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Girl Troubles? *updated*

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Lifer
So...to make a long story short, i've managed to infatuate myself with a girl at work over the course of this past year. She's always been off and on with her now ex-bf who she still remains friends with. I didn't know until recently, but she was engaged to him shortly after her mother passed away, but she broke off the engagement about 6 months down the road. I've been the shoulder she's cried on when he hurt her, when she thought of her mother, and when she had a bad day at work. We work together and i saw her all the time. Spending all this time with her convinced me into thinking "she was the one". I got jealous of her and her best friend who is a guy...and how close they were...and how touchy/feely they are. So....after shutting her out for weeks and thinking about if i actually meant anything to her, i got her two roses and put them under her windshield wiper with a note that read "i'm sorry. -v- Bill". She took the flowers from her car, but didn't say a word to me. Shortly after, i put two more under her wiper and i wrote "if you had a rose for everytime i screwed up, you'd have a full garden". Still no response from her.

The next day, she saw me and said we needed to talk and walk, so that we did. She said she needed time to think about "us" and she "really wanted to get to know me better".

Last night, i went on a date with my old freshman year girlfriend. I had so much fun, i wasn't sure what was going on. We went to dinner and watched the wings game...then went on the streets after they took the cup home. People were going crazy...crowds of girls streaking...people lighting off fireworks...cars honking like crazy..I had a blast.

Back to girl #1...So...i "officially" asked her out for this saturday. she didn't seem to have a problem with it. I planned on double dating with my friend and going to dinner then bowling. I didn't tell her our plans yet, nor a time. I came back a couple hours later to her after confirming the time was ok with my double-date friend. I asked her if 8:30 was ok to pick her up. She gave me one of those "ehhh.." answers. I told her i wasn't forcing her to go...and that it wasn't too late to back out.

But this is the fvcked up part...now that i know i can date her, she's totally lost her appeal to me. I don't even care if i date her or go out with her. I know i COULD have had it. But..it's still young on friday night and i'm going out with the old freshman girlfriend to have yet, another great time. A friend at work told me even if i didn't want to date girl #1 anymore, to get a *slurrppp* beejer from her.

I dunno...so many thoughts....such little space...such a short attention span.

thanks for your ears.

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But this is the fvcked up part...now that i know i can date her, she's totally lost her appeal to me. I don't even care if i date her or go out with her. I know i COULD have had it. But..it's still young on friday night and i'm going out with the old freshman girlfriend to have yet, another great time. A friend at work told me even if i didn't want to date girl #1 anymore, to get a *slurrppp* beejer from her.
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That's the right attitude to have:

a. Never think any girl is the "one"; don't put them on a pedestal (sp?)
b. Dating is not a serious life/death decision, just have fun
c. Always date multiple girls, so you won't commit (a) above.

Now watch women flock to you. 😀
 
For some reason, maybe it is just me, but I thought I read something like this before.

At anyrate, you should go out with ones you're having fun with.

 
Originally posted by: WhoDeeny
WhoDeeny's # Rule: Never, everEVER, never date co-workers!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Agreed. If anything happens, one of you will have to leave/will lose their job.
 
Go for the freshman g/f, if you like her. This new girl, besides being a coworker (bad!), still has issues with her ex b/f, and seems somewhat lukewarm on going out with you. That's a recipe for disaster.
 
Originally posted by: fastz28
But this is the fvcked up part...now that i know i can date her, she's totally lost her appeal to me. I don't even care if i date her or go out with her. I know i COULD have had it. But..it's still young on friday night and i'm going out with the old freshman girlfriend to have yet, another great time. A friend at work told me even if i didn't want to date girl #1 anymore, to get a *slurrppp* beejer from her.
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That's the right attitude to have:

a. Never think any girl is the "one"; don't put them on a pedestal (sp?)
b. Dating is not a serious life/death decision, just have fun
c. Always date multiple girls, so you won't commit (a) above.

Now watch women flock to you. 😀
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Originally posted by: Koing
go out with the both of them.
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Originally posted by: Morella
Sure, why not date them both? It is not as if you have some major commitment to some one, you can play the field.
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You people make me sick. :disgust:
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Get over the other girl, that's what I say. I liked the same girl all through jr. high/high school, it didn't go away till I finally got a girlfriend in December, I'm still friends with that other girl, but I have no feelings for her anymore. Just go out with someone else, and your problems will fade.
 
I really don't understand what you consider to be a problem. If you have lost interest in Girl #1 then don't pursue her and let her go. You obviously enjoy spending time with girl #2 (A.K.A freshman) so go with your heart and your will probably be happier with that decision. It appears that you already decided that anyway but just wanted some confirmation. Then again what do I know, I?ve been dating the same woman for 24 years now and all my decisions are made for me. Just kidding ? I have a wonderful marriage. Good Luck.
 
Originally posted by: obiwaynekenobi
Originally posted by: iotone
Originally posted by: WhoDeeny
WhoDeeny's # Rule: Never, everEVER, never date co-workers!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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gotta agree with that one
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oh yeah I know about 5 different couples here wher eI work and oh man... I'm surprised that managment puts up with it...
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At my work they laid off one of the supervisors in part because he was involved with one of the women in the office (it's not against policy, but they were in the same department, and it caused controversy).
 
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