getting married is expensive as hell...how do people pay for it?

[Maverick]

Originally posted by: yamahaXS
taking out a loan sounds foolish... besides, who is going to loan you money for an event that has no collateral value?

pretty common...its called a personal loan.

 

[AmdInside]

My fiancee and I are splitting the church, reception, photographer, DJ and furniture costs 50/50. I feel bad because I am inviting a lot more peopel that she is (I come from a large family). But she insists 50/50.

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: Shiva112

Originally posted by: dirtboy

Originally posted by: Shiva112
For anyone who sits there and says I'm marrying gold digger, piss off. She is not the kind of girl who expects expensive things.

You are the one who should piss off. You start a thread where you're complaining about the cost of your wedding without any details. Now that you've clarified this, I'm sure everyone would take back their original opinions, but that doesn't mean their origninal opinions weren't justified.

So if you have all this money and she has all this money, go get married, pay for it yourself and quit whining.

Complaining about the cost of my wedding? I was just asking a question about how people afford their weddings. I haven't even proposed to the girl yet so I dunno where you're getting that from. And how can you say people are justifed in forming an opinion about someone being a gold digger JUST because they want a big wedding. Talk about jumping to conclusions.

Because you're the one who was vague and then started pointing fingers. The reality is, most women who say they want an expensive wedding are gold diggers. Especially if they know their parents aren't going to pay for it, you're not going to pay for it, they're not going to pay for it, or nobody can really afford this grand mega-expensive wedding. That's what a gold digger is, someone who insists on having something that they know will put a financial burden on someone they know, love or claim to love.

And yes you are complaning about the cost. The title of this thread is: "getting married is expensive as hell." Why would you make such a statement if you didn't think it was expensive?

People pay for weddings just like they do houses, cars or anything else they can't afford: its called borrowing. Could be a loan, a second mortgage, a personal loan, a student loan... you get the idea. Of course you can start saving money too. It all depends on how much you make, how much you want to spend and how soon you are going to be getting married.

 

[Maverick]

Originally posted by: dirtboy

Because you're the one who was vague and then started pointing fingers. The reality is, most women who say they want an expensive wedding are gold diggers. Especially if they know their parents aren't going to pay for it, you're not going to pay for it, they're not going to pay for it, or nobody can really afford this grand mega-expensive wedding. That's what a gold digger is, someone who insists on having something that they know will put a financial burden on someone they know, love or claim to love.

And yes you are complaning about the cost. The title of this thread is: "getting married is expensive as hell." Why would you make such a statement if you didn't think it was expensive?

People pay for weddings just like they do houses, cars or anything else they can't afford: its called borrowing. Could be a loan, a second mortgage, a personal loan, a student loan... you get the idea. Of course you can start saving money too. It all depends on how much you make, how much you want to spend and how soon you are going to be getting married.

Keep the generalizations coming. At what point did I say that my woman expected ME to pay for the entire cost? And how does a woman wanting an expensive wedding imply that she expects her significant other to incur the entire cost?

Obviously people can take out loans for weddings. But obviously not everyone does, and I wanted to know what people do to save dough on a wedding. I guess some people find any excuse to start flaming.

 

[Oakenfold]

Hey pal!
How's the gigabyte holding up?

People apply for loans quite a bit to pay for their weddings, I don't recommend doing that.
I've been married for just 2 years, my wife's parent's organized it, they paid for the church, and we had a reception at their house.
I preferably would have just gone to the justice as well as my wife rather than spend money on the ceremony and dress etc..
Use the money for a rockin honeymoon or travel somewhere and get married, quite a few places will do package deals for you to get married and they really aren't that expensive in comparison to having an actual wedding with craploads of people there.

You have to deceide what is important to you and what's important to your bride to be and go with that.
I honestly would take back my decision of making her parents happy and gone off to Jamaica or Costa Rica to get married, the day is about YOU, not other people.. YOu only get one time so make it enjoyable!

 

[blakeatwork]

Originally posted by: Shiva112
My gf was telling me how much a wedding will probably cost us and now I feel like I can't get married till I'm 35. Those of you who are married, how the hell did you afford it?

Easy... The most expensive part at our wedding will be the food... We're having a pavilion setup, I'm making my own armour, she's having her dress made (second most expensive), and we';ve gotten great deals on photography and DJ'ing

All total, excluding honeymoon ($3000), we're looking at roughly $3000 for the wedding and reception for 100 people..

