Help me get a GF:) when college starts in september. Tips advice all are welcome.

[Dacalo]

Originally posted by: Jehovah

Originally posted by: KGB
Have some facial hair... 2 days without shaving gives me a good rugged look. Must wear good clothes.. get some nice shoes khaki/dress pants, nice shirt (usually lacoste, izod, armani, kenneth cole), wear cologne, have a hip though ergonimic school bag.. and do good in school. Girls notice who does well in classes and participates. I see it work for a LOT of guys in my university... but for...

I am the total anthesesis of that myself. I'm a jean, t shirt.. same ol' reebok sneakers type of guy. With a light beard and long hair. and I have no girl.. I AM SURE if you do the opposite of me you'll get a nice girl. As for myself.. when I try hard enough they will come to me... as of now.. i have no need for a gf.

He's asian - he won't have facial hair no matter how long he lets it 'grow' - all that'll do is leave some black peachfuzz . . .trust me.

I am asian and I have full facial hair. I mean side burn to side burn.

I guess I am a "freak" asian but girls dig it

 

[tokamak]

one word: confidence.

 

[luckydragon]

i think underground727's words are totally true

 

[DJFuji]

Originally posted by: Underground727
Blah, I can't pass this up...

1. You will know right away if she likes you. She will flirt with you, tell you she finds you attractive, and touch you when it is not necessary. I have yet to meet one of the really pretty ones that was shy. But if she is shy(ugly to mildly attractive), one of her friends will let you know shortly after you have met her.

2. If you can't tell if she likes you, she doesn't.

3. If you can't tell if she likes you, do not make friends with her. It will only push you farther away from her p*ssy. She will want to discuss her boyfriends with you. Making friends with a girl that does not feel the same way about you as you feel about her will only end up hurting you very badly.

...

Ok, now...

1. Start working out and running, just get yourself in shape.
2. Spend time outside and get a tan, girls don't like pasty geeks.
3. Get a job so you can have spending money, you don't have to be rich, but you can't be broke.
4. Ask some attractive girls you know to go shopping with you and have them help you pick out clothes.
5. Get a car or a motorcycle, motorcycles are great for atracting female attention.
6. Find a good places to meet new girls you don't know.
7. Don't be scared of girls, they can tell if you aren't confident.

Once you have met a possible girl try somehow to end up beside her and try to hold her hand. Depending on how she reacts, try to maybe put your arm around her or something. When you get a chance to be alone, tell her some ish about why you like her and try to kiss her. It's cake from there...

Dude, you are one jaded motherfvcker. Your advice can either make nanyangview be a) a PIMP if he can pull if off, or b) a loser who's TRYING to be a pimp, but failing miserably.

nanyangview, first of all, you need to stop coming to tech forums to get advice on girls. Have you seen how many virgins there are here? haha

Anyway, i think all this advice is irrelevant because we don't know what you're looking for. Are you looking for a long term relationship? to be a pimp with 4 girlfriends? a gf just for sex? We can't really help if we don't know what you're after. All of this advice is like religion: you can support any claim you want to on its basis. i.e. if you're looking for one night stands, you'll need different advice than if you're looking for a long term relationship.

 

[simms]

Same situation as you.. except the girl problems.

I'm going to UT for Chemical Engineering this Fall, St. Mike's Rez. Hope to see you there! I know a few others on ATOT that are also at UT right now. Where's Rhombuss?
Oh. I'm also Asian.. wait, that means you're potential COMPETITION! What am I thinking.. lol Yes, you know UT is all competition.. and it's true. Oh. And don't plan to drink, we don't have IDs, because we're 18... so no drinking.. technically.

-Simon

 

[nanyangview]

if u hold her hand or hug her or put ur hand around her shoulder, what if she sues u for sexual harrassment? i am talking about those girls u knew. Not complete strangers

 

[jagr10]

Take the honest approach. Say "hi, my name is ______, i'm a virgin, would you like to have sex with me?"

BTW, i've been to UofT and there aren't many hot chicks in science classes. Since your asian i know you're going into sciences or engineering so don't expect any babes. If you want some hot chicks you need to go into philosophy or english or sociology.

 

[LS20]

1. get off anandtech

 

[Lager]

Look for Kristin Kreuk, find her, then tell her I'm available.

 

[Konigin]

What turns a girl on/off? I heard Mr. Nice guys don't work for girls and will just leave you in the "Friends" zone.

