GIRLS what do you find atractive in a guy?

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crisscross

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Halogen: I beg to differ!

I think most of us forget that Women are not some kind of weird race to whom you need to apply certain set of rules and regulations! They would like to be treated nice and I think it's natural to feel that way. The most important thing is to be nice to them. DO NOT treat women like dirt!! if you try to be cocky and obnoxious it will DEFINITELY not appeal to a girl!! But at the same time it's important to maintain your dignity. What usually works for me is this:

I am nice to almost every girl I meet but I tell them that I don't have a girlfriend because I dont like any girl enough to actually go around with her and I don't want to have a gf just for the heck of it!

believe me this works! It always does.

Finally just remember guys. Girls adore balanced guys. You shold be able to talk about almost everything just keep yourself up to date on everything you can and just watch the difference!

Peace and Happy Holidays

Tornado
 
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Women want to completely control any relationship they are in. Controlling the sex just isn't enough, they have to control the guy as well. So they don't want someone who is already a nice a guy that likes them. They have to find an asshole that doesn't give a crap about them and turn them into the nice guy. It's like decorating a house to them. So what to do if you are already a nice guy? Ignore the woman you are interested in and piss her off as much as you can. Women love the rollercoaster so give them a ride. Don't worry, you can start being your nice self more and more as time goes by, you just have to make your woman think it's because of her.
 

eshrai

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<< Women want to completely control any relationship they are in. Controlling the sex just isn't enough, they have to control the guy as well. So they don't want someone who is already a nice a guy that likes them. They have to find an asshole that doesn't give a crap about them and turn them into the nice guy. It's like decorating a house to them. So what to do if you are already a nice guy? Ignore the woman you are interested in and piss her off as much as you can. Women love the rollercoaster so give them a ride. Don't worry, you can start being your nice self more and more as time goes by, you just have to make your woman think it's because of her. >>



well thats the biggest load of bs i've ever heard...
we like guys who are confident in themselves. sometimes you nice guys don't seem confident in yourselves...
and also desperate is bad. a lot of times "nice guys" are desperate guys. we don't want someone who will date
just anyone. how do you know they care about you then?
 

gopunk

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i dunno. sometimes i get frustrated, but i have to admit, there were/are some really nice and good looking girls that i had relationships with. for whatever it's worth...
 

StUdMaN

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not a girl but 2 things they find attractive
1 big dick
2 a**hole who will mistreat them
either 1 of those will work
 

conjur

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<< i dunno. sometimes i get frustrated, but i have to admit, there were/are some really nice and good looking girls that i had relationships with. for whatever it's worth... >>



Were they all aware and willing participants in those relationships? ;)
 

bootymac

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1) hairy chest, nostrils, armpits, other places ;)
2) very small dick
3) when dating, start making out with other girls (she really lieks that!)

you arent alone you bored ppl
 

gopunk

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Were they all aware and willing participants in those relationships? ;)

well they weren't conscious, if that's what you mean....

;)
 

eshrai

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<< If you truly think that's BS, you need to spread the word to the rest of womankind. >>



perhaps you are chasing after the wrong kind of woman. hot, popular, slutty women date similar types of guys. the nice girls who like nice guys arent the type who go to bars late at night and dress super slutty.
 

Jerboy

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I'm not a girl, but these are what I find attractive in a guy:

1) outgoing, fun and has good sense of humor
2) nice
3) cute looking
4) well built large and large frame
5) smooth chest, defined six pack, but not too muscular
6) size=not that important
7) I have to like him and he has to like me
 

arigato

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<<

<< Women want to completely control any relationship they are in. Controlling the sex just isn't enough, they have to control the guy as well. So they don't want someone who is already a nice a guy that likes them. They have to find an asshole that doesn't give a crap about them and turn them into the nice guy. It's like decorating a house to them. So what to do if you are already a nice guy? Ignore the woman you are interested in and piss her off as much as you can. Women love the rollercoaster so give them a ride. Don't worry, you can start being your nice self more and more as time goes by, you just have to make your woman think it's because of her. >>



well thats the biggest load of bs i've ever heard...
we like guys who are confident in themselves. sometimes you nice guys don't seem confident in yourselves...
and also desperate is bad. a lot of times "nice guys" are desperate guys. we don't want someone who will date
just anyone. how do you know they care about you then?
>>



See? I'm not the only girl who feels this way! Confidence is a good thing. Being an @sshole isn't.





