the remainder of the population is the classic geek who won't get laid unless some unsuspecting souls falls in his lap at the porno theater.

Viper GTS

Shoot, I considered myself a bit of a computer geek when I was in high school. Even did some computer work after leaving school while in college. All it takes is being nice and considerate, just talk to girls like people, show an interest in them, etc. It isn't hard, you'd think people with that many brains could figure it out. :)

Or maybe it takes a lack of brains, I don't know...

Grasshopper
For guys like you it helps if you bath regularly!
 

Orsorum

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: grasshopper26
Originally posted by: Viper GTS

High school kids are likely in the majority now.

Barring high school kids & those who have had sex, the remainder of the population is the classic geek who won't get laid unless some unsuspecting souls falls in his lap at the porno theater.

Viper GTS

Shoot, I considered myself a bit of a computer geek when I was in high school. Even did some computer work after leaving school while in college. All it takes is being nice and considerate, just talk to girls like people, show an interest in them, etc. It isn't hard, you'd think people with that many brains could figure it out. :)

Or maybe it takes a lack of brains, I don't know...

Grasshopper
For guys like you it helps if you bath regularly!

What is this "bath" you speak of?
 

Viper GTS

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
High school kids are likely in the majority now.

Barring high school kids & those who have had sex, the remainder of the population is the classic geek who won't get laid unless some unsuspecting souls falls in his lap at the porno theater.

Viper GTS
Hehehe.. If I weren't so lazy I would look in the Archives for some of your posts regarding this issue Greg. I seem to recall you were one of those who was going to wait. Things seem to change with time huh?:)

Until you showed up that night I'd had every intention of waiting...

:eek:

In all seriousness, though, I had planned on waiting. A lot changes in three years though. I didn't attempt to force my preference on anyone then, & I don't now.

I do have to say, though, sex & the loss of virginity is highly overrated.

Viper GTS
 

glen

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
High school kids are likely in the majority now.

Barring high school kids & those who have had sex, the remainder of the population is the classic geek who won't get laid unless some unsuspecting souls falls in his lap at the porno theater.

Viper GTS
Hehehe.. If I weren't so lazy I would look in the Archives for some of your posts regarding this issue Greg. I seem to recall you were one of those who was going to wait. Things seem to change with time huh?:)

Oh say it isn't so!
I am just now coming to terms with Brook Sheilds loosing her virginity.
Britney's daliance has put me over the edge.
Greg you are our last hope!
Don't give in!
Save it man!

 

Orsorum

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Originally posted by: glen

Oh say it isn't so!
I am just now coming to terms with Brook Sheilds loosing her virginity.
Britney's daliance has put me over the edge.
Greg you are our last hope!
Don't give in!
Save it man!

Don't dig in? :confused:
 

Grasshopper27

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn

For guys like you it helps if you bath regularly!

Hahaha...

So true, so true...

Now that I think about it, some computer guys don't take great care of themselves, do they. A shower once a day is the least I can stand, sometimes I need two a day. I like to be squeeky clean! :)

Grasshopper
 

Noriaki

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Jack wants to bang her.

The question is, does she want to bang him?

Go find that thread about the ladder...it will explain everything.
 

Soybomb

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Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
High school kids are likely in the majority now.

Barring high school kids & those who have had sex, the remainder of the population is the classic geek who won't get laid unless some unsuspecting souls falls in his lap at the porno theater.

Viper GTS
Hehehe.. If I weren't so lazy I would look in the Archives for some of your posts regarding this issue Greg. I seem to recall you were one of those who was going to wait. Things seem to change with time huh?:)

Until you showed up that night I'd had every intention of waiting...

:eek:

In all seriousness, though, I had planned on waiting. A lot changes in three years though. I didn't attempt to force my preference on anyone then, & I don't now.

I do have to say, though, sex & the loss of virginity is highly overrated.

Viper GTS

Wow I feel left out, I had no idea gregg ;) :D Seriously though all that talk about how important it is and now its just "'eh alot changes." Just surprising :)

Anyway, yes it sounds like she has another guy. My condolences, I've been there before.



 

Red Dawn

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Originally posted by: BoberFett
Originally posted by: Viper GTS
I do have to say, though, sex & the loss of virginity is highly overrated.

Viper GTS

You must have done it wrong.

Yeah try it with a women next time instead of ffmcobalt:)
 

Muadib

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Originally posted by: BoberFett
Originally posted by: Viper GTS
I do have to say, though, sex & the loss of virginity is highly overrated.

Viper GTS

You must have done it wrong.

Yeah, practice until you get it right.
 

timelapse

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My experience.... Jack likes her and wants her. She is interested in the bait, but hasn't fallen for it yet.

