It seems to be that this is a scenario which is quite common today, where people prefer to getting to know someone well first, before they go out on dates with them.
Some people do this intentionally, other people say that this is just the way it ends up happening.
In either case it is something that I cannot understand. I dont know about anyone else. But I find that I can't get to know someone really well in a group setting, and that basically you have to call the person out and ask them to do something one on one with you, if you want to get to know them better (and i consider that the same as asking someone out on a date)
I suppose maybe there is a rare scenario where lets say you work with someone and you are aronud them all the time, so you get to know them. Or they were just the neighbor next door, or something like that. But it seems like those opportunities are so rare that it would be a long wait, and also your selection would be severly limited if you only dated people that you knew well beforehand (I also thought the point of dating was to get to know someone better, and that was why you dated)
I guess I hear people that say, "well I've noticed that it always happens that I'm real good friends with my guys or my girls first, before I date them"
And I'm wondering why this is so. Does dating just jynx the situation? Does dating just not work, and that is why some didnt meet/get-to-know their girlfriend/boyfriend through dating?
Or is it that people are just too afraid to ask other people out on dates? So the only people they get to know are those that they can get to know without stepping out on a limb (you get to know them in a way without having to hangout with them one on one)
Some people do this intentionally, other people say that this is just the way it ends up happening.
In either case it is something that I cannot understand. I dont know about anyone else. But I find that I can't get to know someone really well in a group setting, and that basically you have to call the person out and ask them to do something one on one with you, if you want to get to know them better (and i consider that the same as asking someone out on a date)
I suppose maybe there is a rare scenario where lets say you work with someone and you are aronud them all the time, so you get to know them. Or they were just the neighbor next door, or something like that. But it seems like those opportunities are so rare that it would be a long wait, and also your selection would be severly limited if you only dated people that you knew well beforehand (I also thought the point of dating was to get to know someone better, and that was why you dated)
I guess I hear people that say, "well I've noticed that it always happens that I'm real good friends with my guys or my girls first, before I date them"
And I'm wondering why this is so. Does dating just jynx the situation? Does dating just not work, and that is why some didnt meet/get-to-know their girlfriend/boyfriend through dating?
Or is it that people are just too afraid to ask other people out on dates? So the only people they get to know are those that they can get to know without stepping out on a limb (you get to know them in a way without having to hangout with them one on one)
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