Everyday - I'm married after all. It's so not worth a battle royal over the mundane. Just tonight... I cooked pheasant dinner with all the fixings as a surprise and she calls and says she's going out went with the girls after work...However, I say 'have a great time' even though I felt rejected and wanted a family night.. I didn't even mention dinner but thats all right she'll have a great time without me putting a guilt trip on her and I will too, especially when she comes home and smells aromas throughout house. Everyone is happy.
OTOH - She agrees with me buying toys she has absolutely no use for like boats and guns and time out to use them saying as 'long as you're happy'
Its really called compromise instead of being a doormat. I think all relationships should have an ebb and flow/give and take type of symbiotic. Even boss/employer father/son type.