with the girl that i was trying to start something more than a freindship with 
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what the he11 am i doing wrong?!
stev0 <-
...what the he11 am i doing wrong?!
stev0 <-
hey look guys, i just made another 'friend'
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Dude, nothing wrong with that.... I've started out as friends with most of the girls I have been with.
It's just the way I do it.. it's not like I know them all my life... just get to know them a little better first.
It's just the way I do it.. it's not like I know them all my life... just get to know them a little better first.
Originally posted by: Yield
Dude, nothing wrong with that.... I've started out as friends with most of the girls I have been with.
It's just the way I do it.. it's not like I know them all my life... just get to know them a little better first.
That actually works sometimes.
Originally posted by: Zakath15
Originally posted by: Yield
Dude, nothing wrong with that.... I've started out as friends with most of the girls I have been with.
It's just the way I do it.. it's not like I know them all my life... just get to know them a little better first.
That actually works sometimes.
Yeah take it from me, it helps...although for some reason I end up being better friends with them after the breakup...sad...
Originally posted by: stev0
with the girl that i was trying to start something more than a freindship with
what the he11 am i doing wrong?!
stev0 <-
By "trying to start something more than a freindship with" you really mean "doing the same basic stuff I'd do with my male friends: I never tried to touch her, or kiss her, or tell her that I liked her, but instead acted the same as if she had been male, except more nervous", right?
this is the third thread i've found you raging on today cobalt
Neo-Nazism, Star Wars and now...stev0's girl problems lol.
Originally posted by: Zugzwang152
Originally posted by: Zakath15
Originally posted by: Yield
Dude, nothing wrong with that.... I've started out as friends with most of the girls I have been with.
It's just the way I do it.. it's not like I know them all my life... just get to know them a little better first.
That actually works sometimes.
Yeah take it from me, it helps...although for some reason I end up being better friends with them after the breakup...sad...
so there still might be hope??!!
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
with the girl that i was trying to start something more than a freindship with
what the he11 am i doing wrong?!
stev0 <-
By "trying to start something more than a freindship with" you really mean "doing the same basic stuff I'd do with my male friends: I never tried to touch her, or kiss her, or tell her that I liked her, but instead acted the same as if she had been male, except more nervous", right?
pretty much
there's always hope, just how you play the game that determines when you get the rewards
the only thing I find hopeless is keeping track of nik flame-ups...
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
with the girl that i was trying to start something more than a freindship with
what the he11 am i doing wrong?!
stev0 <-
By "trying to start something more than a freindship with" you really mean "doing the same basic stuff I'd do with my male friends: I never tried to touch her, or kiss her, or tell her that I liked her, but instead acted the same as if she had been male, except more nervous", right?
pretty much
When you're thinking "Hmm, I wonder if I can put my hand on her shoulder, do you think she'll mind? I wonder what she'll think... Will she like it?" you'd better be 15 years old.
Women like to be touched. If you take them out on a date, make it clear that it's a date. They won't be afraid to have you put your arm around them or hold thier hand. If the date goes well, it's not uncommon to get a goodnight kiss at the end.
You have to be more assertive, and make your intentions known.
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
with the girl that i was trying to start something more than a freindship with
what the he11 am i doing wrong?!
stev0 <-
By "trying to start something more than a freindship with" you really mean "doing the same basic stuff I'd do with my male friends: I never tried to touch her, or kiss her, or tell her that I liked her, but instead acted the same as if she had been male, except more nervous", right?
pretty much
When you're thinking "Hmm, I wonder if I can put my hand on her shoulder, do you think she'll mind? I wonder what she'll think... Will she like it?" you'd better be 15 years old.
Women like to be touched. If you take them out on a date, make it clear that it's a date. They won't be afraid to have you put your arm around them or hold thier hand. If the date goes well, it's not uncommon to get a goodnight kiss at the end.
You have to be more assertive, and make your intentions known.
i know this, that whole thought process dosen't go through my head. she's already told me that she dosen't like the guys that are all 'touchy feely' ... so i figured that it would be in my best interests if i didn't go that route.. right?
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
with the girl that i was trying to start something more than a freindship with
what the he11 am i doing wrong?!
stev0 <-
By "trying to start something more than a freindship with" you really mean "doing the same basic stuff I'd do with my male friends: I never tried to touch her, or kiss her, or tell her that I liked her, but instead acted the same as if she had been male, except more nervous", right?
pretty much
When you're thinking "Hmm, I wonder if I can put my hand on her shoulder, do you think she'll mind? I wonder what she'll think... Will she like it?" you'd better be 15 years old.
Women like to be touched. If you take them out on a date, make it clear that it's a date. They won't be afraid to have you put your arm around them or hold thier hand. If the date goes well, it's not uncommon to get a goodnight kiss at the end.
You have to be more assertive, and make your intentions known.
i know this, that whole thought process dosen't go through my head. she's already told me that she dosen't like the guys that are all 'touchy feely' ... so i figured that it would be in my best interests if i didn't go that route.. right?
putting your arm around her on a date isn't "touchy feely". That would be when you try to feel her up in the movie theater.