 

[Rudee]

I'm a bit terrified of Marriage myself. Out of 6 of my friends whom were married in the late 80's early 90's, only 1 is still happily married. The rest are divorced and paying child support. 🙁

 

[ElFenix]

i think i like vi_edit's marriage plans best.

someone explain this whole chinese wedding thing to me though, i might like that more

 

[Topher]

I got married in Prince George's County, MD - it's easy and cheap. Marriage license cost $55 (I think, I forget) - nothing else, no blood test (as per PA), and only a 24 hour wait (longer if you apply on a Friday, since you have to wait until Monday) beore you can get married. They perform the ceremony at the courthouse in Landover, and there is no fee for it, you don't even have to tell them you're coming, just show up and a clerk is on hand to perform the ceremony. I was out the $55 plus gas. Then again, the wife and I didn't want a big wedding anyway. 6.5 years, 2 kids and 2 countries later, we're still happily married, I might add. Just alot poorer.

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: badluck
let her parents pay for it...

 

[RaymondY]

Get married does cost $$$ however u don't have to spend a fortune. I got married for $5,000 including the receiption and paying for hotel rooms.

I got the chapel rented for free and my wife didn't go overboard inviting everyone she knew. We keep it small, mainly family and a few friends. Didn't have the receiption at a four star resturant/club so I saved too.

A friend of my wife spend $30,000+ on my wedding and honeymoon. Personally I would rather have a smaller wedding and pocket the extra.

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: Shiva112Keep the generalizations coming. At what point did I say that my woman expected ME to pay for the entire cost?

Originally posted by: Shiva112
My gf was telling me how much a wedding will probably cost us and now I feel like I can't get married till I'm 35.

Those are your own words. Little do you know, but whatever expenses the two of you incur seperately, once you are married they are a joint responsibility.

Maybe you should try to remember what you say before you start attacking other people.

 

[FoBoT]

spend less
you/she don't have to be idiots and spend a year's salary on a wedding

just say NO!

 

[bbkat]

"getting married is expensive as hell..."

It's a lot cheaper than getting divorced...

 

[Lola]

You males have to understand where alot of females are coming from in this situation. Its every girls dream to have a fairy tale wedding. WE start planning it when we are old enough to understand the concept of marriage. We played games in elementary school and junior high to see what color the wedding dress would be and where we were going on our honeymoon.
Wanting a nice, elegant wedding DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS A GOLDDIGGER:disgust: not at all. This is gonna be one of the msot memorable days of both of your lives. don't just blow it off. spend a little bit of money. don't go into debt, but i can understand wanting a nice wedding.

 

[vi edit]

Originally posted by: ActPrincess
You males have to understand where alot of females are coming from in this situation. Its every girls dream to have a fairy tale wedding. WE start planning it when we are old enough to understand the concept of marriage. We played games in elementary school and junior high to see what color the wedding dress would be and where we were going on our honeymoon.
Wanting a nice, elegant wedding DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS A GOLDDIGGER:disgust: not at all. This is gonna be one of the msot memorable days of both of your lives. don't just blow it off. spend a little bit of money. don't go into debt, but i can understand wanting a nice wedding.

I agree, but then nearly EVERY SINGLE woman I have talked to that had a huge elaborate wedding that cost tens of thousands of dollars says they regret spending that much and wish they'd used it to put twords a house or something a little more practical.

WTF is the point?

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Originally posted by: ActPrincess
You males have to understand where alot of females are coming from in this situation. Its every girls dream to have a fairy tale wedding. WE start planning it when we are old enough to understand the concept of marriage. We played games in elementary school and junior high to see what color the wedding dress would be and where we were going on our honeymoon.
Wanting a nice, elegant wedding DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS A GOLDDIGGER:disgust: not at all. This is gonna be one of the msot memorable days of both of your lives. don't just blow it off. spend a little bit of money. don't go into debt, but i can understand wanting a nice wedding.

I agree, but then nearly EVERY SINGLE woman I have talked to that had a huge elaborate wedding that cost tens of thousands of dollars says they regret spending that much and wish they'd used it to put twords a house or something a little more practical.

WTF is the point?

WHOA THERE! i didn't mean $10k+. i meant a nice, elegant wedding not going over board. perosnally, i dont need a designer gown, nor a 3000$ cake, nor hand painted china dishes. I see people spend money on frivolities for one day and thats it. You don't need to go into debt to plan a beautiful wedding. I guess though, nowadays, bigger is better for alot of women. It is that small handful of bitchy brides that give the rest of us "normal" girls a bad name and turn boyfriends off at the idea of a wedding. I am jsut saying, weddings are important to females because they hope thats the only one they will ever have.

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: ActPrincess
You males have to understand where alot of females are coming from in this situation. Its every girls dream to have a fairy tale wedding. WE start planning it when we are old enough to understand the concept of marriage. We played games in elementary school and junior high to see what color the wedding dress would be and where we were going on our honeymoon.
Wanting a nice, elegant wedding DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS A GOLDDIGGER:disgust: not at all. This is gonna be one of the msot memorable days of both of your lives. don't just blow it off. spend a little bit of money. don't go into debt, but i can understand wanting a nice wedding.

I have no problem with wanting something nice, don't get me wrong. I want a nice, expensive sports car. I realize that before I do that, I need to save money and have a place to park it that has a garage. I don't expect anyone else to pay for it, but me.