Well, most girls don't like guys who are real jerks either, act like too much of a jerk and you'll never even get into the "friend zone."

 

[NewSc2]

Seriously I'll tell you this:

1. work out
2. get tan
3. learn how to flirt
4. be confident (most important)

That's about it. If you just work out and get tan and flirt, you'll just be a wannabe loser. You need confidence, and by that I mean don't look like you're desperate. Get out there and be headstrong and if a girl likes you and you don't like her back ditch her and go for a girl you like. It'll work.

 

[NewSc2]

Originally posted by: NewSc2
Seriously I'll tell you this:

1. work out
2. get tan
3. learn how to flirt
4. be confident (most important)

That's about it. If you just work out and get tan and flirt, you'll just be a wannabe loser. You need confidence, and by that I mean don't look like you're desperate. Get out there and be headstrong and if a girl likes you and you don't like her back ditch her and go for a girl you like. It'll work.

Oh yeah spend about $600 on a nice wardrobe too. It'll last the whole year. i.e. backpack/shoes/hats/boxers (tighty whities are out)/pants/shorts/shirts. If you don't know what to buy, go to uh. (i would say PacSun but i don't think they have any in Toronto)... go to Abercrombie & Fitch and GAP and Express for Men and find some stuff.

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: nanyangview
Me turned 18 this year and is going to universtity(freshman) this fall. I am in Canada, so me going to Uni of Toronto.
Never dated/went out or had a GF before. Hmmm maybe i am too much of a computer geek. I want this to change when i enter uni and have a LIFE. AND YES, i am looking for a asian/chinese girl since i am Asian too.


So basically how do i build more confidence when talking or dealing with girls?
What turns a girl on/off? I heard Mr. Nice guys don't work for girls and will just leave you in the "Friends" zone. So for all u experienced veterans here, please help me out and give me some invaluable advices plz. THanks

you'd get more action if you weren't limiting yourself to just asian girls.

 

[simms]

Asians are plentiful in the GTA. Don't worry about it.

 

[CrazyDe1]

Originally posted by: tokamak
one word: confidence.

No, everyone says this but that's only half the story. Here's how it really works. If you're a hot guy and you're cocky, chicks will think it's confidence and dig you. If you're an average guy and have confidence, it works some of the time. If you're not attractive and have confidence, chicks will take it as you being cocky.

The difference between cocky and confident is how attractive the guy is in most cases. If you're not attractive and try to ask a girl out and you're confident about it she'll think you're cocky. I know 2 guys who are basically the same personality and hang out with each other all the time. They're into the alternative punk scene and have their own ways of dressing. 1 guy who is considered very attractive by girls..they want him more becuase they think he's got his own unique style and does his own thing. Guy 2 isn't attractive but not ugly does the exact thing as guy 1 buy chicks think he's weird and don't want to associate with him because of his goth style.

What does work is if you do the frat boy abercrombie, spiked hair look. If you're halfway decent and can pull the image off chicks will completely go for it.

Listen to underground. That cat KNOWS.

 

[NewSc2]

Originally posted by: nanyangview

So basically how do i build more confidence when talking or dealing with girls?
What turns a girl on/off? I heard Mr. Nice guys don't work for girls and will just leave you in the "Friends" zone. So for all u experienced veterans here, please help me out and give me some invaluable advices plz. THanks

How do you build confidence? Start talking to girls more. Talk to girls on AIM, talk to girls who kinda/sorta know you and/or your group of friends.

Mr. Nice Guy doesn't really work, but Mr. Mean Guy doesn't either.

You really have to be headstrong and not bend over backwards for a girl. I'm nice to girls, and I'm not a bonafied pimp or anything, but I have gone out with several girls since high school, and generally all the girls I'm attracted to are the girls that are attracted to me. I act myself around girls, but I am generally pretty outgoing. I try to be generous and I have my own hobbies that always bring up interesting things to talk about (music, cooking, dining), and I follow politics and sports as well. Also having a good sense of humor doesn't hurt, and being active in school - joining clubs/leading clubs, getting good grades, are all pluses.

Edit: Chicks dig guys who can bring up interesting conversations. I've talked about music structure/jazz, how to poach fish, religion, and how much girls suck (those are the best conversations) with girls and my dates always go well

 

[CrazyDe1]

Originally posted by: Jehovah

Originally posted by: AnyMal
It's rather easy. Here are three simple steps:

Step 1. Find a girl you like.

Step 2. Approach her and say "Hi, my name is ______. Would you like to have some coffee (juice/tea/water/drugs) with me?

