So you're the wussy husband that ho's been ranting about. Why don't you just keep bending over and leave her alone? I told her to just bitch-slap you next time you bother her.
There's a software called timbuktu, and another program called Remote Administrator, that lets you connect to the PC from another compuer and you will see EXACTLY what your wife is seeing. You will get a real-time "desktop" of hers on your monitor.
I don't know if timbuktu has a freeware license, but RA has a 30-day trial.
I don't know if timbuktu has a freeware license, but RA has a 30-day trial.
Ya, i don't get how it could be an invasion of privacy when the marriage pact is basically that the 2 will be 1. there might be certain things that the courts would allow one person to keep secret from the other, but not fidelity issues. that's kind of contradictory isn't it: a spouse says to his/her partner "my fidelity is my private issue and it's non of your business". actually it is the business of the spouse isn't it??
So spying on a spouse is ok? Personally, I think anytime you are doing something they would probably not want you to do you are probably doing something wrong. Whether the courts recognize it or not.
but aren't you only looking at this from one perspective??
If the wife is cheating on the husband or vice versa that something is already messed up, there are not good or ideal solutions. is spying on a spouse ok?? no, but neither is cheating.
2 wrongs don't make a right but one can't always take the high road (how's that for cliches.)
Why cant one person always strive to take the high road? Just because human nature is fraile, we should not bother trying? No, he has a responsibility to respect her privacy, because she cheated on him she really isnt much of a wife. Dump her and move on.
My opinion of course, but I believe in privacy
but in today's society, you can't just dump a wife. the high road here can get EXTREMELY expensive. almost to the point where he could never build a life for himself again.
if she is cheating on him, he has the right to protect himself if you ask me. i'm not much of a high road person obviously, i'd rather be practical here. he can't just dump her, he needs a reason to get divorced from her w/o repercussions.
Wow....sounds like a relationship built on trust. How about instead of spying on her and seeing what they talk about, why don't you just TALK to her. Lay it down. "Listen, we're married, you don't need a boyfriend. You got me. If you don't like that, then we're done." And divorce that (insert derogitory name here). Just act civil and mature instead of acting like you're in 3rd grade.
Besides, you ALREADY know she's talking to some boyfriend, what more proof do you need? Just have her admit it on tape. She couldn't be TOO smart if she would tell you to your face.
Ok, then how about he try to fix the marriage instead of trying to destroy it even more? Or fix the system where it does not ruin your life to get rid of someone that obviously does not want to be with you. Those options make more sense to me than doing something obviously immoral just because you get something good out of it.
"I need help, every chance she gets, she?s online with her boyfriend (she even admits it)."
Hon', I'm a little confused here. You say she even admits it, so why secretly tap her conversations? Or did you mean to say that she admits to communicating with a guy online but never admits that he's more than a friend? So are you the one stretching her admission to mean that she has something going on with a guy online? If she's admitted to it as you claim, all you need do is tape her admission. Or perhaps next time you should try an introduction that isn't so misleading.
Hon', I'm a little confused here. You say she even admits it, so why secretly tap her conversations? Or did you mean to say that she admits to communicating with a guy online but never admits that he's more than a friend? So are you the one stretching her admission to mean that she has something going on with a guy online? If she's admitted to it as you claim, all you need do is tape her admission. Or perhaps next time you should try an introduction that isn't so misleading.
But whom are they sucking?
Anyway, if you get a few logs and manage to get the case to appear in a very conservative court you should have no problem getting whatever you want.
just because she admits it to HIM doesn't mean she'll admit it in court. mb he wants evidence in case of a divorce.
nocmonkey
obviously that is the high road, i just think in life we don't always take the high road.
It's my understanding that the courts could care less about cheating... It rarely makes any difference in the outcome of a divorce. Using this to justify spying is lame.
Either get a lawyer or some counseling.
Either get a lawyer or some counseling.
Maybe, but I think it is something that everyone should strive for.
EDIT: And just because some people are not strong enough to try, does not mean I should not voice my opinion on the matter.
I have to agree with Platinum here, especially with having my own parents engulfed in a SIX YEAR legal battle....in todays society divorce can make or break you depending on who is getting the ruling. What she says now to him means nothing and is pretty much non admissable in court...what you need is documentation, whether written or electronic...some form of physical proof that there has been some form of infidelity. I feel for this guy as it is not the first time I have heard of stuff like this happening..the woman cheats, brags about it and then takes her husband to the cleaners come divorce time.
Noc, while I see your point about privacy and how it is important....I also see saving your a$$ as being equally important.
My mother made the mistake of never documenting any of my fathers wrongdoings....come divorce time she got royally screwed since he dumped everything he had with his mother...now I have one broke parent that I will most likely be supporting with my brother for the rest of my life....I am not beotching because she wiped my ace when I was little and the least I can do is help her financially, but I am pissed at the "system" and now believe that you have to do whatever you can to cover your rump..leagal or not.
Noc, while I see your point about privacy and how it is important....I also see saving your a$$ as being equally important.
My mother made the mistake of never documenting any of my fathers wrongdoings....come divorce time she got royally screwed since he dumped everything he had with his mother...now I have one broke parent that I will most likely be supporting with my brother for the rest of my life....I am not beotching because she wiped my ace when I was little and the least I can do is help her financially, but I am pissed at the "system" and now believe that you have to do whatever you can to cover your rump..leagal or not.
I'm confused....why do you want or need to catch her if she has admitted to it?????
Just tape your verbal conversation with her and have her admit it. Make sure its legal in the state you live in though.
Just tape your verbal conversation with her and have her admit it. Make sure its legal in the state you live in though.
What is the point of having convictions if you will not stick with them when they are tested?
I am not saying the system is right, or what this woman is doing is right, but I am not going to sacrifice my beliefs for money. Atleast not the ones that mean something to me.
Sorry about all the troubles this has caused your family, I wish there was a way to make the system better.
maybe you two should actually try to deal with the problem instead of acting like children. you need to figure out what the problem is and if you can't fix it, you need to split up. but spying will get you no where.
If you read the entire thread you would know that I do not believe in infringing upon other people's rights for monetary gain. I find it sickening in fact.
And divorces do not have to be expensive, a couple of hundred dollars and two adults can be divorced.
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