Going out with the best friend.

[ManOnTheSide]

pro-guys, anti-girls...

i guess i'll find my 'miss perfect' one day, i hope i don't have to wait till i am 50...

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: ManOnTheSide
I dated my best friend for 3 years.
We're not best friends anymore.
However, it was the longest and best relationship I've ever had, and I still think that relationships founded on friendship are best.


so how did it end?

well... i had to butt in.... because...... i am the ex..

dang sorry to hear that. As sad as it is, I'd just leave it alone. Soon she'll realize what she lost.

BTW on a lighter note, when you said you're the ex, i could hear "DUN DUN DUNNNNN!!!" like in some crazy soap opera

And ryan is right. There are tons of girls out there. If she left you like this for her friend, then she's just not worth it

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: ManOnTheSide
yea, its just that its so hard right now, its so fresh in my mind. I dunno how long it will take for me to move on. She was so nice, she seemed perfect. I loved her personality, no one else can come close....

i still got a place in my heart for her, i have no reason why after what she did to me. And i guess that is the reason why i want to know if they will last. cause i kinda want her back. like i said before, its either him or me. there is no other guy in her life that can come close to us.

Sucker!!!! A girl's best guy friend is the guy that wants to screw her the most! Real men know that. Never let your girl have a guy friend on the side. His whole purpose is to steal her away from you. When will dumb boyfriends ever understand. Yup, when I meet a girl I want who's in a relationship with someone else I try to be her best friend too. Then comes the "oh, I guess your bf doesn't like me", "oh, he can be so rude", "oh, you're too good for him", "oh, how can you even like him" "oh, you got into a fight with him again? that would never happen if it was me" "oh, why don't you dump him for me?" "oh, uh, huh, uhhhh, UHHHH, ahhh". I must have done that many times. Had it done to me too, that's how I learned. The good thing is I never did that to anyone I knew, just new girls I met with bfs. If I don't know her guy, I don't want to know him. I just want to take her from him. Girls are so stupid that way.

Sorry to be so harsh, but you see if you have a girl friend, the first thing you discuss with her (after sax) is that she can never have a guy friend on the side. If she has one, dump him till she dumps you!, if she meets one who wants to be her guy friend don't even start." Tell her why can't you be her guy friend and her bf too? If she needs other guyfriends then she's not for you. Everyone knows guyfriends are trouble. Why do you think your instincts tell you to dislike the guy from the start? Its a trait that's been evolving in us men since forever ago and its telling you the other guy's a threat yet you ignored it. For that, you deserve the lost. Forget about her and move on. If you still want her, you'll find out that if you move on she'll show more interest in you again. Don't return her interest, let it build up in her. Just act like she's still a friend but she's not your number one priority anymore. If you play it right, she'll probably come back. If not, move on and find someone else using this as a lesson about guyfriends.

 

[xirtam]

Originally posted by: Pers

Originally posted by: Grasshopper27

Originally posted by: Judgement
Most married couples consider each their partner their best friend.

Ding, ding...

We have a winner!!!

Thumper is my best friend!

: ) Hopper

who made you God to constantly declare "the winner" -- anyway that's lame. you should stop now

edit: this is a horrible situation - no chance in this long distance nonsense to work out... but they have nothing

to lose. He's going out of state -- thus the friendship is destined to be weakened anyway.

my advice to you is to stay out of their drama -- watch and learn from their mistakes

1. Who made you God to declare that lame? The question isn't about God. It's about Hopper's view of another post. You've expressed your view about his. Why can't he express his view about another?

The glass is half empty: all relationships are bound to fail. Especially those where the individuals in question start out as friends and work into a more romantic environment. Picking up chicks at bars and having one-night stands is the surefire way to gain a lasting relationship.

The glass is half full: relationships depend on both parties. Without a firm basis, a relationship will go nowhere. These people are starting from the foundation of friendship and working to something deeper, which is more significant than finding people you don't care about and deciding to become romantically involved.

 

[rh71]

My now-fiance was my "best" friend for a year while in college before we started "dating"...

Been together for almost 5 years now, engaged for almost 1 year... and will be marrying sometime after 6 years together...

It really doesn't matter to us since we feel the same way about each other no matter what our official title is...

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: rh71
My now-fiance was my "best" friend for a year while in college before we started "dating"...

Been together for almost 5 years now, engaged for almost 1 year... and will be marrying sometime after 6 years together...

It really doesn't matter to us since we feel the same way about each other no matter what our official title is...