So if a woman wants an expensive wedding and that is her dream, then she should start planning and saving for it early on. The expectation is typically that the father/family of the bride will pay for it and if they can't, then the burden is typically shifted to the husband or the couple. Why should the man give up his wants, dreams, and desires for his partner? Oh wait, that's what marriage is all about...

The problem is, while women start dreaming early, no effective financial plan is put into place early to cover the expenses and that's the problem.

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: ActPrincess

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Originally posted by: ActPrincess
You males have to understand where alot of females are coming from in this situation. Its every girls dream to have a fairy tale wedding. WE start planning it when we are old enough to understand the concept of marriage. We played games in elementary school and junior high to see what color the wedding dress would be and where we were going on our honeymoon.
Wanting a nice, elegant wedding DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS A GOLDDIGGER:disgust: not at all. This is gonna be one of the msot memorable days of both of your lives. don't just blow it off. spend a little bit of money. don't go into debt, but i can understand wanting a nice wedding.

I agree, but then nearly EVERY SINGLE woman I have talked to that had a huge elaborate wedding that cost tens of thousands of dollars says they regret spending that much and wish they'd used it to put twords a house or something a little more practical.

WTF is the point?

WHOA THERE! i didn't mean $10k+. i meant a nice, elegant wedding not going over board. perosnally, i dont need a designer gown, nor a 3000$ cake, nor hand painted china dishes. I see people spend money on frivolities for one day and thats it. You don't need to go into debt to plan a beautiful wedding. I guess though, nowadays, bigger is better for alot of women. It is that small handful of bitchy brides that give the rest of us "normal" girls a bad name and turn boyfriends off at the idea of a wedding. I am jsut saying, weddings are important to females because they hope thats the only one they will ever have.

want to elope to the yucatan and have an elegant wedding at sunrise on the beach with me? 😀

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: ActPrincess
WHOA THERE! i didn't mean $10k+. i meant a nice, elegant wedding not going over board. perosnally, i dont need a designer gown, nor a 3000$ cake, nor hand painted china dishes. I see people spend money on frivolities for one day and thats it. You don't need to go into debt to plan a beautiful wedding. I guess though, nowadays, bigger is better for alot of women. It is that small handful of bitchy brides that give the rest of us "normal" girls a bad name and turn boyfriends off at the idea of a wedding. I am jsut saying, weddings are important to females because they hope thats the only one they will ever have.

YOU may not have meant that 10k+ is needed for a nice wedding, but too many women, 10k is just the beginning. Hell, my cousin who is either a year older or younger than me got married earlier this year. As far as I can tell, her dad spent at least $50,000.

 

[dquan97]

I'm getting married in May in Sacramento, CA. I'm paying for the whole thing by myself by saving $ since a year ago (putting 50% of paycheck into savings account). My relatives will most likely give $. Expecting 200ppl.

Reception hall - $2000
Food - $2500
Wedding dress - $500
Tux - $75
Church - $100
Gifts - $500
Cake - $50
Limo - $100
Honeymoon - $2000
Flowers - $400
Engagement Ring - $1200
Wedding bands - $370 (both)
Party favors - $100
Photographer - Free
DJ/music - Free
Invitations - Free

 

[shopbruin]

Originally posted by: ElFenix


someone explain this whole chinese wedding thing to me though, i might like that more

there's not much to it - most people at the banquet (reception) will give money instead of presents. if its just two people going, they'll normally give about 50 bucks. when my whole family would go (6 of us) it would cost about 200 bucks.

at my uncle's wedding, the money collected that nite paid off the banquet. ten course chinese banquet, mmm, rented out the entire floor of a restaurant (yeah they went all out and my uncle is a moron and divorced the one woman that would be able to stand his insanity... stupid... even when i was five years old and they were still going out she was always so nice to me. what a doofus) anyways the money collected was about 15k.

 

[CallTheFBI]

Originally posted by: freesia39

Originally posted by: ElFenix


someone explain this whole chinese wedding thing to me though, i might like that more

there's not much to it - most people at the banquet (reception) will give money instead of presents. if its just two people going, they'll normally give about 50 bucks. when my whole family would go (6 of us) it would cost about 200 bucks.

at my uncle's wedding, the money collected that nite paid off the banquet. ten course chinese banquet, mmm, rented out the entire floor of a restaurant (yeah they went all out and my uncle is a moron and divorced the one woman that would be able to stand his insanity... stupid... even when i was five years old and they were still going out she was always so nice to me. what a doofus) anyways the money collected was about 15k.

$15,000?! Wow, I think I will stage a phony wedding to get a bunch of money out of my relatives.

 

[Davegod75]

i think three of my sisters got married for under 10k eack one i know was under 5k

 

[Geekbabe]

oh yeah,just another example of how women and what they want sucks and is stupid.