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Cookie

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Originally posted by: Chryso
Originally posted by: Cookie
Originally posted by: Chryso
I think she wanted to have a fight to blow off some steam and then have make up sex.

....with George

Not necessarily. Since they have only been together a month her family probably knows George and even though she is no longer with him it would be polite of him to go to the wake to show respect.

It is possible, but not so polite of her to tell the current bf not to come to the wake when George is going to be there, especially if it has only been 1 month.
 

brandonb

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Originally posted by: Chryso

Not necessarily. Since they have only been together a month her family probably knows George and even though she is no longer with him it would be polite of him to go to the wake to show respect.

I believe that was the idea. She was dating George for 4 years and broke up with him months ago... If anything, George was her backup plan, and I was the main guy... I met her family a week before, as they were having a party for her mom (she knew she was going, she had cancer, and had 2 weeks to live) and she wanted me to meet her mom before she passed away. If she had no intention of having a serious relationship with me, she wouldn't have had me meet her mom.

They also live in a small town, where everybody knows everybody. And she said that George called her, as word got around before the funeral and volunteered to come, she didn't ask him. I honestly believe she wasn't trying to get back with George, but I'm not sure...
 

dirtboy

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Her mind is on George and not you. Break up with her and find a girl 2 hours closer.
 

Chryso

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Originally posted by: brandonb
Originally posted by: Chryso

Not necessarily. Since they have only been together a month her family probably knows George and even though she is no longer with him it would be polite of him to go to the wake to show respect.

I believe that was the idea. She was dating George for 4 years and broke up with him months ago... If anything, George was her backup plan, and I was the main guy... I met her family a week before, as they were having a party for her mom (she knew she was going, she had cancer, and had 2 weeks to live) and she wanted me to meet her mom before she passed away. If she had no intention of having a serious relationship with me, she wouldn't have had me meet her mom.

They also live in a small town, where everybody knows everybody. And she said that George called her, as word got around before the funeral and volunteered to come, she didn't ask him. I honestly believe she wasn't trying to get back with George, but I'm not sure...

She dated George for 4 years and you for a month. If she wanted to be back with George she wouldn't even bother with you at all.
 

Cookie

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OR She is using you to make George jealous because she wants to get back together with him
 

meltdown75

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You were with her 1 month and her mom passes away. She asked you to GTFO, you should respect her wishes. Plain and simple.

Apologize for being an ass, shortly before saying "I'll be here if you need me."

Promptly make yourself scarce, losing a parent is way more important than your fledgling relationship.

edit: you added way too much unnecessary additional stress to her and quite possibly at the worst time imaginable.
 

y2kc

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read your post and imagine it's someone else writing it. what would your advice be? seriously man, this is a no brainer.
 

Cable God

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4.) = yes

select * from user
where username="brandonb"
and clue="yes";
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0 rows returned
 

brandonb

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I've already made up my mind to ignore her and move on... As my RL friends suggested, and have been doing so.

I will continue to do that.

I do appreciate the comments. I didnt know if I was overreacting, underreacting, or what.

Thanks.
 

stars

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Originally posted by: brandonb
I've already made up my mind to ignore her and move on... As my RL friends suggested, and have been doing so.

I will continue to do that.

I do appreciate the comments. I didnt know if I was overreacting, underreacting, or what.

Thanks.

Best of luck on the next female you meet.
 

Hyperblaze

Lifer
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Originally posted by: Cable God
4.) = yes

select * from user
where username=brandonb
and clue=yes;
------------------------
0 rows returned

Don't you need quotes on that?

ie, select * from user where username="brandonb" and clue="yes"?

 

Chryso

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Originally posted by: Cookie
OR She is using you to make George jealous because she wants to get back together with him

I thought she broke up with George.
 

Chryso

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Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: Cable God
4.) = yes

select * from user
where username=brandonb
and clue=yes;
------------------------
0 rows returned

Don't you need quotes on that?

ie, select * from user where username="brandonb" and clue="yes"?


That's why he got 0 rows returned.
 

Encryptic

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Originally posted by: brandonb
I've already made up my mind to ignore her and move on... As my RL friends suggested, and have been doing so.

I will continue to do that.

I do appreciate the comments. I didnt know if I was overreacting, underreacting, or what.

Thanks.

:beer:

He chose.....wisely. ;)
 

T9D

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Shes playing games. there is something more going on. And George is a factor for sure. She's also a major Drama queen. I'm almost thinking she is showing characteristics of someone with Borderline personality disorder. Those kind of people will have you question everything and nothing will ever make sense. Probably the tip of the iceburg. Best to move on like you decided.
 

GasX

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You layed a lot of crap on the lap of a girl who just lost her Mom for someone who has known her for a month. That event is such an upheaval that you have to just write off the relationship. Tell her to call you when she is ready and move on.

That's the cold hearted advice of someone older and wiser...
 

GasX

Lifer
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Originally posted by: tk109
Shes playing games. there is something more going on. And George is a factor for sure. She's also a major Drama queen. I'm almost thinking she is showing characteristics of someone with Borderline personality disorder. Those kind of people will have you question everything and nothing will ever make sense. Probably the tip of the iceburg. Best to move on like you decided.

She lost her Mom and some guy she knows for a month is being needy. Put that tidbit in the back of your mind and read the OP again.
 

djheater

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I wouldn't stick around for a girl whom I've only known a month who uses a parents death as an excuse to be melodramatic and cruel.

"I'm sorry you lost your mom, if I was your husband or fiance, or long-time boyfriend that might be enough of an excuse for me to put with you being a b!tch, as it is though, I'm out of here"

 

brandonb

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Just curious Mwilding.

What did I lay on her lap exactly? I tried my best to avoid anything. The only thing I can see I put on her lap was "I am thinking, and its not important, we'll talk about it later." Then she blew up on me...
 

meltdown75

Lifer
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Originally posted by: djheater
I wouldn't stick around for a girl whom I've only known a month who uses a parents death as an excuse to be melodramatic and cruel.

"I'm sorry you lost your mom, if I was your husband or fiance, or long-time boyfriend that might be enough of an excuse for me to put with you being a b!tch, as it is though, I'm out of here"
*taps sarcasm meter*