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Have you ever stopped talking to friends & before you know it years have gone by?

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I know this sound crazy but my best friend growing up lives in the same town and I have not seen or talked to him in over five years. We didn't get into a fight, part on bad terms or nothing of the sort. Prior to the five years I had only talked to him a few times in the previous couple years. Today my dad called me and said he ran into one of our other mutual friends and my dad was asking about my old best friend and family and come to find out his mom died three years ago. This is news to me, crazy how people can drift and not talk anymore. The same goes with my other friends from when I was growing up, I haven't talked to them in years.

What about you, do you have any friends that you havent talked to in forever?
 
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It is extremely easy for me to just up and stop contact with someone. I've done it a few times for a few different reasons and it's never bothered me. I don't talk to a single person I went to high school with, or 99% of the people I went to college with.
 
I don't really have friends anymore, but in my fall 2010 semester there was one guy that I thought I knew pretty well yet by the time it was spring 2011 I hardly talked to him at all and even cut him off once on accident in a computer lab without recognizing him until ten seconds later.
 
Ya - people just grow apart.

I reconnected with a few really good friends from high school, for like 3 months. But, their personal lives (family) obviously take top priority. So, we drifted yet again.
 
For me it's out of sight out of mind. Life is so busy that only once in awhile do I think about old friends.
 
The only people I guess I can actually consider "friends" would be the people from work I talk to. Outside of work I have no contact with anyone. Most of my family lives 45 minutes away and I havent been there in years. The only reason i see my dad is because he lives with me, I havent seen or talked to my mom in over a year.
 
My circle of friends went through a spring cleaning almost 10 years ago as I began to realize most of them weren't really friends. They never contacted me unless they wanted something and should I ever call them to see if we could hang out they were always busy.

Recently I stopped talking to someone I had been friends with for over 15 years. As my career and family life progressed, he continued to simply subsist on a crappy job, video games, and masturbating. I managed to get him a help desk job that would have been a $5/hr raise but required him to move 100 miles. He turned it down out of fear. Not long after that I stopped talking to him.

Recently I learned he accepted a NOC job and is actually going through with moving. I realized that, as a friend, it's not my job to change him one way or another. I just have to accept him as he is and either be a friend or don't. It was stupid of me to lose sight of that.
 
Yeah, I've had it happen over the years. Hell, I had a real good friend of mine in my wedding as the best man, never talked to him again after that and that was almost 12 years ago. Same with other friends. People drift apart as we get older, especially when you get married. I'd say now at this point after separating from the military I probably only have about 2 friends and they both live out of state, one I grew up with, the other in the military with. I see one occasionaly when he comes back home to visit family. The other I saw once last year when our families went on vacation together, it'll probably be a couple years before I see him again.

That is life unforatunately. I wish I could stay 17 and always have my friends around to party and hang out constantly, just doesn't work that way.
 
Most of my high school friends have moved to different states or even countries, so it's difficult to stay in touch with them. Obviously it's possible, but there's only so much you can do with Facebook messages and stuff. That's not really much of a basis for a friendship. But they still let me know when they are back in town to visit family so I can catch up.

There's one whole group of friends that I just sort of outgrew. They're the heavy drinking party types. That was fun for a while but it's just not my thing anymore. Not on bad terms with any of them though.
 
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For me it's out of sight out of mind. Life is so busy that only once in awhile do I think about old friends.
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Pretty much how it goes with me. If I don't see them on a regular basis (work, regular scheduled hangout time, etc), I will lose touch. I've lost touch with dozens of friends over the years, ranging everywhere from close childhood friends to more recent graduate school friends. It's nothing against them, my mind just doesn't work the way necessary to keep in touch if there isn't something specifically scheduled.
 
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Was just thinking...I tried to reconnect with friends when I moved back after the military, just wasn't the same. As we grow older what he had in common and what was fun as kids is no longer the case. I got together with a couple high school buddies a couple years ago. We went to the bar, drank and talked about the shit we did in high school. I realized we have nothing in common anymore. It's not like we can hang out and get stoned, play basketball, and get into mischief every night anymore. You can only get together and talk about the past so many times...
 
I would say I have a large circle of friends. My lady is my best friend, but I sort of wish I had a best guy friend, too. I have some close guy friends, like the guys in my band, a couple guys from high school, and a guy from college.

The guys in my band are good dudes and I see them a lot. One of the guys from HS lives far away at law school, but is moving back soon. My other guy friend just mopes around his parents house, smoking pot, and is jobless. He has a degree in music, and is talented...but never writes music. I always try to get him to come over and write music, but he never answers his phone. The only time I see or hear from him is when he wants pot (imagine that). Pot has ruined my friend.

I used to spend my time with the heavy drinking party types as well, but I grew out of that rather quick.

I guess I'm just happier spending my time doing hobbies and with my lady friend. She is a blast to be around 🙂
 
ive actually got a little clique of close frans that I've had for a few years now..consists of me,2other guys,was three but one passed away in a csr accident earliee rhisbuearand2 femaklps
 
I have a bazillion acquaintances but not really many friends, and definitely not friends with anyone longer than maybe a few years.
 
Grow together or grow apart. My friends that are still partying, acting like college idiots, playing video games constantly...we don't really talk much. We have nothing in common. I have a career, a family, kids... I associate with people who are in similar places in life and with similar hobbies. Some good friends are now just acquaintances because of this.
 
Most of the people I used to know and I ended up this way. Either I or they moved, or they reproduced and fell into baby quicksand.
 
Yeah, that happened with most of my friends. The only non-family people I know really well anymore are the people I work out with. Mostly that's because I'm practically guaranteed to see them every day. I think stuff like church, bowling leagues, softball, or other common recurring interests are how most adults maintain friendships. I don't do any of that, so most of my friends have drifted away.
 
Yea. I've practically kept little to no contact with my friends from high school. Ended up going to different colleges, and just drifted apart. At the same time, I've made no effort to contact them via facebook or whatever.

Kinda the same thing with friends from college. People end up moving, and once that happens I just kind of forget about them.
 
God is everyone on ATOT stereotypically and predictably social failures? Fucking depressing. No wonder you're all mad.
 
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