Found out secretary is skipping lunch because she can't afford food

[Specop 007]

Originally posted by: Turin39789

Originally posted by: Specop 007

I'm not sure if your serious on this or not.....
If your not, I chuckled.
If you are, you need to drink some V8 because you're walkin sideways man.

Actually I'm sitting down. You self identified as a member of a party that participates heavily in corporate handouts. Democrats do it too.

Oh, I gotchya. Because I'm a member of the Republican party I automatically have to assume all their beliefs??

What the hell kind of logic is that???

 

[ViviTheMage]

bonus!

 

[MaxDepth]

Marry her?

 

[Alex]

Originally posted by: middlehead
Get her a raise?

do it

 

[WolverineGator]

Tell her to get a better job?
Steal your boss's food and give it to her?
Date her daughter (and pay for all the meals so the mom can afford to eat)?

 

[Mo0o]

Can't you just give her a raise?

 

[bctbct]

Several years ago a woman my wife knew quite well (single mom), was layed off near xmas.

We decided to send her cash in the mail.

Never knew if she got it, never cared if or why she might need it. Never thought that she should do without something else in order to get by.

What we thought was that if by chance she could use the money and it made her day....it was worth it for us to do.

We have never had tough fanancial times and felt it was a good thing to do.

Its a shame that some people in this thread look down on others less fortunate, but I guess if that makes YOU feel better about YOU.....

 

[imported_Trippin315]

Rude troll post deleted by AnandTech Moderator

 

[dmcowen674]

Originally posted by: JEDI
There are 3 managers with offices next to each other. She's not my mgr's secretary, but one of the other two. She's been there a little over a year. Lately, it hasnt been that busy in her dept, and her overtime hrs have been cut.

My Mgr's secretary mentions that because of the O/T cut, she's skipping ALOT of meals to save $. She has previous medical bills because of her daughter and uses the food $ for continuous medical bills. She's in her 30's and is a single mom. She's a nice person and my mgr's secretary wants to help.

She's asking for suggestions, but doesnt want to make it look like a handout.

I have no idea on how to make giving $/food and not look like a handout?!

Suggestions?

Why would or should there be suggestions?

This is the new American Utopia, full of the working poor.

This is by design you should be thrilled as you are part of it otherwise why would you be working there???

 

[dmcowen674]

Originally posted by: Forsythe

Originally posted by: Specop 007
What does she drive? Are her nails done? House or apartment? How big? Does she get child support? How many kids? Previous husband?

Because all the poor people are poor because they spend they're money wrong or are lazy.

I bet you're a republican.

P&N is that way

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I didn't see anything partisan by the OP.

 

[dmcowen674]

Originally posted by: theNEOone
these are all temporary solutions....

I forget the expression, but it's something like "give her a fish and she can eat for a day, teach her how to fish and she can eat for a lifetime."

Hopefully she is looking for a better paying job, obviously this place stinks.

 

[Miramonti]

Don't get into her finances at work. You can help her get overtime or help train her for additional skills, but beyond that send her to a food kitchen if she needs food assistance (and donate to the kitchen if you want to offer anything.)

 

[b0mbrman]

Originally posted by: theNEOone
these are all temporary solutions....

i forget the expression, but it's something like "give her a fish and she can eat for a day, teach her how to fish and she can eat for a lifetime."


=|

Those were my thoughts on coming in...

She might have to have her feelings hurt eventually if she wants a long-term solution...government aid, retraining, helping her set up a budget...that sort of thing

 

[Dacalo]

That's sad

Whatever you do, hope it helps her out a lot.

 

[z0mb13]

This thread now belongs in P&N

 

[QueBert]

This isn't something everyone would want to do, and a lot of areas don't have a center. but in Riverside, CA (so cal) I use to donate Plasma 2x a week. Not so much because I needed the cash, I knew it helped people with the medicens and such they make using it. The money though was a nice bonus. It works like this

1st time of the week $20
2nd time of the same week $25 bucks

up to 8 a month, so long as you're healthy and your water levels are high enough and your blood isn't to thick. (can be if you eat lots of fatty foods)

if you donated 8 times in 1 month they'd generally either give you a bonus $20-$30 bucks, or you'd be entered into a drawing to win anything from a TV to a Louge Chair to a full Turkey Dinner for 8.

