Help me get a GF:) when college starts in september. Tips advice all are welcome.

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dman

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Be sure to take a camera with you everywhere and take pictures before you start talking. Girls love it when strange fellows take pictures of them, they are flattered that strangers find them so beautiful. They'll come up right away and start talking to you... thus the bonus, it's a great conversation starter.

Once they are talking to you, Star Trek is a great conversation topic. That or anything about cars or computers. You should go on for hours. She'll be impressed with your knowledge of Science and Technology.

When you find that special one, take her out to dinner. The first date should always be someplace cheap like McDonalds or Taco Bell. You want to make sure she wants you for your personality and not your money.

I suggest travel by bus or other public transportation, taxi perhaps. It shows you are environmentally friendly, it'll apeal to her get-with-nature side. With that to your advantage, You might end the date by suggesting you go back to a campground (you reserved ahead of time--The more reclusive the better so,) then you can spend the night under the stars learning everyhing about each other.

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If this doesn't work, be sure to post pics from step 1, so other ATOT'ers don't fall for the same girl.

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<- hoping you stop reading advice here and just go out and be yourself.





 

Alphathree33

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Originally posted by: tantosJeans and some AMD Ownz Yoo T isn't gonna cut it unless you want to attract those engineering girls. And we all know what they look like.

*ahem* I'm dating a very attractive engineering girl, thank you very much.

In response to this thread, that was my plan too when I went off to university -- enough being a geek, time to find a girl. But I was already thinking that I would probably never find a girl, so my confidence was not great.

What I found was that that there are girls out there who like (although still acknowledge that its geeky) the fact that I have a binary blanket and that I read sci fi and math.

I guess the point is that you seem to be looking at the first five minutes of your life with a girl and nothing else. If you can't talk to her now, you probably won't be able to talk to her in a relationship. I mean, did you consider what happens after you ask her out? After that first date?

You need to find someone you like as though you might like a friend. In fact, it might just be alright if you become her friend first. Not all girls at the same.

Alphathree
 

TJN23

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drink beer, and get the girls to drink beer....alcohol is a social lubricant...you will get chicks, don't worry
 

brigden

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This is hilarious.

If you need to ask advice online on how to meet women, you have zero chance of actually accomplishing that goal in real life.

You guys are losers.
 

Koing

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Originally posted by: nanyangview
Me turned 18 this year and is going to universtity(freshman) this fall. I am in Canada, so me going to Uni of Toronto.
Never dated/went out or had a GF before. Hmmm maybe i am too much of a computer geek. I want this to change when i enter uni and have a LIFE. AND YES, i am looking for a asian/chinese girl since i am Asian too.


So basically how do i build more confidence when talking or dealing with girls?
What turns a girl on/off? I heard Mr. Nice guys don't work for girls and will just leave you in the "Friends" zone. So for all u experienced veterans here, please help me out and give me some invaluable advices plz. THanks :)

Build confidence = go to the gym that should help with confidence, having a physique helps out. Or pick a martial art and do that through Uni

Turns girls off = being shy in general, but some girls like shy guys, not many I've met mind you. Sloppy dressers are mostly a turn off for most girls, remember there are always exceptions with girls, some very varying tastes

Turn girls on = good kisser, smart guy, good dresser, a guy that presents himself well

Frined zone = guys get in to the friend zone because he didn't move fast enough or wasn't forward enough and left it too late.

Girls do like nice guys. BUT the guys have to have some sort of *attractiveness* about them. This has to be there. It doesn't have to be his looks but can be his personality, he's very out going, he's funny, he's smart. If they are attracted to you they will be more open about things to you and maybe touch you. If a girl touch's you its always a good sign.

Just talk to the girls. If your shy its not going to help. Remember the girls you meet won't have met anyone else either. Talk to them. Ask them their name. Talk how they found HS to be? What they like to do? Any hobbies? What are they going to be doing at Uni? Just make chit chat.

ALWAYS ASK FOR NAME AND NUMBER. First time you meet a girl or at least the 2nd time get her number. She will more then likely give it to you, if you do it soon enough within meeting her. Remember not every girl is going to like you in the same token you are not going to like every girl.

Not all girls you will want to date but want to be friends with. I got plenty of numbers off girls. Most of them are my friends. The others I haven't bothered to keep in contact with. But the main thing is we made chit chat and I got name and numbers. I have a gf so it didn't bother much.

Koing

Go here http://www.geekfitness.com/forums/index.php?act=idx

 

littlegohan

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Originally posted by: nanyangview
Me turned 18 this year and is going to universtity(freshman) this fall. I am in Canada, so me going to Uni of Toronto.
Never dated/went out or had a GF before. Hmmm maybe i am too much of a computer geek. I want this to change when i enter uni and have a LIFE. AND YES, i am looking for a asian/chinese girl since i am Asian too.


