try and get with this chick for a couple nights of hot action and then quit your job and move. get the player/pimp mentality going already. don't waste time thinking about other guys, just get with their chicks!
try and get with this chick for a couple nights of hot action and then quit your job and move. get the player/pimp mentality going already. don't waste time thinking about other guys, just get with their chicks!
this is none of your business. stay out of it. In the future don't get involved.
is your life so lame that you must inject yourself into the relationship troubles of others? Who do you think you are man.
:disgust:
is your life so lame that you must inject yourself into the relationship troubles of others? Who do you think you are man.
:disgust:
i work at the it department all the time and see all kinds of stuff like this in emails.... if you cant keep it to yourself tell it to your wife or gf or to your cat or something
mind your own business seriously you just made an enemy cause she will tell him eventually and even so thats just low to go around talking smack about ppl behind their back, even if it is true
waggy
No Lifer
- Dec 14, 2000
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damn glad you do not work for me and are not my friend. Pitty that managment is not going to find out so they can fire you. Also its to bad your "friend" does not find out so he can do something about it.
I have say it sounds like you want to hook up with this girl and are takeing advantage of information you got (very questionably i might add!).
I have say it sounds like you want to hook up with this girl and are takeing advantage of information you got (very questionably i might add!).
sixone
Lifer
- May 3, 2004
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You may have saved her from a venereal disease, which rates far higher than the privacy of WORK-RELATED email privacy. This other girl may not be the only one, just the only one you know about.
She owes him no explanation whatsoever. If this relationship was so important to him, he wouldn't have been fvcking around. If she wants to tell him she knows he's been cheating, that's her call, but he doesn't need to know how she found out. He's not entitled to jack squat after the way he acted.
She owes him no explanation whatsoever. If this relationship was so important to him, he wouldn't have been fvcking around. If she wants to tell him she knows he's been cheating, that's her call, but he doesn't need to know how she found out. He's not entitled to jack squat after the way he acted.
Review your company policy on what would actually constitute a violation of privacy etc. Usually company computers, and at least in the Air Force, (I work in IT for air force) there is consent to monitoring warnings.
Which basically implies that your stuff might get monitored, your emails might get inspected etc.
It would be illegal/against policy to intentionally go digging around in that guy's email box to find out personal information on him. Or to monitor specific people without just cause/reason to believe they are violating policy or breaking the law. Civilian laws etc are different yet similar.
So, depending on your companies monitoring policies to ensure that the employees are not out viewing porn etc at work, and going with the idea that random checks and monitoring take place, you should be ok to report the findings to your superiors as well.
I am assuming you had authorization to go into his mail box in the first place to retrieve files, you then noticed while searching for the files, what appeared to be email correspondence that violated company policy, and in doing so you discovered said information.
And as for telling the friend, I believe you did the right thing, you may have violated policies, who is to say for sure, except you and your supervisors, and your company policy. That is fine to admit as well.
As for these people here who "won't violate anything unless they know it to be clearly illegal, and mind your own business" crowd are out of touch with reality. It isn't that you are releasing financial, medical, or corporate information protected by any sort of privacy act. Basically if you had overheard this guy chatting it up on the phone with some other chic, and you heard only his side, and you knew it wasn't your friend, or you saw them in a restaurant and caught part of the conversation, you would be in the same boat you are now, and they are telling you to mind your own business.
My advice would be to come clean with your work, let them know what happened, and what you found out, and what actions you took, I doubt they will fire you over it, though you may get verbally, and or written counceling, and guidance on how to handle similar situations in the future to comply with company policy, and at the same time, you can talk to your female friend, and in that case, just let her know you where concerned, and would support her, and are ok if she states that she found said information out from you.
Chances are, though, to preserve the friendship with the female friend, you need to not get involved beyond just informing her of what you saw, don't offer any advice on how she should proceed, or not proceed.
Which basically implies that your stuff might get monitored, your emails might get inspected etc.
It would be illegal/against policy to intentionally go digging around in that guy's email box to find out personal information on him. Or to monitor specific people without just cause/reason to believe they are violating policy or breaking the law. Civilian laws etc are different yet similar.
So, depending on your companies monitoring policies to ensure that the employees are not out viewing porn etc at work, and going with the idea that random checks and monitoring take place, you should be ok to report the findings to your superiors as well.
