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DougK62

DougK62

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Mar 28, 2001
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If you are a good father and you both want custody, then if she has a brain in her head and a heart in her chest she would gladly agree to 50-50 custody.

She sounds like a real bitch.
 
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conjur

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Jun 7, 2001
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Stick to your guns!

As long as you can show that you have tried to be reasonable and she keeps refusing, when mediation fails and it goes before the judge, your ex will get b!tch-slapped by the judge! Judges do not like to see one person being obstinate over and over.
 
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conjur

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Jun 7, 2001
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Originally posted by: conjur
Stick to your guns!

As long as you can show that you have tried to be reasonable and she keeps refusing, when mediation fails and it goes before the judge, your ex will get b!tch-slapped by the judge! Judges do not like to see one person being obstinate over and over.
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This same advice still applies.

Your ex and my ex's lawyer would have made a great match. Evil, despicable creatures only out for money.

Let her keep filing motion after motion in front of the judge. The squeaky wheel DON'T get the grease from a judge. Judges HATE seeing bickering and waffling, esp. once a verbal agreement was already reached.

You're in good standing as I see it, SaigonK. Just keep up your journal of your conversations with her and agreements she's broken.
 
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KK

Lifer
Jan 2, 2001
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You need to find a hitman and do it nice and easy. :D

just kidding of course. Good luck.

KK
 
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Mookow

Lifer
Apr 24, 2001
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Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Heh, reworked the arrest warrant for my ex, I'm pretty sure she's in jail as we speak:evil:
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Did you end up getting her arrested when she came to visit?
 
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badmouse

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Dec 3, 2003
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Sorry to hear that things are going badly. Hang in there. I know what you're going thru. Custody fights are the worst.

Beer helps :beer: (YMMV)
 
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spidey07

No Lifer
Aug 4, 2000
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take conjur's advice.

She has now fully made the transition to PSBFH.

100 bucks says she's been talking to her girlfriends/new boyfriend and they're all telling her to "take him for all he's worth"

protect yourself and keep up talking to your attorney.
 
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badmouse

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Dec 3, 2003
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Try not to take it personally. There's this creepy school of thought i call the "divorce mafia" that turns people into horrible bloodsucking idiots for a while. I've seen it happen with people I know, and I never realized how it worked until I hit my own divorce. You're in a really vulnerable, confusing state of mind, and then a lot of people (lawyers, friends, etc) start telling you how right you are and how bad your spouse was, and how much you deserve, and how you should be aggressive, go for the whole hog, etc.

I think it especially hits people who feel guilty at their own responsibility for the breakup. It's a lot easier than cleaning up your act and doing the right thing.

Take good care of those kids of yours. They need as much sanity and stability as they can get. Keep good records and be prepared for anything. Hope it gets better soon.


 
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dannybin1742

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Jan 16, 2002
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if its joint funds, why not gift the money to your kids, or give the money to a relative, then after hte divorce is over, have them give it back
 
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Armitage

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Feb 23, 2001
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Funny how it was "not about the money" before, but it's all about the money now :( My STBX is taking things down the same path ... completely threw out the verbal agreement we had on property division the day we hit mediation (and we had just discussed it the night before). Also, now claims that I tricked her into signing a parenting plan that she now doesn't agree with (you mean the parenting plan that you had weeks to review, that your lawyer was supposed to review, that you signed under advice of counsel in front of a notary?? That parenting plan?)

She wanted this whole thing to be friendly, yet she's the one who has escalated it at every possible opportunity. So the gloves have come off on my end now also ... mediation was the last straw.

On the tax thing ... I'm in the process of trying to get her to sign an agreement that the tax result ... whether refund or payment, will be split such that we each will end up having paid an identical % of our income. I suspect that we will owe on the order of $1500, due to an error we made wrt dependent care spending accounts.

Good luck ... can't believe you're still in the house. My stress level has dropped tremendously ... to almost bearable levels ... since she finally left. But I understand your situation ... good luck.
 
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Armitage

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Feb 23, 2001
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Originally posted by: dannybin1742
if its joint funds, why not gift the money to your kids, or give the money to a relative, then after hte divorce is over, have them give it back
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I don't know about giving it to the kids. But you can't give it away to a relative as your suggesting. You can't give away marital assets without the consent of the other party.
 
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SuperTool

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Jan 25, 2000
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The more amicable the divorce, the better it is for the kids. You both should keep in mind how your actions now effect the kids, because you could fvck them up emotionally for life.
 
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