So basically how do i build more confidence when talking or dealing with girls?
What turns a girl on/off? I heard Mr. Nice guys don't work for girls and will just leave you in the "Friends" zone. So for all u experienced veterans here, please help me out and give me some invaluable advices plz. THanks :)

dude
asking dating advices in a computer forum is like asking about computers in a cooking forum
 

Koing

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Originally posted by: littlegohan
Originally posted by: nanyangview
Me turned 18 this year and is going to universtity(freshman) this fall. I am in Canada, so me going to Uni of Toronto.
Never dated/went out or had a GF before. Hmmm maybe i am too much of a computer geek. I want this to change when i enter uni and have a LIFE. AND YES, i am looking for a asian/chinese girl since i am Asian too.


So basically how do i build more confidence when talking or dealing with girls?
What turns a girl on/off? I heard Mr. Nice guys don't work for girls and will just leave you in the "Friends" zone. So for all u experienced veterans here, please help me out and give me some invaluable advices plz. THanks :)

dude
asking dating advices in a computer forum is like asking about computers in a cooking forum
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Guys on here pull. Quite a lot of guys have gf and are married.

A lot of guys in the sex pool had over 6-10+ and even up to the 20's sexual partners. They get their fair share and I'm sure others would also if they wanted too. It's not always about sex but spending some time with some cool girls.
 

FuZoR

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One easy way to get to know a girl in the first week of college... explore the campus together. Introduce yourself, chit chat and just be like hey is this your first time in this city or campus then just explore around the city/campus together. lol sounds lame but it works :) Well thats if you find a girl in that situation.

There my lame advice. hahaha. Everything else has be en said i guess i'll repeat it.. just look nice dont have to look like a guy from GQ but dress nicely, that should boost some confidence, if your skinny/fat just get clothing to that doesnt refect those areas much.. unless its really boetrhing you then go to a gym. After that just GROW SOME BALLS AND TALK TO EVERY GIRL YOU LIKE.
 

littlegohan

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imo, the key is to be confident, charismatic and chivalrous

I agree that being an ahole will get u a gf. Some girls like that, some dont. I have not seen asian girls with ahole ( btw, are you looking for cbc or fobs?)

and I apologize for my previous post
after reading through the thread, there seems to be lots of guys here that can get chicks
 

littlegohan

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Originally posted by: tantos
First Impressions are everything. PLEASE, please get some decent looking clothes.

Half the geeks on here would rather spend $300 on a new vid card then on some nice looking clothes.
Jeans and some AMD Ownz Yoo T isn't gonna cut it unless you want to attract those engineering girls. And we all know what they look like.

ROFL

you have just made by day:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D
 

Kaiser__Sose

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UofT sucks for gyals.... all geeks and nerds... you don't want none of dat... do your school work then bounce..... (in my 5 yrs at UofT i saw approx 6 good looking gyals; in my first 10 mins of grad school at York i saw 6000 good looking gyals)...

try going out.. you know.. clubbin.. frat parties... alcohol and Ganja help (it's not illegal anymore remember ;).. lol... jus don't try to take advantage of peeps that are on these substances...

ahhhh.. undergrad .. those were the days.... my apt. was a cross between a brothel and the game show lets make a deal....
"behind door number one... big booty sket...."
"behind door number two... tig bitty sket.. with a happy meal combo to enjoy after"...

don't worry.. the moral of the story is..:.. do'nt loose hope.. just socialize/hang out as much as possible... turn off your computer once in a while.... and you're sure to find at least the occasional gyal or two... start off by pickin on the ones who are not the best of the bunch of friends (they have low self esteem and give it up easier).. lol.. i'm jus buggin.. jus relax.. u're in for some fun yrs ahead..
 

GagHalfrunt

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Obviously you're a geek and you're desperate. You can't de-geekify yourself and women can smell desperation, so don't even try to hide it. Use that as your selling point. Make them understand that you'll accept anything. They can walk all over you, cheat on you, spend your money and treat you like dirt and you'll still worship the ground they walk on. Make them see that almost everything female and breathing is completely out of your league and you'll never let them forget how grateful you are for their attention. Some girls really go for that sort of thing. Try to find one with low self esteem who will love the chance to be the dominant force in the relationship.
 

isaacmacdonald

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Originally posted by: FrontlineWarrior
Originally posted by: jagr10
Take the honest approach. Say "hi, my name is ______, i'm a virgin, would you like to have sex with me?"

BTW, i've been to UofT and there aren't many hot chicks in science classes. Since your asian i know you're going into sciences or engineering so don't expect any babes. If you want some hot chicks you need to go into philosophy or english or sociology.
there are no chicks in philosophy.


err? wtf? There were 60% chicks in my first two years of philosophy classes. Actually, if you're relatively articulate and quick on your feet, philosophy class is the ideal place to both impress girls and generate random conversations about more or less nothing. I'm not a great looking guy, philosophy more than compensated for inexperience and mediocre "looks" as it were. Of course I selected my college based on gender ratio, so maybe pimping was in my destiny! (Bard College, btw)-

Philosophy all the way-