friend of mine might be getting cheated on at work, need advice

[Nutdotnet]

Oh man...you'll get so fired if anyone finds out.

Dumbass.

 

[doze]

Do nothing

 

[jcwagers]

Well, I can see a bit of both sides in this situation. I can see the personal aspect of what Mark was doing while also seeing the professional side of what is appropriate as a part of the company. The only thing that I can really say is that you have to do what you think is right. The old saying of "what is popular is not always right....and what is right is not always popular" is true in many cases. I think it's great that you stuck by your friend and as long as YOU think you did what was right....that's what matters. As far as being fired goes, if you are a good worker, it's unlikely that you would be fired for one mishap. They probably would give you a verbal warning or a write up, but that is to be expected in situations dealing with property that is both company property and personal property. In future situations, you'll know how to deal with the situation better and perhaps use this experience as a guide for helping yourself to not repeat it. Perhaps in the future, you might be better off to simply go with what you think is right WITHOUT consulting here. That way you save yourself a lot of grief in dealing with the "OMG...you should be fired/OMG...mind your own business!" crowd. I'm not trying to tell you what to do......just offering a small suggestion for the future. Most everybody handles situations differently so it's hard to say how any of these people would really handle it unless they were in that same situation. So, while I can see both the good and the bad, I'm not here to bash you for doing what you thought was right.

 

[Eli]

Originally posted by: BoberFett
In the future, mind your own damn business?

 

[jagec]

I'll give you the FIRST piece of good advice in this thread.

Never, ever, ever ask ATOT for moral guidance.

 

[beguile]

Originally posted by: chambersc

Originally posted by: Mrvile

Originally posted by: dug777

Originally posted by: BoberFett
In the future, mind your own damn business?

tisk tisk tisk...the lot of you.

Don't want to get involved? Then mind your own business.

 

[DrPizza]

Personally, since the thread title includes the word "friend", I think you did the right thing. (That is, unless by "friend" you meant "acquaintance you want to spend time with")

Personally, I think that every single person in this thread who has told you "mind your own business" would make a crappy "friend." (Or perhaps between reading the thead title, the first post, and thinking of their response, they forgot about that word.)

 

[JM Aggie08]

he BE getting cheated on....?

wow

 

[dug777]

Originally posted by: DrPizza
Personally, since the thread title includes the word "friend", I think you did the right thing. (That is, unless by "friend" you meant "acquaintance you want to spend time with")

Personally, I think that every single person in this thread who has told you "mind your own business" would make a crappy "friend." (Or perhaps between reading the thead title, the first post, and thinking of their response, they forgot about that word.)

He abused his position to gain the information, which clearly has nothing to do with his job description or ANYTHING remotely work related.

According to you, this behaviour is acceptable because she's a friend (clearly, the OP fancies her ), but to me that certainly doesn't justify being a nosey ah heck who can't keep his sticky little paws out of other people's personal lives by abusing his position.

Indeed, the strong vibe i get from this that he fancies her means that he wasn't motivated by 'friendship' as you say, but by a self-interest.

 

[renaldoriggs]

Whatever the case may be, I think it's pretty obvious the OP is trying to impress the girl and get her to like him.

 

[thoro86]

Originally posted by: renaldoriggs
Whatever the case may be, I think it's pretty obvious the OP is trying to impress the girl and get her to like him.

exactly