fittin in socially...

[skywalker66]

hmm, okay, yea this is me again,

got another quick question. it seems like i spend a lot of time thinking about how to fit in socially here in these dorms at my first semester at this college (a christian college) and well it just seems like i cant find a trick or something differently that will magically work.

like i havent gotten plugged in as much as some ppl, because i like to sit around and think about crap a lot (i know ill stop).
and im just wondering if maybe I could fit in if I just stopped thinking about stuff completely and just tried to be myself (and told myself to 'be myself' over and over again.

do you think that would work?
i dunno, im trying not to be desparate at this point but its hard, i just wanna fit in here, and its harder since i have a later start now, i just want to plug in.

 

[Lager]

Be the first one in your dorm to own a copy of Half-Life 2! Girls dig it.

 

[johnjohn320]

You're not gonna be happy if you aren't yourself, even if it gains you friends (cause they won't be real friends). So yes, be yourself. Be nice to people, be a good listner, chip into random conversations going on around you. Just be a good guy.

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: johnjohn320
You're not gonna be happy if you aren't yourself, even if it gains you friends (cause they won't be real friends). So yes, be yourself. Be nice to people, be a good listner, chip into random conversations going on around you. Just be a good guy.

and if that doesnt get me friends, then what do i do?

 

[Ameesh]

i hear christians like good old fashioned revivals, start one up! you'll make a lot of friends.

 

[Lager]

Join a fraternity.

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: johnjohn320
You're not gonna be happy if you aren't yourself, even if it gains you friends (cause they won't be real friends). So yes, be yourself. Be nice to people, be a good listner, chip into random conversations going on around you. Just be a good guy.

and if that doesnt get me friends, then what do i do?

Your new at the college, just relax. Just be a nice guy, talk to people, be social, and it'll happen. Patience, young man!

Course, I might be the blind leading the blind, cause I'm not exactly Mr. Popular. But I'm happy with my social life, and I just try to be a good person to those around me. Seems to work.

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: johnjohn320

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: johnjohn320
You're not gonna be happy if you aren't yourself, even if it gains you friends (cause they won't be real friends). So yes, be yourself. Be nice to people, be a good listner, chip into random conversations going on around you. Just be a good guy.

and if that doesnt get me friends, then what do i do?

Your new at the college, just relax. Just be a nice guy, talk to people, be social, and it'll happen. Patience, young man!

Course, I might be the blind leading the blind, cause I'm not exactly Mr. Popular. But I'm happy with my social life, and I just try to be a good person to those around me. Seems to work.

arent you in highschool johnjohn?

 

[RabidMongoose]

Give everyone $100 to be your friend.

 

[shimsham]

just relax.

 

[MartyMcFly3]

one important thing to do if you live in a dorm..... Leave your door open when you arent in class and just thinking... people popped in eachothers rooms for the first month here and now we are all good friends...

 

[johnjohn320]

Originally posted by: Ameesh

Originally posted by: johnjohn320

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: johnjohn320
You're not gonna be happy if you aren't yourself, even if it gains you friends (cause they won't be real friends). So yes, be yourself. Be nice to people, be a good listner, chip into random conversations going on around you. Just be a good guy.

and if that doesnt get me friends, then what do i do?

Your new at the college, just relax. Just be a nice guy, talk to people, be social, and it'll happen. Patience, young man!

Course, I might be the blind leading the blind, cause I'm not exactly Mr. Popular. But I'm happy with my social life, and I just try to be a good person to those around me. Seems to work.

arent you in highschool johnjohn?

Yes I am. Another reason why it might "blind leading the blind" as I pointed out. But I've managed to fit in with my peers, which is what he's asking how to do, so I offered up what seems to have worked for me.

 

[Siddhartha]

Are you a Christian?

Join a prayer group that has at least the same number of women as men if not more.

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
Are you a Christian?

Join a prayer group that has at least the same number of women as men if not more.

or start a revival

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
one important thing to do if you live in a dorm..... Leave your door open when you arent in class and just thinking... people popped in eachothers rooms for the first month here and now we are all good friends...

is it too late to fit in you think if did that? its been 7 weeks here thus far.

 

[Lager]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
one important thing to do if you live in a dorm..... Leave your door open when you arent in class and just thinking... people popped in eachothers rooms for the first month here and now we are all good friends...

is it too late to fit in you think if did that? its been 7 weeks here thus far.

Why don't you have a roommate? You should of gotten a roommate.

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
Are you a Christian?

Join a prayer group that has at least the same number of women as men if not more.

yea, im a christian. im on an evangualism team (sp?)

maybe i should look into a prayer group too though, or some other club, cuz there are a lot of cute girls that go here.

 

[MartyMcFly3]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
one important thing to do if you live in a dorm..... Leave your door open when you arent in class and just thinking... people popped in eachothers rooms for the first month here and now we are all good friends...

is it too late to fit in you think if did that? its been 7 weeks here thus far.

nah its never too late... actually people will probably be glad to see that someone lives in that room... We got a few people we never see so we call them "sasquatch"

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: lager

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
one important thing to do if you live in a dorm..... Leave your door open when you arent in class and just thinking... people popped in eachothers rooms for the first month here and now we are all good friends...

is it too late to fit in you think if did that? its been 7 weeks here thus far.

Why don't you have a roommate? You should of gotten a roommate.

i have 2 roomates.

they're in football kinda and off doing their own thing tho, plus im not sure if they're my type

 

[Lager]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: lager

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
one important thing to do if you live in a dorm..... Leave your door open when you arent in class and just thinking... people popped in eachothers rooms for the first month here and now we are all good friends...

is it too late to fit in you think if did that? its been 7 weeks here thus far.

Why don't you have a roommate? You should of gotten a roommate.

i have 2 roomates.

they're in football kinda and off doing their own thing tho, plus im not sure if they're my type

I think you should get a campus job. It is a good way to make friends I guess.

 

[daclayman]

Ack!! Have an agenda. It's in the Tony Robbins tapes. Any person you want to interact with needs to 'understand' that you accept them. Emulate their gestures and use positive posture. G dumbo Bush got a higher rating because of improved posturing, so can you. The world is yours to use and that includes the people you associate with. Sounds cold, huh. Welcome to the jungle, we've got fun and games. Friends will filter thru; a friend is only someone who either accepts or doesn't notice your weaknesses.

Happy days youngins.

 

[Broohaha]

is it just me or is there a post here from a frustrated student at a "christian college" here every other week??

 

[Aves]

Originally posted by: Broohaha
is it just me or is there a post here from a frustrated student at a "christian college" here every other week??

They're all by skywalker66.

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
Are you a Christian?

Join a prayer group that has at least the same number of women as men if not more.

yea, im a christian. im on an evangualism team (sp?)

maybe i should look into a prayer group too though, or some other club, cuz there are a lot of cute girls that go here.

What are your hobbies?

Isn't there something you always wanted to do like sailing, photography, cooking, etc?

 

[oLLie]

Shout infidel (actually I guess "heathen" would fit better at a Christian college) at anyone who isn't acting like your friend.