I am assuming you had authorization to go into his mail box in the first place to retrieve files, you then noticed while searching for the files, what appeared to be email correspondence that violated company policy, and in doing so you discovered said information.
And as for telling the friend, I believe you did the right thing, you may have violated policies, who is to say for sure, except you and your supervisors, and your company policy. That is fine to admit as well.
As for these people here who "won't violate anything unless they know it to be clearly illegal, and mind your own business" crowd are out of touch with reality. It isn't that you are releasing financial, medical, or corporate information protected by any sort of privacy act. Basically if you had overheard this guy chatting it up on the phone with some other chic, and you heard only his side, and you knew it wasn't your friend, or you saw them in a restaurant and caught part of the conversation, you would be in the same boat you are now, and they are telling you to mind your own business.
My advice would be to come clean with your work, let them know what happened, and what you found out, and what actions you took, I doubt they will fire you over it, though you may get verbally, and or written counceling, and guidance on how to handle similar situations in the future to comply with company policy, and at the same time, you can talk to your female friend, and in that case, just let her know you where concerned, and would support her, and are ok if she states that she found said information out from you.
Chances are, though, to preserve the friendship with the female friend, you need to not get involved beyond just informing her of what you saw, don't offer any advice on how she should proceed, or not proceed.
Huh? While that's a possibility, you know NOTHING of this guy's sexual practices. Just because a guy cheats on his "girlfriend" doesn't mean that he's unsafe when he does it.
I think coming clean with his work is the worst thing he could do. I would just leave the whole thing go.
The last thing he wants to tell them is he snooped through someone's email and found out so-and-so is cheating on this girl, and this girl wants to have a kid, and blah blah. They don't want to hear that drama. I don't buy the "I came across it when I was looking for files in exchange." He was snooping around.
You shouldn't tell her anymore details or even talk to her about the situation anymore, it isn't your business.
The OP's initial intentions don't mean anything. What matters is what he did with the information he stumbled upon.
I disagree with telling the girl first. You should have confronted the guy first, given him an ultimatum:
"Tell her in a week or I will"
If he hits you or attacks you then you make out with a hefty lawsuit and can use the $$ to take his ex out and show her a good time.
Let the naysayers say "mind your own business"...I say nice work! Even if you aren't intending on getting with this girl, no one deserves to be cheated on and this guy is getting what he deserves.
Good job!
I disagree with telling the girl first. You should have confronted the guy first, given him an ultimatum:
"Tell her in a week or I will"
If he hits you or attacks you then you make out with a hefty lawsuit and can use the $$ to take his ex out and show her a good time.
Let the naysayers say "mind your own business"...I say nice work! Even if you aren't intending on getting with this girl, no one deserves to be cheated on and this guy is getting what he deserves.
Good job!
SpunkyJones
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- Apr 1, 2004
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JulesMaximus
No Lifer
- Jul 3, 2003
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Why on earth you got in the middle of this mess in the first place is beyond me. Are you a chick? 
Wow what a bunch of A-holes in this thread.
You did the right thing buddy. However you happened to come about it. At least you know you helped someone out and did what is right. People you care about matter more than a stupid job anyway.
I hope all you other people have cheating wives that other people know about and are keeping it from you. Would be different if it was the other way around huh?
You did the right thing buddy. However you happened to come about it. At least you know you helped someone out and did what is right. People you care about matter more than a stupid job anyway.
I hope all you other people have cheating wives that other people know about and are keeping it from you. Would be different if it was the other way around huh?
RadiclDreamer
Diamond Member
- Aug 8, 2004
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ViviTheMage
Lifer
you did the right thing, thats for sure.
she could just break up, well because its not working out. girls say it all the time.
she could just break up, well because its not working out. girls say it all the time.
MrPickins
Diamond Member
- May 24, 2003
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So he was trying to sleep with another girl after he had been dating the original one for 1 month?
So fvcking what? They aren't married, they have no kids. You don't seem to have any evidence that he continued trying to sleep with other women.
Unless you are trying to drive a wedge between them so you can go after the girl, you have no reason to stick your nose in it...
So fvcking what? They aren't married, they have no kids. You don't seem to have any evidence that he continued trying to sleep with other women.
Unless you are trying to drive a wedge between them so you can go after the girl, you have no reason to stick your nose in it...
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