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Help me get over this Girl Before it KILLS ME

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frover2000

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Over the last couple months i've grown strong feelings for a girl and just recently i found out she has a boyfriend. When i found out about this i was totally devastated and i almost threw up. The most shocking part is that i never thought the feelings were this strong until now. Now i just can't stop thing about her, i can't eat, i just want the pain to end, so please give some advice on what to do..
 
As if we even need to tell you but in the future find those sorts of things out before you lose your mind over her, and does she have feelings for you? If so maybe she will leave him, if not and you are just sort of obsessing over her then I guess all you can do is put your mind on other things and deal.
 
Keep busy with friends and work, if you're not already doing some phyical activity (biking, jogging, etc.) now would be a good time to start.
 
Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot you can do since she's got a boyfriend.

Time will make it easier, and to help it pass, try going out and doing things, whether it be mow the law of catch a movie.
 


<< commmonn..someone else has experienced this before, what the heck do i do? >>




get over it with time, sorry not much more to it.
 
Talk to her, let her know how you feel if you haven't already. Hopefully she'll have some kind words to help ease the pain. Show her there's someone else around in case she leaves her man 🙂 Just DON'T become &quot;a good friend&quot;, you'll never be her man that way! 🙂
 


<< you need to get laid. Find another girl and this one will be just a memory.. >>



agreed. you don't necessarily need to get laid, but just find another girl to get your mind off this one. There are plenty of girls out there bud.
 
PARTY!!! with girls, drink tequila... buy the girls tequila...

Then you do what Emulex suggested...

Works for me, every time..

Patrick
 
Pretend that you are the one that actually wanted to leave...that would help w/ the feeling of rejection.



Letting it go is the best advice....short, but true...

Someone could go into a long winded eloquent expalnation, but in the end the advice would be to let it go. How you get there is up to you, but that's what needs to be done.
 
This sort of thing hasnt happened to me in a long time, but I used to find that the thing to do was go to the gym.

I have found few things that were better motivation to get into better shape, or really hit the weights hard (if you're into that.)

In other words - divert these strong feelings into a useful/production direction. That way they can benifit you instead of driving you nuts.

-jothaxe
 


<< This sort of thing hasnt happened to me in a long time, but I used to find that the thing to do was go to the gym. >>



That's funny, i usually train for five days a week, but when my first love left me, i could not train, no power...

Nowdays, i can train even with a hangover, but that comes with experience i guess...

Patrick
 
I experienced this quite recently (though I never got to the point of suicide). A long story, cut short, I liked this girl who didn't like me back.

I was devastated when she told me.

Needless to say, I was very hurt and for a few days after, I felt like I would never ever feel better again.

But that was a couple weeks ago and things are much brighter. The girl and I have become pretty good friends, despite the fact she rejected me.

The best thing would be to go find another girl. It was advice given from a friend that I thought was so ridiculous (&quot;How could I just let go of my feelings&quot; and stuff like that), but it really helps a lot.

You'll always have these tough times, but you'll learn to grow from it.

Sorry to use that cliche, but phrases like that become cliche because they are so useful.

Besides, no girl is worth your life.
 
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