friend of mine might be getting cheated on at work, need advice

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Mark

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so to make a long story short, girl met guy at job. girl and guy hooked up. guy got fired from job 6 months after they had been going out. girl still works at same job while guy works a few blocks down at another place. so anyway once this guy got fired i needed to get some files from his exchange mailbox(im in the IT dept here) and i had found out that this guy has been trying to sleep some other girl a month after thier relationship started. so after debating with myself on whether i should tell her or not, i made the decision that i would. i told her all about it, and she thanked me for telling her and also said she had suspicions herself. i also let her know NOT to tell him i told her because i could get in trouble for it somehow.


so now the girl is confused as what to do now because the guy is very family oriented and he has already introduced her to his parents, brothers/sisters, friends...she is just confused as to why he would introduce her if he was going to be like this...she wants to leave him but just doesnt know how.....she at the same time just doesnt want tell him how she found out because then it comes back to me. anyone have any advice on what i should tell her, im confused myself
 
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Schfifty Five

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Originally posted by: Mark
so to make a long story short, girl met guy at job. girl and guy hooked up. guy got fired from job 6 months after they had been going out. girl still works at same job while guy works a few blocks down at another place. so anyway once this guy got fired i needed to get some files from his exchange mailbox(im in the IT dept here) and i had found out that this guy has been trying to sleep some other girl a month after thier relationship started. so after debating with myself on whether i should tell her or not, i made the decision that i would. i told her all about it, and she thanked me for telling her and also said she had suspicions herself. i also let her know NOT to tell him i told her because i could get in trouble for it somehow.


so now the girl is confused as what to do now because the guy is very family oriented and he has already introduced her to his parents, brothers/sisters, friends...she is just confused as to why he would introduce her if he was going to be like this...she wants to leave him but just doesnt know how.....she at the same time just doesnt want tell him how she found out because then it comes back to me. anyone have any advice on what i should tell her, im confused myself
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You kinda have a crush on this girl huh?
 
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Wheezer

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Originally posted by: BoberFett
In the future, mind your own damn business?
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why?

if she has any intention of commiting to this guy she should be allowed to at least confront him on it...if he never wanted that to happen he probably should have thought of that before attemting to bang someone else.
 
alkemyst

alkemyst

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Originally posted by: Wheezer
Originally posted by: BoberFett
In the future, mind your own damn business?
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why?

if she has any intention of commiting to this guy she should be allowed to at least confront him on it...if he never wanted that to happen he probably should have thought of that before attemting to bang someone else.
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Or better yet, perhaps this is the type of relationship he wants.

They are not married...just going out with some random chick whether or not you have met her entire family (probably HER idea not his) does not = fidelity.

 
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letdown427

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Get her to tell him that his schlong is too small, mildly deformed, and tastes like hot sauce, and so she's moving on.

Let's see him act the pimp now with his secret lady friend ;)
 
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DaiShan

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Originally posted by: Wheezer
Originally posted by: BoberFett
In the future, mind your own damn business?
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why?

if she has any intention of commiting to this guy she should be allowed to at least confront him on it...if he never wanted that to happen he probably should have thought of that before attemting to bang someone else.
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So how is this any of the OP's business again? He went snooping through the guys inbox and read emails that had nothing to do with his task.
 
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Mark

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its easy to say mind your own business, but when a person you consider a good friend is talking about moving in with the guy and having a baby with him, its a different story.
 
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dug777

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Not only should you have kept your nosey ass out of it, but i hope he beats the snot out of you when he works out that you are behind it ;)
 
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SirChadwick

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Originally posted by: aircooled
you have abused your client IT admin relationship.
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QFT. You screwed up buddy... If there's one thing I've learned in a corporate environment, it's NEVER to go through ANYONE's email but your own.... shame on you.
 
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Wapp

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"you should probably be fired too"

"you have abused your client IT admin relationship."

"In the future, mind your own damn business?"

"You kinda have a crush on this girl huh? "

:thumbsup:
 
Miramonti

Miramonti

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You deserve to be fired. Not just for abusing your work privledges but for bringing your loneliness into your job with you. I hope you find compromising your integrity as well as the code of ethics at work, opening you up to be canned, worth it in order to get a girl to think you have value to her.

Jeeza cryste, you didn't even find evidence he was cheating or cheated on her. :roll:

Good luck, and next time I recommend keeping your mouth shut unless you have a very very very good reason not to, unlike this situation.

 
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michaels

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Ok you wanna get involdved and tell her but then she isn't supposed to tell. Your lucky that guy doesn't kick your ass.
 
lozina

lozina

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Originally posted by: Wapp
"you should probably be fired too"

"you have abused your client IT admin relationship."

"In the future, mind your own damn business?"

"You kinda have a crush on this girl huh? "

:thumbsup:
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K1052

K1052

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Mind your own damn business. It is not your responsibility to meddle in other people's lives (however messed up they might be).

When I was in IT, unless I saw something I knew to be illegal, I kept my damn moth shut.
 
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