The fact is, you never communicated to her that you wanted to be more than friends, so she didn't know that. If you don't want to touch her, you're welcome to just tell her how much you like her.
Anyway, if she really didn't want to be touched AT ALL, you wouldn't want her as a girlfriend anyway.
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
with the girl that i was trying to start something more than a freindship with
what the he11 am i doing wrong?!
stev0 <-
By "trying to start something more than a freindship with" you really mean "doing the same basic stuff I'd do with my male friends: I never tried to touch her, or kiss her, or tell her that I liked her, but instead acted the same as if she had been male, except more nervous", right?
pretty much
When you're thinking "Hmm, I wonder if I can put my hand on her shoulder, do you think she'll mind? I wonder what she'll think... Will she like it?" you'd better be 15 years old.
Women like to be touched. If you take them out on a date, make it clear that it's a date. They won't be afraid to have you put your arm around them or hold thier hand. If the date goes well, it's not uncommon to get a goodnight kiss at the end.
You have to be more assertive, and make your intentions known.
i know this, that whole thought process dosen't go through my head. she's already told me that she dosen't like the guys that are all 'touchy feely' ... so i figured that it would be in my best interests if i didn't go that route.. right?
putting your arm around her on a date isn't "touchy feely". That would be when you try to feel her up in the movie theater.
The fact is, you never communicated to her that you wanted to be more than friends, so she didn't know that. If you don't want to touch her, you're welcome to just tell her how much you like her.
Anyway, if she really didn't want to be touched AT ALL, you wouldn't want her as a girlfriend anyway.
that is the route that i took
...Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
with the girl that i was trying to start something more than a freindship with
what the he11 am i doing wrong?!
stev0 <-
By "trying to start something more than a freindship with" you really mean "doing the same basic stuff I'd do with my male friends: I never tried to touch her, or kiss her, or tell her that I liked her, but instead acted the same as if she had been male, except more nervous", right?
pretty much
When you're thinking "Hmm, I wonder if I can put my hand on her shoulder, do you think she'll mind? I wonder what she'll think... Will she like it?" you'd better be 15 years old.
Women like to be touched. If you take them out on a date, make it clear that it's a date. They won't be afraid to have you put your arm around them or hold thier hand. If the date goes well, it's not uncommon to get a goodnight kiss at the end.
You have to be more assertive, and make your intentions known.
i know this, that whole thought process dosen't go through my head. she's already told me that she dosen't like the guys that are all 'touchy feely' ... so i figured that it would be in my best interests if i didn't go that route.. right?
putting your arm around her on a date isn't "touchy feely". That would be when you try to feel her up in the movie theater.
The fact is, you never communicated to her that you wanted to be more than friends, so she didn't know that. If you don't want to touch her, you're welcome to just tell her how much you like her.
Anyway, if she really didn't want to be touched AT ALL, you wouldn't want her as a girlfriend anyway.
that is the route that i took
So, what did you say, and what did she say, and how many months did you let a friendship develop before you tried it?
True.
It means that either she is suffering from some bad past experience or it is an indirect way of saying, "I have no interests in you." Or she is just one of those "play hard to get" or one of those who do like you but convince themselves somehow that they don't. Or one of those who kinda liked you but as soon as they find hints that you like her, she loses interest.
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: stev0
with the girl that i was trying to start something more than a freindship with
what the he11 am i doing wrong?!
stev0 <-
By "trying to start something more than a freindship with" you really mean "doing the same basic stuff I'd do with my male friends: I never tried to touch her, or kiss her, or tell her that I liked her, but instead acted the same as if she had been male, except more nervous", right?
pretty much
When you're thinking "Hmm, I wonder if I can put my hand on her shoulder, do you think she'll mind? I wonder what she'll think... Will she like it?" you'd better be 15 years old.
Women like to be touched. If you take them out on a date, make it clear that it's a date. They won't be afraid to have you put your arm around them or hold thier hand. If the date goes well, it's not uncommon to get a goodnight kiss at the end.
You have to be more assertive, and make your intentions known.
i know this, that whole thought process dosen't go through my head. she's already told me that she dosen't like the guys that are all 'touchy feely' ... so i figured that it would be in my best interests if i didn't go that route.. right?
putting your arm around her on a date isn't "touchy feely". That would be when you try to feel her up in the movie theater.
The fact is, you never communicated to her that you wanted to be more than friends, so she didn't know that. If you don't want to touch her, you're welcome to just tell her how much you like her.
Anyway, if she really didn't want to be touched AT ALL, you wouldn't want her as a girlfriend anyway.
that is the route that i took
So, what did you say, and what did she say, and how many months did you let a friendship develop before you tried it?
i told her how i felt about her (need spacifics?)
she said she wasent' ready for another guy in her life and just wants to be really good friends, how i'm a really great person and i'm her best guy friend...
about 4.5 / 5 months
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