GF wants a break...so i date another girl, and...

[EXman]

This happened to me except I was more in her shoes. But I broke it off so she could go to school and enjoy it. I alienated nearly all my college buddies due to all the time I spent with her and I didn't want the same thing to happen to her. you know what she found someone almost immediatly and probably married him too. It can happen to you too!

make a clean break. pick yourself up. and move along. better for both of you it sounds like.

and yes I still miss her after 9 years But I remember just the good times... and then again I married a total Hottie and have a great Kid so things turned around for me too.

 

[Stark]

<-- gets the feeling bmacd doesn't know when he's been dumped.

1. they fight constantly
2. she's seeing someone else
3. he keeps calling

 

[Spike]

unfortunately I have to agree with the general opinion... dump her quickly, she deserves it. sorry about that dude, it sucks

-spike

 

[UberDave]

Well you may as well forget about ur gf...she's already gone dude. Go for the new chick.

 

[dakata24]

what's up with asking her to choice whether to break up or not and the "i dont have to tell you anything, but if i ask, you have to tell me" dont ask, dont tell policy.. balls in your court.. take the inititive and break up with her and move on...

 

[smp]

Originally posted by: Stark
<-- gets the feeling bmacd doesn't know when he's been dumped. 1. they fight constantly 2. she's seeing someone else 3. he keeps calling

dude the only thing you can do now is save yourself what dignity you have left and move on. Seriously, this is not sounding good, and yeah, like msot people I've been through it and it's fvckin messy and painful .. it's like jumping into a lake, you have to commit and just do it, cause you can't walk in slowly .. or something. Just be a big tough guy and dump her, don't be mean, just tell her that you don't want to be with her and that's it. Cut your losses and move on, even if she does come back, it'll suck, because the thoughts of this guy will always be in your head and you'll be hurting .. don't be desperate, just drop her.

 

[dirtboy]

Well, there will always be more girls around the corner. I'd break it off.

 

[Synoptic]

I can almost promise she already had someone lined up before this break happened. I have seen the situation a number of times and in every case it seems to be the same. I am working on the assumption, though, that this was initiated by her, since you don't specify in the post. The problem with a break is that everyone's definition is different. So, I would talk to her before jumping to any major conclusions.

 

[DeafeningSilence]

Your old GF might be hot, fun, nice, and whatever else... but she plays head games! That alone outweighs all the good! Completely separate yourself from her, because the games won't stop, and they will screw you up! Take it from me.

This is absolutely the right course of action, regardless of you status with other girls. If there's a hot girl from work right now... then great, that makes it easier. I'm happy for ya. But don't lose sight of the real issue here... your old GF wil bring you down. I've been there... and I'm still trying to climb back up.

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

You date another girl, but she's evil for dating another guy? If she didn't say it to make you jealous in the first place... (You hurt her, she wants to hurt you back)

I'd recommend she dumps you, you're just a manwhore anyway.

 

[Azraele]

She never saw anything in me. She's not even sure why she stuck around. That really hurt

Breakups can be emotion charged and ugly, and sometimes things are said that aren't truly meant. Keep that in mind, and remember, you will always mean something to someone, whether you know it or not.

 

[smp]

Originally posted by: Azraele

She never saw anything in me. She's not even sure why she stuck around. That really hurt

Breakups can be emotion charged and ugly, and sometimes things are said that aren't truly meant. Keep that in mind, and remember, you will always mean something to someone, whether you know it or not.

hahaha.. when I broke up with my last .. she goes, "You're never gonna have another girlfriend as pretty as me" .. she was bawling and sh!t, but I had to do it .. and I didn't freak on her or anything, I let her have that and think it .. but it only suppported my reasons for breaking up with her (superficial and dumb as board)

 

[tcsenter]

She asked what i wanted, but i put it back on her and made her say whatever. She told me that she thinks it should be a "don't ask, don't tell" policy. So...i told her i was going out this weekend with the new girl and she immediately told me that she's been seeing somebody too. It hasn't even been a week that we've been split up and she's supposedly already seeing somebody?

Umm...and just what did you think she had in mind when she wanted this "break"? She was already playing left, right, and center fields, buddy, and she wanted an arrangement where she couldn't be accused of 'technically' doing anything wrong.

Drop her like a bad habit.

 

[Peetoeng]

Originally posted by: hpkeeper
I'm using my theory alot on the forum tonight... it's like this man:

just over 50% of the earths population is female... don't waste time with one that is giving you a hard time


You haven't entered the world of manliness yet you don't have your pills yet... so do yourself a favor... grow some balls and ditch her.

Plenty of fish out there in the sea,
Tunas, salmons, eels, and squids.
Get a shushi combo
And you get a taste of 'em all.


Get silly, it's beer time!

 

[dakata24]

bump for an update.

 

[bmacd]

latest situation: she called late last night...er...it's 3:30am saturday morning now, so thursday night. We did the usual small talk..."how are you...what's new..." and then she asked what i was doing this weekend. I told her i was going to Ypsi this weekend (Eastern Michigan University) and she immediately jumped in the offensive position. "What are you doing up there? Who are you staying with?" I told her it was just an old friend and not a big deal. She said, "Hmmph" Then she got online and here is a quick convo before she got offline in a crap attitude:

Session Start (AIM - BMACD:Heidi): Thu Jul 25 23:42:36 2002
Heidi: hi
BMACD: hey
BMACD: wow...you have really big font
Heidi: I like big things
BMACD: so is that why you moved on
BMACD: j/k
Heidi: why were you mean to me earlier?
BMACD: i didn't intend on doing so
BMACD: the convo didn't exactly go in the direction that i anticipated
BMACD: *i think*
BMACD: i dunno
Heidi: what did you want me to say? we didn't really like talk about anything
BMACD: i wanted you to say the rules of this break thing
BMACD: i told you i've never done this before
Heidi: it was nice of you to tell me I was going to go bang other guys, or no wait have I already? oh hold on, I might have when we were still together
BMACD: i didn't want to do something and have it bite me in the ass
BMACD: ouch
BMACD: that's kinda harsh
Heidi: well so was your comment about it
BMACD: so what exactly happens when you goto canada/clubs when i'm not there then?
BMACD: surely you don't dance alone or with your girls only....
Heidi: what do you think? cause obviously you know me so well
BMACD: obviously...
BMACD: i think that me be the biggest understatement of our relationship
Heidi: that comment hurt a lot, I had misty eyes
BMACD: "obviously, i don't know you so well"
Heidi: what?
BMACD: just repeating what you said
BMACD: ...?
Heidi: so why are you going to EMU this weekend?
BMACD: to see an old friend
Heidi: an old girlfriend?
BMACD: does it make a difference?
Heidi: yes
BMACD: how's that?
BMACD: what happened to the "don't ask, don't tell" policy?
Heidi: because you are using jelousy tactics
BMACD: no
Heidi: well I am asking
BMACD: just trying to sort some things out
Heidi: that means that you don't offer info, you just give it when asked
BMACD: hmm
BMACD: so is there a posted set of rules for this "we're on a break" relationship?
BMACD: or is this "make them up as you go so your ass is covered?"
BMACD: you obvisouly wanted a break for awhile...
Heidi: just don't do stuff with me, if you do stuff with other girls....
BMACD: otherwise, you wouldn't have asked me to put your little dashboard confessional on the CD
BMACD: you asked me at least a week ahead of time to put some songs on there
BMACD: knowing that they are "break up songs" or whatever the hell you call them
BMACD: and you also felt the need to tell me you were already seeing somebody...
Heidi: OMG!!!!! they are another one of my favorites.... as I have stated before, they are good for break ups
Heidi: when did I tell you that?
BMACD: which only makes me question how long you've been dating/seeing/planning this
BMACD: breaking up with somebody over a song? what are you, two?
Heidi: what are you talking about?
BMACD: you made mention of it on the phone
Heidi: breaking up over a song?
Heidi: you are fvcked up ******<---had to edit the F word out*****
BMACD: what?
BMACD: as I have stated before, they are good for break ups
BMACD: ?????
BMACD: how immature is it to resort to using a song to break up with somebody?
BMACD: geesh
BMACD: i've come to the conclusion that you wanted a break b/c you're looking to see what else is out there, which is perfectly acceptable
BMACD: i'm not your father, your husband, or somebody who should be controlling you
Heidi: it just happened to be on that cd.... and it was kinda awkward that it was on during that exact moment
BMACD: nooooo
BMACD: you flicked it on
BMACD: actually took the two seconds to change tracks
BMACD: and i changed it as soon as you put it on
BMACD: i put on "Life" or "Are you Sad" by OLP when we had our little talk
BMACD: and left it on repeat
BMACD: then you changed tracks not too long after
BMACD: no comment?
*** Error while sending IM: Not logged on
BMACD: ?

she got offline and we talked on the phone. I think we broke up that night b/c all we were doing was fighting. I haven't talked to her since. I'm not sure i want to anymore. She was perfect when i was reacquanted with her a month or two ago after not seeing her for two or three years. Things went great...i had puppy love for her. Then the puppy love started dying....and i started to come to the realization that things were NOT perfect between us...and she had bad habits (not that i don't, but dating is purely trial and error...) and i think...i dunno what i think. But that's the update.

-=bmacd=-

 

[wizz0bang]

Woa... glad I'm still GF free at 25! When you have P4 and WC3 on the way, who needs a GF!

<--- such a geek he can't get a date... ever.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: wizz0bang
Woa... glad I'm still GF free at 25! When you have P4 and WC3 on the way, who needs a GF!

<--- such a geek he can't get a date... ever.

God, I hope that's not me at 25...

<--- six years till he's 25 and hopefully out of school for good.

 

[wizz0bang]

<--- six years till he's 25 and hopefully out of school for good.

What's wrong with being a professional student???

<---- 3 degrees from university and wants another!
<---- former server admin, network geek, pc repair geek, UNIX geek... work sucks, back to school, again!

BTW: many people on these forums either bitch about their GFs, brag about their GFs or otherwise talk about their GFs... but I'm willing to bet most people on here have never had a GF! Like me! I'm just being honest. I get sick of every other hot deal reference having "picked one up for my GF" or "my GF needs one" haha! Without a GF I have loads of time and money to spend on all my hobbies... but sleeping alone kind of sucks after 25 years...

 

[bmacd]

i'm too needy to not have a gf. I'm not some kind of "player" or womanizer, but i really enjoy the comfort of being in a close relationship. Single and lonely=suck. Girls are a dime a dozen, the valuable ones are are worth their weight in gold.

-=bmacd=-

 

[microAmp]

Originally posted by: PowerMac4Ever
From what I gather, it *seems* like you calling her in an effort to make her jealous. I also think she made up the "new guy" in order to make you jealous. That's my view of things, but don't take it personally if I'm wrong.

I'll have to agree on the above.

I know i'd be a hypocrite seeing as i'm doing the same thing, but i at least had the decency to let her know, be it her business or not. I'm not sure if she said that as some way of protecting herself, but it kinda hurt knowing that she got over me so quickly.

For the quote above from bmacd maybe she feels the same thing about you getting over so quickly.

 

[TheCoop]

Sounds like the decision has already been made. Drop the bitch like a bad habit and move on. Seemed like she was real quick to tell you she was dating already so good riddance, especially if she thought things were going too fast.