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Help me get over this Girl Before it KILLS ME

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I don't know if I can really help, but here goes.

I met this girl in 11th grade physics. That was 3 years ago. She had a boyfriend then and I didn't feel any pressing motivation to ask her out or anything at the time. Over then next year I saw her occasionally and I wanted to be with her - however, I lost my balls and never said anything. Then one nite about a year ago my neighbor shows up with her. They were just chilling out and came over and we all talked for about an hour. She was still going out with the same guy, however they seemed to be drifting away from oneanother. Over the next few weeks my neighbor and her continued to drop by and it compounded my feelings for her 10x over what I thought I had.

Well, I couldn't take it and I told her how I felt in an email. She told me she was still happy with her current boyfriend and that I was "a good friend". Well I continued to write her as she went off to college and got to know her more and all that good stuff. Then, she had a messy breakup with him early this year. I had been at my new job for a few months and I had really changed from when she last saw me and we picked up the email talk again - but she still wanted to be friends. That was what I expected. Well, she came home for the summer. I traded a few emails with her and she asked to hang out with me and the guys one nite. So we did. 3 days later she asked ME out. I didn't know what to say.

When she first told me she had a boyfriend, I was sickened. I felt like you did (not to so great an extent). I tried and tried to get her out of my head and I couldn't. Nothing worked. After about 6 months of not seeing her and not really talking to her I had begun to shake her out of my mind, but that still hurt. It just takes time. Its not going to be easy, but no girl is ever worth taking your own life for. I had that feeling at one point also. I barely ate. I walked around all depressed. Just keep in mind that it will get better.

As for me, I've been dating her for 2 months now. I'm a lucky bastard and I'm still wondering if I prayed in the right direction, did something right in the last life, bowed to the god, whatever. All I can say is that time makes everything better and, but its the wait that makes it all worthwile.

Play some CS, Q3A, whatever, just know that it isn't the end of the world. I wish you the best 🙂
 


<< commmonn..someone else has experienced this before, what the heck do i do? >>


Being a teenager sucks, dude. What you have to do is realize that the fantasy of being with that girl and the reality of it are too different things. She is just a girl and there are many more like her. Make an extra effort to talk to other girls for a while and your pain will soon be gone.
 
Good luck with that bud...it really sux that this girl has a boyfriend, but unless she's engaged, there's always hope. I know that this is much easier said that done, but try to concentrate on other things and maintain your distance from her for a bit until you think you can be around her at just a friends level...then you will at least be able to become friends with her and who knows..perhaps even more. If you attempt to display all your feelings to her right now...while she's happy with her current boyfriend, it will probably blow up in your face...but down the line...anything's possible.
 
i feel your pain frover2000,

im going through the same thing, and i think i made the wrong decision about being her friend.

basically, whats happened is that she thinks of me as a &quot;good friend&quot; and nothing more, and she even brought me to hang out with her and her boyfriend and all of his friends. Its really awkward for me to see her and her boyfriend together. I can't stand it, but i realize that i probably will never be able to &quot;date&quot; her anymore cause i got too close as a true friend.

just try concentrating on other thjngs like building up your body or join a karate school. basically what it comes down to it...dont think about it...the more you think about it the harder it is to get out of that hole.

hope that helps.
 
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