guys, would you have enough confidence in yourself

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glugglug

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Originally posted by: Turin39789
Originally posted by: memo
ok, who messed up the horizontal scroll? :)

looking fine here, are you running 800 x 600 or somethine?


The nested quoting is making it scroll at anything less than 1043 pixels wide.
 

Klixxer

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Originally posted by: DougK62
People, realize that buying a dress != buying other clothes. I've bought plenty of slacks, skirts, and tops. Buying a dress is much harder to get right.

I think most of us know that.

As i said i have done so in the past, back when i still believed in relationships and even i could see that they didn't look the way i had imagined in it, most of the time it is better if she just buys her own clothes and i buy mine, that way i won't look like her "dress up doll" and she won't look like mine.

There are many better ways to show love, self confidence or whatever than buying a dress or whatever gift.

The most valuable of all gifts you can give is to pay attention and you don't need to even be involved with someone to do that, it is always appreciated.
 

DT4K

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Originally posted by: Lola
holy crap...:Q
Mosh was not turning this into an "all men suck" thread.

Its true what the few males on here that are married say.

It is about being so intiamte that one would know what their wife would like/feel good in.

You guys also dont seem to understand that even in todays 'femi-nazi girl power' society, most females DO want to look good for their spouse/BF. When they think we are pretty and sexy, we in turn even feel more so. That all has to do with picking something out for her.

My point was simply that choosing not to buy my wife a dress doesn't mean I don't have confidence. We've been together long enough that I have a pretty good idea of what she will like and what she won't. But clothes are different. Maybe some women are just more picky about clothes than others. But at least for my wife, it's reallly hard for her to know if she will like the way something looks until she has actually tried it on and looked in a mirror. And if SHE doesn't even know whether she will like a particular piece of clothing just by looking at it, then how am I supposed to know this ?
 

Feldenak

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Hell no. I am completely color/fashion stupid and get her approval on what I'm wearing if we're going out.

Lingerie I have no problem getting for her...that stuff is easy to get. I know her sizes in that stuff so I can walk in the store, grab a couple things and walk out. Much easier and safer. Black panties go with a black bra, red w/ red, etc...I don't have to try and figure out what exactly a "Size 8" is, if that color(s) would look good on her, and figure out what kind and color shoes to get. If she wants a dress I'll take her shopping and buy her one that way.
 

ectx

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I figure the women I know have much better taste than I. I do have the confidence to do a lot other things.

Damn!! why do I post here? oh I need 241 posts to get to the next level.
 

LongAce

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What's the big deal? As long as the girl is ok with me asking her for her size, the I don't see it as a problem. Well, maybe if she's big... but that's something else to deal with.
 

DerwenArtos12

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yeah but only if I could take a dress of hers so I know exactly what fits her, though I don't have a girlfriend so to get really technical I couln't.
 

JoeKing

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in regard to the OP. Hell yeah I would. I probably have better taste than she does anyway! :cool:
 

DurocShark

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All righty then...

The pimple farmers are basing romance decisions on cost/benefit analysis. :roll:

WAKE UP!!!

You can debate the risks involved in buying a dress for your GF, but it's really not a debatable subject. You need to do it! If you really don't have the cojones to buy the girl a dress, then buy shoes. Buy earrings. Buy lingerie. Buy some kind of personal item for her to wear. Even if it isn't what she'd pick out herself, IT DOESN'T MATTER!

Don't you guys get it? Women (and girls) need to feel pampered. Adored. Loved. A big way of doing that is buying personal items for them to show off. They want to have friends say "Hey, like your dress..." so that the GF can say "Yeah, my BF bought it for me!"

Get it? If you don't, just trust those of us who do.

I've got a friend at work that considers himself a ladies man. He can talk the talk and get into just about any girl's panties. But he never can keep 'em. Why? Because he won't do the little necessary things like small gifts and surprises and such. ESPECIALLY clothes. I, on the other hand, have no problem buying for girls that are friends. Little crap like a $5 top from Suzies Deals. Tell you what, these girls follow me around like lost puppies when I do things like that. And it's not for the $ of the item either. It's the fact that I thought of them (even though I'm married, I do have many female friends).

Ok, it's too early in the morning and I'm rambling... But you should have an idea of what's really going on now...
 