Step 3. If she replies with "no" simply go back to Step 1 and try again.

That wasn't so hard, wasn't it?

Hmm, with the same girl? Does it work like in older video games That goes somthing like:

Princess: Do you love me?

Hero: No

Princess: But you must! Do you love me?

Hero: No

Princess: But you . . ..

Your ideology and theories interest me. I wish to subscribe to your newsletter.

hahahaahahahaahahahah oh man, that just made my night. That's from old school dragon warrior right? I remember as a kid spending like an hour straight hoping to keep saying no and hope she accepted.

Dost thou love me?
No
But Thou must!!!!

 

[NewSc2]

Originally posted by: CrazyDe1

Originally posted by: Jehovah

Originally posted by: AnyMal
It's rather easy. Here are three simple steps:

Step 1. Find a girl you like.

Step 2. Approach her and say "Hi, my name is ______. Would you like to have some coffee (juice/tea/water/drugs) with me?

Step 3. If she replies with "no" simply go back to Step 1 and try again.

That wasn't so hard, wasn't it?

Hmm, with the same girl? Does it work like in older video games That goes somthing like:

Princess: Do you love me?

Hero: No

Princess: But you must! Do you love me?

Hero: No

Princess: But you . . ..

Your ideology and theories interest me. I wish to subscribe to your newsletter.

hahahaahahahaahahahah oh man, that just made my night. That's from old school dragon warrior right? I remember as a kid spending like an hour straight hoping to keep saying no and hope she accepted.

Dost thou love me?
No
But Thou must!!!!

lol wtf what console was this game on it sounds... interesting...

 

[CrazyDe1]

Originally posted by: NewSc2

Originally posted by: CrazyDe1

Originally posted by: Jehovah

Originally posted by: AnyMal
It's rather easy. Here are three simple steps:

Step 1. Find a girl you like.

Step 2. Approach her and say "Hi, my name is ______. Would you like to have some coffee (juice/tea/water/drugs) with me?

Step 3. If she replies with "no" simply go back to Step 1 and try again.

That wasn't so hard, wasn't it?

Hmm, with the same girl? Does it work like in older video games That goes somthing like:

Princess: Do you love me?

Hero: No

Princess: But you must! Do you love me?

Hero: No

Princess: But you . . ..

Your ideology and theories interest me. I wish to subscribe to your newsletter.

hahahaahahahaahahahah oh man, that just made my night. That's from old school dragon warrior right? I remember as a kid spending like an hour straight hoping to keep saying no and hope she accepted.

Dost thou love me?
No
But Thou must!!!!

lol wtf what console was this game on it sounds... interesting...

Old school NES. Oh man...there were so many great moments in that game...like at the end when you get to the final boss he offers to share half the world with you if you give up your quest heh

 

[FrontlineWarrior]

Originally posted by: jagr10
Take the honest approach. Say "hi, my name is ______, i'm a virgin, would you like to have sex with me?"

BTW, i've been to UofT and there aren't many hot chicks in science classes. Since your asian i know you're going into sciences or engineering so don't expect any babes. If you want some hot chicks you need to go into philosophy or english or sociology.

there are no chicks in philosophy.

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: CrazyDe1

Originally posted by: tokamak
one word: confidence.

No, everyone says this but that's only half the story. Here's how it really works. If you're a hot guy and you're cocky, chicks will think it's confidence and dig you. If you're an average guy and have confidence, it works some of the time. If you're not attractive and have confidence, chicks will take it as you being cocky.

The difference between cocky and confident is how attractive the guy is in most cases. If you're not attractive and try to ask a girl out and you're confident about it she'll think you're cocky. I know 2 guys who are basically the same personality and hang out with each other all the time. They're into the alternative punk scene and have their own ways of dressing. 1 guy who is considered very attractive by girls..they want him more becuase they think he's got his own unique style and does his own thing. Guy 2 isn't attractive but not ugly does the exact thing as guy 1 buy chicks think he's weird and don't want to associate with him because of his goth style.

What does work is if you do the frat boy abercrombie, spiked hair look. If you're halfway decent and can pull the image off chicks will completely go for it.

Listen to underground. That cat KNOWS.

You're right about that Abercrombie and Fitch shiet. Dress like that and get laid basically.

I wanted to say something about "Confidence" and "Cockiness." They differentiate each other with manners. Confidence is associated with good manners and Cockiness is with bad manners. So in your little example with the goth/punk guys... I'm betting Guy 2 is rude... while Guy 1 is polite?