Tell her she better not pick up any new "guy friends". As her fiance, you should really question the motives of "guy friends". He'll deny it, she'll deny it, but if she's allowing him to be a guy friend, she has some interest in him and he definitely wants her or else he wouldn't even talk to her since she's already got you.

 

[HannibalX]

Well your post was too long and not in paragraphs so I didn't read it all. Point being - I was best friends with a girl in h/s beginning in 9th grade up to graduation and now we are married happily! It only took three months for use to decide to get married once we started dating because we had known each other intimately (not sexually) for four years already. It worked out nice.

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: Trinitron
Well your post was too long and not in paragraphs so I didn't read it all. Point being - I was best friends with a girl in h/s beginning in 9th grade up to graduation and now we are married happily! It only took three months for use to decide to get married once we started dating because we had known each other intimately (not sexually) for four years already. It worked out nice.

Must have been uncomfortable in bed together the first night. I mean the intimate part. After waiting so long to try it, you probably felt awkward?

 

[oLLie]

Sorry to be so harsh, but you see if you have a girl friend, the first thing you discuss with her (after sax) is that she can never have a guy friend on the side. If she has one, dump him till she dumps you!, if she meets one who wants to be her guy friend don't even start." Tell her why can't you be her guy friend and her bf too? If she needs other guyfriends then she's not for you. Everyone knows guyfriends are trouble. Why do you think your instincts tell you to dislike the guy from the start? Its a trait that's been evolving in us men since forever ago and its telling you the other guy's a threat yet you ignored it. For that, you deserve the lost. Forget about her and move on. If you still want her, you'll find out that if you move on she'll show more interest in you again. Don't return her interest, let it build up in her. Just act like she's still a friend but she's not your number one priority anymore. If you play it right, she'll probably come back. If not, move on and find someone else using this as a lesson about guyfriends.

What I find most hilarious is that you used this technique to "steal" a girl, and then you tell her she can't have a guy friend... talk about your irony/hypocrisy.

About the motives of most girls' best guy friend... I bet you are right in a large number cases. Sad but at least somewhat true

 

[DeafeningSilence]

Originally posted by: ManOnTheSide

The guy is a very nice guy, and the girl is also.

Well, there's your first problem.

But seriously... you can't date a girl whose best friend is another guy. That's just the way it is. It sucks how she screwed you over and mislead you -- but if she was that close to him, you guys didn't have a chance anyway. Just be glad you found out now instead of later.

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: oLLie

Sorry to be so harsh, but you see if you have a girl friend, the first thing you discuss with her (after sax) is that she can never have a guy friend on the side. If she has one, dump him till she dumps you!, if she meets one who wants to be her guy friend don't even start." Tell her why can't you be her guy friend and her bf too? If she needs other guyfriends then she's not for you. Everyone knows guyfriends are trouble. Why do you think your instincts tell you to dislike the guy from the start? Its a trait that's been evolving in us men since forever ago and its telling you the other guy's a threat yet you ignored it. For that, you deserve the lost. Forget about her and move on. If you still want her, you'll find out that if you move on she'll show more interest in you again. Don't return her interest, let it build up in her. Just act like she's still a friend but she's not your number one priority anymore. If you play it right, she'll probably come back. If not, move on and find someone else using this as a lesson about guyfriends.

What I find most hilarious is that you used this technique to "steal" a girl, and then you tell her she can't have a guy friend... talk about your irony/hypocrisy.

About the motives of most girls' best guy friend... I bet you are right in a large number cases. Sad but at least somewhat true

Hey, once you've got her, don't let someone else use your tactics to take her away. What idiot would know the game and not defend against it? No irony here, just self defense.

 

[Sir Fredrick]

Originally posted by: ManOnTheSide
I dated my best friend for 3 years.
We're not best friends anymore.
However, it was the longest and best relationship I've ever had, and I still think that relationships founded on friendship are best.


so how did it end?

well... i had to butt in.... because...... i am the ex..

Sorry for not replying sooner, I don't hang out here much anymore.
I moved to MI to be with her, and about halfway through the year I realized that it was not working out, although it was pretty good at the time it was obvious that we had no future together. Rather than drag it out as long as possible and lead her on I was honest, I told her how I felt and broke up with her.
After that, not much changed, we were still great friends and hung out all the time. However when I came back down to FL at the end of the year, she started dating another one of her friends and quickly lost interest in staying in touch with me. We had plans to go backpacking across Europe this summer with some other friends and she basically disinvited me from going with them because she wanted to take her new boy and thought it would be awkward if I was there. We still talk occasionally, but the best friends connection we once had is not really there anymore.

 

[GermyBoy]

They will never last. LOL.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

I'll read it if you figure out how to use paragraphs!