PingSpike

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Originally posted by: DurocShark
All righty then...

The pimple farmers are basing romance decisions on cost/benefit analysis. :roll:

WAKE UP!!!

You can debate the risks involved in buying a dress for your GF, but it's really not a debatable subject. You need to do it! If you really don't have the cojones to buy the girl a dress, then buy shoes. Buy earrings. Buy lingerie. Buy some kind of personal item for her to wear.

The question was not "Do you have enough confidence to buy your girlfriend/SO gifts" it was "Do you have enough confidence in yourself to buy a dress" so forget those other items, they're irrelevant to the topic at hand. I've bought flowers, candy, books I know she will like, a computer game that was rare but I knew she wanted, dragon figures because I know she likes them, etc.

I asked my girlfriend about this thread last night, she said "Yeah, dresses are really hard. I'd really have to try them on."

Thats straight from the horse's mouth, so its all I need to know.
 

Glendor

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Originally posted by: Lola
Originally posted by: moshquerade
*sigh* that's what i'm sayin...

but doesn't anyone take a chance anymore?

aparenntly not. i guess chivalry really is dead. :(

This isn't about Chivalry, it's about Stupidity! I've bought my wife a LOT of stuff in the first three years we were married, and she hardly wore any of it. She kept saying the leather chaffed, and the thongs creeped up her... (oops, too much information :eek: )

Seriusly, it's hard to get the sizing right, even if you know the right sizes, there are so many variables. If you buy a 'this' then you have to get 'that' in a 'larger' / 'smaller' size, unless of course it's the third Wednesday of a month ending in 'y'
 

iwantanewcomputer

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Originally posted by: DougK62
Originally posted by: glugglug
Originally posted by: Turin39789
Originally posted by: memo
ok, who messed up the horizontal scroll? :)

looking fine here, are you running 800 x 600 or somethine?


The nested quoting is making it scroll at anything less than 1043 pixels wide.

Nerd.

how true... speaking of which I didn't know there were girls on this forum!!!

Oh yeah! (in quagmire's voice)
 

Eli

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*MAYBE*.....

I don't think I've quite figured out my girlfriends taste in things like that, even though we've been together for 3 years, LOL..

I try to pay attention when she points out something that she would like to wear, but it seems that she'll point at one thing and say she'd wear it, then point to something that looks very similiar(to me) and say it's ugly.. LOL

We're the type of people that would go out and shop for it together, even though that kinda defeats original intent of buying your girl something you'd like to see her in.. Hmm.....

I would certainly be up to trying sometime. I don't think getting something that was too small or big would be a big deal, it would just be a mistake. She wouldn't read anything into it.

Most likely, I would probably end up buying her something that I knew she liked, ie: she had pointed it out at some point before.
 

cerebusPu

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my good female friend designs evening gowns as a side business. They get outsourced to countries where labor is cheap. I had this grand romantic scheme where Id have my girl pick and choose whatever dress she wanted made.

The other alternative would be where I pick and choose whichever dress i like her to wear..and have my friend design it.

In the end it didnt pan out. I screwed up with the girl and I dont talk to her anymore.
 

Eli

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Wow, I totally didn't see that this thread was 3+ pages when I replied.. lol
 

moshquerade

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Originally posted by: eakers
i totally agree.

somebody send this thread to my bf pls.
yeh, 3 girls in this thread, and they all feel the same way.
coincidence? i think not.
 

Gamingphreek

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Why does it have to be a dress. Doesn't a nice Hat count or a pair of socks :p .

To answer the question HELLS NO!!! I know how to pick and choose my battles!

-Kevin
 

Fritzo

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I've done this three times, and all three times they were returned. The sales ladies think it's the sweetest thing in the world buying your SO a fancy cocktail dress.


Unfortunately a woman's tastes are a fickle as you can get. NEVER buy a woman clothes :)
 

zugzoog

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Last year I organised a buck's party for a friend. We set the poor guy a number of tasks, one of which was to buy his wife-to-be some lingerie.

By the time that we got to the store he was totally drunk and I had to assist him into the store. Against all expectations the lingerie that he purchased was in her favorite colour, an acceptable style and the CORRECT SIZE.

I have never been prouder of him. (I seriously would have failed this test).