My recommendation: get her a DELL!!! :D she will be so amazed by the pure performace of the system, and free dvd upgrade or cd burner, she will forget about "jack" ;)
 

Gomce

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buy sn1per and waste her @ least then she will be always with you...in your heart


:p




















j/k of course ;)
 

Muadib

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Originally posted by: LOLyourFace
WTF? I was expecting more supportive replies. She doesn't sleep around. Neither of us have had sex yet.

Could someone else give me some more in-depth opinion?

Well, my question is, do you trust her? I think we already know the answer, or you would not have made this thread. However, she doesn't know, at least not yet. Don't ruin it, by asking a questiion she can't answer to your liking. You need to do some digging away from her. Talk to her roomie, alone if you can. I'm sure at least one of her high school friends went to the same college, talk with them. Making a big issue over this could play right into Jack's hands.
 

kami

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Well, I can't say if she has been fooling around or not, but it's already a given that he's hanging out with her so much because he's got a little crush. I've been in Jack's position and I'm sure tons of you have too...

sorry dude.

Good luck though...can't really generalize without knowing the whole story.
 

Tallgeese

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I was in both your shoes and "Jack's" shoes at one time or another...and all I can say is...tread lightly.
Accusing her of cheating is a SURE-FIRE way of driving her away (and probably into his shorts).
I've both been the winner (comforting the girl) and the loser (accusing the girl) after such a confrontation.

Good way to play it: Be civil, but not overly friendly.
The in-jokes...VERY bad sign. Let her know it makes you feel distant from her.
If she isn't interested AT ALL in spending time with you (and ONLY you) when you two see each other...assume that the train has already left the station.
Also realize that she may already too far gone with this dude, and be prepared to cut your losses, if you don't wanna get played BADLY.

But if she isn't too far gone, I'll tell you the fastest way to snap her back to reality...
Get yourself a female "buddy" much like "Jack" is to her.

GREAT GOOGLY MOOGLY...but the sex is OUTTASIGHT when your gf/wife/whatever is out to rub it in some real (or imagined) competition's face. :D

BTW: The situation in college where I was "Jack" ended badly.
She went back to her boyfriend, after having sex with both of us, on and off, for a good six months.
She was roommates with my roommate's gf, which made certain things awkward.

She actually found me via the Internet about 6 months ago and wanted to meet...until she found out I was married :p.
Her situation?
Married (not to her bf from back then) for 7 years...now divorced (about a year)...and in a relationship with someone at work (wonderful idea there).
I count myself VERY fortunate.

Of course, Mrs. Tallgeese still wanted to stomp her @ss, because, as always....


MRS. TALLGEESE = BADASS
 

richardycc

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if I were you, I would not even confront her, just play dumb, and show her a good time when she is with you. If she is the right one, she will stay faithful, if not, its probably not a big lost anyway.

good luck!
rich
 

iamshady

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Good luck, I know what it's like from your end, not Jack's. It definitely sounds messed up, especially if he is broadcasting that as his away message. You should get to the bottom of this ASAP, it'll save you a lot of grief down the road.
 

LOLyourFace

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**FINAL UPDATE**
I just got back. In two short words; Happy Ending. My gut feeling was right. There's nothing going on between the two. When I saw her, she was so happy to see me with unusual kisses thrown at my face. ;) Of course, I didn't like it at the time because my mind was filled with assumptions and bad thoughts.
We ended up going to her mom's swing dance practice and I was waiting for the right moment to bring the issue. I sort of opened the conversation by asking her what's really important in a relationship.

"Openness of course. And honesty" She answered with a smile after a moment of thinking. I took this opportunity to bring up my true feelings. She continued, "I truly believe in honesty and if there's something that needs to be said, then it should be done." I studied her face very carefully as she said this.. Some moments went by, I finally brought it up, "I agree. And I have something to ask you." She looked at me jokingly because she thought I was gonna say something sweet but realized otherwise when she saw my serious face.
"Do you have feelings for anyone?"

She plainly said No. Then we went to series of serious convo about this. She was bit insulted at first but appreciated my honesty.. after I sealed and ended the conversation with the following, "Don't be insulted. Honesty is what we truly value in our relationship and I had to get it out of me. And I expect you to do the same if you ever feel insecure about me and someone else."

Rest of the night we spent watching Bourne Identitiy on her lappy and many kisses. ;)

final words for my fellow ATOTers
I was and still am bit startled by how you guys took this so negatively and assumed the worst. Not one of you said, "I'm sure it's all fine." Sure it's always safe to assume the worst but some of you need to get your attitude checked about dating. Not all girls/guys sleep around and fvck around... This isn't the movie Road Trip. And my GF is definitely a keeper :D