I don't like needles, but some of the nurses there were so damn good I hardly felt them go in. I also liked the fact I got a free yearly physical, I didn't have insurance so that was nice. And they ran all your plasma donated threw tons of tests before sending it off. so I knew I didn't have any STD's or whatever else can be detected checking blood. They'd run me threw a quick exam before ever donation to make sure I was in good enough shape to donate. Was good peice of mind.

I started just to get a free physical, but I started to go 8x a month (2x a week) Would average around $200 a month, with the bonuses, $185 was the min for 8 donations.

Also free punch and crackers and cookies after the donations. Process took around 2 hours from walking in, to the point the needle was being removed from my arm. Got to relax on a comfy couch and watch a movie. And it is a good deed so maybe it'll help my Karma one day Only down side, I haven't donated in over 2 years and my right arm still has this weird look scar (hole) where the needle always was. People wonder a lot if I do drugs haha

Sounds like this lady at work is in need of all the help she can get, if she's too proud to ask, tell her to go check into donating Plasma.

 

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: Platypus
Start getting lunch delivered in from somewhere for your area as a 'thank you for service' type deal.

Free food that everyone gets to enjoy makes it seem less like you're targeting her for it and everyone will be happy.

This would work, or send gift cards saying same thing.....

 

[XZeroII]

I agree with the controversy above. Give a man a fish and he'll eat for a day, but teach a man to fish and he'll eat for the rest of his life.

The best thing you can do is help her find ways to cut expenses and such. I know that medical bills around tough, but there should be some options out there. Maybe get her an appointment with a financial planner or something. Someone who has experience helping people in situations like this. Do you really think that a $50 gift card will help? No. It will relieve the burden for a couple days, then she is back where she started.

 

[QueBert]

She could also sell crap on Ebay, if she spent a few hours a week on it maybe she could make a few sales and pocket 20 or 30 bucks. Doesn't sound like much, but when you can't afford lunch, 20 bucks extra a week would be a big improvement. There are web sites that teach you how to sell on Ebay, I think pretty much anyone can do it. Most would want to make big bucks but every dollar counts to somebody in need.

 

[fbrdphreak]

Originally posted by: Specop 007
What does she drive? Are her nails done? House or apartment? How big? Does she get child support? How many kids? Previous husband?

All great questions. Saw a woman at the grocery store using food stamps for the approved grocery items, pull out cash for cigarettes/booze/etc, and had her hair/nails all done :roll:igust;:|

 

[Geekbabe]

My best friend is also in this position, she's rent poor and in spite of working multiple jobs is often too poor to eat.

I always seem to buy/bring wayyy more lunch than I can eat to work, she helps me to not waste food by sharing lunch with me

 

[skyking]

Originally posted by: nutxo
Write her a glowing letter of recommendation and help her find a job that pays more with better bennies.

That's perfect:thumbsup:

 

[Cdubneeddeal]

Leave it alone. It's none of your business. I'm sure, like mentioned above, she could buy some top ramen (.49cents a serving), food bank, whatever. If she doesn't want to take the necessary steps to feed herself, then don't do it for her.

 

[dirtboy]

Marry her.

 

[altonb1]

Originally posted by: amdhunter
Pics?

I bet she is hot, or you prob wouldn't give a rat's ass. (Don't lie.)

Maybe you can give her some sausage to feast on at work? :thumbsup:

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I bet you are not hot, or you would not be such a prick about another human being's suffering.

Come back in two weeks, but only if you have learned something about concern for others. If you cannot learn that, do not bother coming back.

AnandTech Moderator

Heh...for a thread like this, only 2 bans...not too shabby.

OP--you have to walk a fine line here. You don't want to meddle into her private life, but you also don't want to be callous. It is definitely a sensitive situation, so tread lightly no matter what you do.