That's what really gets me--being deliberately cruel in a big way to save yourself a much, much smaller emotional discomfort. Don't do it.
Be honest about your feelings, needs, and limits and be firm about having them respected. If nothing else, it's good to get practice doing that.
If you have to, write it down. I once tried to break up with someone for quite a while but could never get her to listen, let me finish, or (as far as I could tell) remember what I did manage to say; the only way I managed to get something across to her was for her to see it in writing. Then she went ballistic and will probably hate me forever for it, but even in hindsight, I can't think of any better way I could have handled it.
You're a jerk and a wimp for not having the courage to break it off respectfully. :| If I could obtain all of your information, I would publish you on my list of jerks. You live in Kansas, so maybe I could get someone I know to obtain information. :roll: well, maybe the fact that you published it on a public forum is a sufficient way of hanging yourself.
Really though, you're more than a jerk ... you've just added yourself on the list of idiots that might get himself the Darwin award in the nearest future. Jesus! You can't summon up the courage to say it is over to a chick--so you resort to making a nuisance of yourself? This is so moronic and such an oxymoron that I cannot believe your story. This totally blows.... If you're so worried about your image that you cannot end it yourself, then why aren't you worried about how stupid you look and the negative status you get for intentionally provoking and treating her meanly to convince her to break it off? God, this is too unbelievable! Even if you try to do it the right way now or reconcile, it doesn't matter anymore because you have just forever stamped yourself a jerk, an idiot, and a wimp. I?ve never seen someone achieve that many titles at once. Congrats to you, foolish boy! :disgust:
I'm convinced the OP has neither a spine nor a penis.
So tell us the real reason why you are wasting so much of your "precious" time trying to break up with her?
So tell us the real reason why you are wasting so much of your "precious" time trying to break up with her?
Cyberfuzz you are truly a royal asshat. Stop playing with the girls emotions like you're nine and let her know outright that you cannot handle a relationship right now but if and when things calm down a little in the coming months you'd like to see where things go if she's willing. Honesty goes a long way but you're taking the cowards way out and it's doubtful you care for her as much as you claim.
well i guess i should update, i told her last night that it was over. i said i didnt have time to see her and that we couldnt be together. She cried but i thought that she understood that we were done untill i have time. But today she text msg's me "i cant do this! i love u too much!" ..................UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. :| trying not to think about it. she also asked me to come see her today in one of her txt's, but i think if i do go to see her, then ill be sending mixed messages. So i think im going to stay away because she got very clingy lately and wanted to be around me 24/7 and talked about moving intogether (we've only been together since feb 1st, little over 2 months). it was cool at first but then she would call me when im doing my homework, i tell her i cant talk and that id call her when im done, but yet she calls me like 20 minutes later then gets mad at me when i dont talk to her. sigh...females i swear...but anways i think im going to stay away. thoughs? flames? post away.
sounds like a good idea man...you gotta do what you need to do to stay focused...she's getting a little close a little fast...you both rushed into this and haven't had time to stop and think it seems..maybe breaking up was a rash idea..if i were you id explain to her that you need to focus right now and she needs to understand that. otherwise she can leave...even if u only see eachother once every couple weeks..its better then blowing away what could be a good thing..
loves you too much after only 2 months...calm the b!tch down
loves you too much after only 2 months...calm the b!tch down
well i guess your only recourse now is to fake your own death.....
but seriously it seems lik you like playign this game...the more you try to break up with her the more she wants you...
i think you like the attention otherwise you would cut off all communication and tell her plain and simply you do not want to be with her...
but seriously it seems lik you like playign this game...the more you try to break up with her the more she wants you...
i think you like the attention otherwise you would cut off all communication and tell her plain and simply you do not want to be with her...
agreed. guys that act like the op just fvkc it up for the next guy.
be a man and break up. if she calls and you dont want to talk to her, or comes by, just dont answer(if thats how you wanna do it. cold IMO, but sometimes necessary). will it kill you to talk to her? if so, just tell her you dont need any drama right now, and cut off communication with her. if you decide to talk with her, if she gets into anything dealing with a relationship between you 2, just tell her thats over and you wont talk about it. after a few times, shell either drop you out of her life, or get the hint and you can be friends.
sounds to me like you want to go out and have a little fun without her, but you also want to keep her around to fall back on. you cant have both.
sounds to me like you want to go out and have a little fun without her, but you also want to keep her around to fall back on. you cant have both.[/quote]
nicely said
it's like launching missles from a submarine... you both have to turn your keys. TURN YOUR KEY!!
no i do not want to go and hook up with other chicks. im under contract with my dean to get a 2.5 GPA this semester and im currently sitting with 2 B's, a high C, and a D. so i need to step it up this last month of school, like to a serious notch cause i cant be kicked out. so i just dont have time to see her, and with her calling me 2-3 times a day talking for an hour each time, then her wanting to see me all the time WILL NOT WORK. she wants her to be first all time, she doesnt understand how import school is because she is not in school right now. so if she's not working then she wants to be with me. Even when im with my friends and she calls she gets all mad at me because i dont leave them and talk to her. I told her once June 8th rolls around (i move to a new place and school will be over, then i will have all the time in the world) but she doesnt want to wait. she knows i still want to be with her, so she doesnt accept the time off.
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