 

VirusDub

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I have really bad luck with girls. Two have been rebounders without telling me, one just wanted to see what it'd be like to have a boyfriend, and now this girl is going after me on a rebound run, and I just want to stay friends. How crappy.
Anyway, girls apparently aren't attracted to an open mind, intelligence, or kindness. I've got those three, and girls hate me.
 

Jerboy

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<< So I have all those attention from my female friends because I'm getting D's and F's, not doing my homework ? >>

Nah they probably like you because you are a social butterfly!
>>



Yeah that make sense. It can also be because they know I don't grab like other guys...
 

gopunk

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See? I'm not the only girl who feels this way! Confidence is a good thing. Being an @sshole isn't.

i dunno, i'm pretty confident, and a nice guy, but i'm still waiting for some hot chick to seduce me. :(
 

StUdMaN

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Ben Franklin wrote somewhere that men marry a women hopping she won't change while women marry a man hoping they will
 

ander

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OK, here's the problem...
Girls like the "nice" guy, but they only notice the "bad" guy...so uh...what's the deal?!

I dunno exactly what kinda guy I am...but I've had some good looking girls in my past...it's only when I want a girl that I can't find one...so sad.
 

eshrai

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well, my mom always said that its when you're not looking that you find someone...
of course, she always found ugly losers.
but, it seems to work.
 

schdaddy

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you can play the dickhead role to get a girl but don't plan on the relationship lasting to long, for the simply reason you will become comfortable around that person & let down you guard (or act). so screw that idea

from what little i know girls like the obvious when it comes to physical attributes:
great bod, face, & hair

but its the personality where things get strange

i'm no casinova (sp?) but I do know that if you just play it cool girls will pickup on your vibe & come around to you. by playing it cool i'm talking about ignoring her in that fun/flirting way. girls really like the GAME more than the relationship. take some time before approaching a girl, by making sure she wants you to (usually the eyes tell the story) while you're around her what I would try is smiling, laughing, teasing more often.

you can save deep converstation for later if the relationship lasts or unless she brings it up, the whole idea at first is FUN. every girl I've dated has told me about their fairtale marriage/relationship they've had since childhood, USE THAT INFO. sometimes you got to be sneaky like that, pay attention what is in her bedroom or apartment to get more ideas of what talk about or activities. also suprises be full of them at first, small or big it doesn't matter just give them something to tell their friends about

BTW, where the hell is Eakers on such a thread?
 

Kadarin

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Heh.. Funny thread.

My brother (to the best of my knowledge) hasn't had a steady girlfriend in the last 10 years, but he's always going out with someone. He tells me that typically what works for him is the "Hi! I'm single, and I'm rich.." approach (he is both). My girlfriend despises my brother partly for this reason.

On the other hand, I have been involved in long-term relationships non-stop for the last 13 years or so. I think that what every woman wants is different, depending on the woman. My best guess would be that women want to be with a guy that turns them on, that makes them laugh, is smart, good looking and has or could at some point have the ability to support a family. I think different women will give different weights to each of these characteristics, so if you're not that great looking but have an excellent sense of humor, you have a chance.

It helps if you're tall and in shape.

-j
 

Red Dawn

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<< It can also be because they know I don't grab like other guys... >>

Except when their boyfriends are around
 

Red Dawn

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Well I have it on good authority that they don't like guys who ask "GIRLS what do you find atractive in a guy?"and then whine about girls liking the "Bad guys". From the moment all the AOL Chatroom Kiddies descended upon ATOT their mantra has been "How come all the girls go for the bad guys?" That's BS, they like guys that are confident , treat them right and love them until they quiver with delight! Now if that's being a bad guy then so be it.