For all straight guys...

[skeletor]

What would you do if your best friend told you he was gay. Would you be ok with it, be able to laugh and joke with him about guys like you used to joke about girls, obviously not fully understanding but at least empathising?

Or would you act ok with it but really be freaked and unable to take it if he started introducing you to his boyfriends?

Or would you say bye bye former best friend?

 

[zweistein]

He told you he was gay .... not that has 267 dead bodies in his basement. What's the big deal?

 

[Siva]

if my best friend told me she was gay, I'd ask to watch

 

[skeletor]

Heh, I'm only talking about guys though, not girl bestfriends.

 

[datalink7]

I kind of suspect that one of my better friends is a bi-sexual, but that hasn't changed anything thus far.

 

[joohang]

<< if my best friend told me she was gay, I'd ask to watch >>


LMAO

 

[j0lly]

I would not have a problem with it. Homophobic people are seriously ignorant. :disgust:

 

[GoldenGuppy]

He's my best friend for a reason... and they don't come along too easily. I'd be understanding of where he is coming from and still be cool w/ him. I don't think that I'd be able to joke as much w/ him as I once did. But that doesn't mean that we still can't go shoot some hoops or play some CS

HE's a friend for a reason right? There's gotta be something in the friendship that clicked... if there wasn't then the friendship would never have made its way to this point. I'd just consider it a change in lifestyle (sure I'd feel uncomfortable at first - kind of weird) but I wouldn't let it affect a friendship. I'd just let things work themselves out... unless he completely changes on me, and goes psycho and wants a piece of my ass... then I'd have to get the hell away from him. Otherwise, I'd feel as if I've known him enough to put up w/ his change in lifestyle... it'd be all good

)(GG)

 

[urameatball]

I think my best friend is bi.
he kinda hinted it...
so whenever he gets too close, I punch him in the gut!

 

[brxndxn]

If one of my good friends told me he was gay, I would probby smack his dumb ass for telling such a bad joke.

If one of my good friends seriously told me he was gay, I would probby smack his dumb ass and tell him to get over his bad break-up.

Actually, it would be impossible for one of my good friends to be gay because gay people are supposedly born that way and I should know my friends good enough that they were not born that way.

 

[zweistein]

Jeeeeeeeeeeezzzzze .... once again ... he said he was gay .... not that he likes to go on dates to the garbage dump and and then drive home alone.

All you are showing by your post is that YOU are seriously unsure of yourself and not at all comfortable or in touch with your own sexuality. If I was your "friend" it'd be worried about you.

 

[hoe4damoney]

You could send him to one of those deprogramming camps that those hard core christians run.

I was watching a doco and they reckon they have a 30% success rate convincing gay people their straight.

 

[zweistein]

<< If one of my good friends seriously told me he was gay, I would probby smack his dumb ass and tell him to get over his bad break-up. >>



I bet you just would "smack his dumb, sexy, hot, buldging ass" .... now wouldn't you. Man, I just LOVE freudian stuff!!

 

[kduncan5]

There are two possible scenarios I can think of:

1. You remain his friend (but tell him if he touches you, you'll break his fingers...), and hope that others don't start associating you with homosexuality (or if you don't really care, then it never really becomes a concern what other people think),

or

2. It keeps eating at you until you decide to sacrifice a friendship by telling him to buzz off.


It really depends on the depth of the friendship. I've had friends in the past who were gay, but they always understood that I was straight and never "tried" anything with me. The big difference here is that we were never really close enough that we hung out together regularly.

That's a tough choice if you're close friends. Good luck! -kd5-

 

[bigrash]

I once had a very close female friend tell me that she turned lesbian. it shocked me as hell. but the good part was talking about sexy girls with her. plus i met a lot of other lesbian girls that i never knew had that lifestile. It turned out that it was only a stage that she was going through.

 

[zweistein]

<< I once had a very close female friend tell me that she turned lesbian. it shocked me as hell. but the good part was talking about sexy girls with her. plus i met a lot of other lesbian girls that i never knew had that lifestile. It turned out that it was only a stage that she was going through. >>



What "stage" is she going through now?

 

[Jfur]

Tell him that you understand and that you don't have a problem with it. My roomate my junior year of college came out of the closet. At first I felt awkward, but after thinking about it I realized that it was no big deal. By the way, it must be really hard to tell your friends something like that-- I hope you will offer your friend support and not make him feel sorry for being honest with you.

He knows you're not gay and your consideration of his feelings in no way threatens your own sexuality, so it really should not be an issue.

 

[narzy]

<< Tell him that you understand and that you don't have a problem with it. My roomate my junior year of college came out of the closet. At first I felt awkward, but after thinking about it I realized that it was no big deal. By the way, it must be really hard to tell your friends something like that-- I hope you will offer your friend support and not make him feel sorry for being honest with you.

He knows you're not gay and your consideration of his feelings in no way threatens your own sexuality, so it really should not be an issue. >>



I totally agree with ^ statement.

 

[gopunk]

yea, it's not like i was friends with him just because he was straight or anything.

besides, makes it easier for me to get chicks when we hang out

 

[bret]

i owuldnt care if my friend was gay as long as he wasnt hittin on me...

 

[Vadatajs]

<< What would you do if your best friend told you he was gay. Would you be ok with it, be able to laugh and joke with him about guys like you used to joke about girls, obviously not fully understanding but at least empathising?

Or would you act ok with it but really be freaked and unable to take it if he started introducing you to his boyfriends?

Or would you say bye bye former best friend? >>



This has happened to me. I just said "so" and we continued being friends like nothing had happened. In fact we laughed and joked about girls and guys all the time. A friend is a friend and the friendship wouldn't have ended unless he started hitting on me; which does freak me out. Actually most of the gay people I know are really nice and fun to be around.

 

[Amused]

<< What would you do if your best friend told you he was gay. Would you be ok with it, be able to laugh and joke with him about guys like you used to joke about girls, obviously not fully understanding but at least empathising?

Or would you act ok with it but really be freaked and unable to take it if he started introducing you to his boyfriends?

Or would you say bye bye former best friend? >>



He was your best friend before you knew, and nothing about HIM has changed, only YOUR perception of him.

What ever happens, if there's a problem, realize it's with you, not him.

 

[tweakmm]

<< yea, it's not like i was friends with him just because he was straight or anything.

besides, makes it easier for me to get chicks when we hang out >>


Dude! Chicks dig gay guys. When they go over to talk to your gay friend, the you can pick them up. Now its time to find some gay friends

 

[Bellgoody]

He's your friend, right, not your bed partner? Operative word here is friend.

 

[aUt0eXebat]

i dont think id really hang out with him