 

[CrazyDe1]

The reason why chicks think they're attracted to confidence is that's what everyone would have you believe. Hot guys are usually confident because chicks are usually all over them. So, in reality, girls are attracted to hot guys. Naturally, a guy who chicks deny because he's unattractive is going to have no confidence or come off as cocky if he approaches a girl. So this confidence myth perpetuates itself. Most guys have enough confidence being themselves to get a chick and to keep one, maybe just not to approach them. I don't know anyone who can't talk to a gorgeous girl fine as long as he gets to know her first and there's no pressure of him being judged. That's all the confidence you need.

I mean, I know a kid who you wouldn't believe how often he gets hit on and he has absolutely no confidence whatsoever in approaching girls. He can't approach a girl for the life of him but he'll get stalked by married women, 16 year olds, everyone. Girls will befriend his roommate to get close to him. It's not confidence..girls just think he's absolutely gorgeous. Of course he's got enough confidence to keep a girl around and be himself after they come onto him.

The final thing is there's also this myth about girls liking assholes. Girls like a guy who sticks by his opinions and causes controversy because they can be like look at my guy. Notice, in most cases the asshole is a guy who is an asshole to other guys. He puts other guys down to make himself look better. I gaurantee you 90% of the time once the guy is around the girl he's no longer an asshole. He might be indifferent but he's not an asshole. So, chicks are going to be attracted to the guy who draws attention who's not afraid to clown other guys cuase it makes them look like their guy is better. She knows when it's just the 2 of them he's absolutely whipped and nice to her. I can't tell you how many times I know a guy that tells all of his friends that he's only with a girl for the p*ssy and talks a whole bunch of sh1t but then you listen to him on the phone with her and it's obvious he's completely whipped. The exception to this is the guy who will cheat on the girl but that doesn't happen very much from what I've seen.

 

[CrazyDe1]

Originally posted by: bleeb

Originally posted by: CrazyDe1

Originally posted by: tokamak
one word: confidence.

No, everyone says this but that's only half the story. Here's how it really works. If you're a hot guy and you're cocky, chicks will think it's confidence and dig you. If you're an average guy and have confidence, it works some of the time. If you're not attractive and have confidence, chicks will take it as you being cocky.

The difference between cocky and confident is how attractive the guy is in most cases. If you're not attractive and try to ask a girl out and you're confident about it she'll think you're cocky. I know 2 guys who are basically the same personality and hang out with each other all the time. They're into the alternative punk scene and have their own ways of dressing. 1 guy who is considered very attractive by girls..they want him more becuase they think he's got his own unique style and does his own thing. Guy 2 isn't attractive but not ugly does the exact thing as guy 1 buy chicks think he's weird and don't want to associate with him because of his goth style.

What does work is if you do the frat boy abercrombie, spiked hair look. If you're halfway decent and can pull the image off chicks will completely go for it.

Listen to underground. That cat KNOWS.

You're right about that Abercrombie and Fitch shiet. Dress like that and get laid basically.

I wanted to say something about "Confidence" and "Cockiness." They differentiate each other with manners. Confidence is associated with good manners and Cockiness is with bad manners. So in your little example with the goth/punk guys... I'm betting Guy 2 is rude... while Guy 1 is polite?

Right, there are some instances where manners differentiate the two. Good looking guys who sit there and are rude to the girl obviously are thought of as cocky. Most people don't do that...hell if they go up to her and straight up asks for sex 50% of girls will go for it if the guy is hot thinking he's confident. If you're average and do that it's always labeled as cocky.

Guy 1 and Guy 2 are basically the same person with the difference according to good chick friends of mine being looks. They dress the same, act the same, talk to girls the same, same enthusiasm level and interest level, sense of humor, everything. Their good chick friends love both of them but in a party setting Guy 2 always gets denied and chicks kind of talk to him for a few minutes because he's nice and then find an excuse to leave. Guy 1 never gets dissed.

 

[tantos]

First Impressions are everything. PLEASE, please get some decent looking clothes.

Half the geeks on here would rather spend $300 on a new vid card then on some nice looking clothes.
Jeans and some AMD Ownz Yoo T isn't gonna cut it unless you want to attract those engineering girls. And we all know what they look like.

 

[CastorTr0y]

Originally posted by: tantos

...Jeans and some AMD Ownz Yoo T isn't gonna cut it ...

Hahahah, so true!