I'm religious, but as with many of the religious people I know, into science, exploration, understanding, logic, reason, and well read and educated. I certainly can doubt it (it ranks up there with an infinite universe as concepts my mind just

at) but in the end I choose to believe.
I try to be a nice guy, make my own choices about things (pro-life, anti-death penalty, support gun ownership, belong to a union, dislike the welfare state, and in general don't fit under any of the cookie cutter stereotypes) live the way I think I should (ie practice what I would preach, if I was a preachy sort

), but in essence, when people do something like you mention below, I find it is because they are:
dumb, and/or;
jerks.
Sometimes, they just haven't thought it about very much, and are parroting the "accepted" viewpoint of others they know...but that borders on choice #1.
[basically skipped most of the thread, as it looks like it devolved the way one would expect in ATOT]
I hate to make a religion thread, but I have to ask a question.
I was just looking at a thread about the Boy Scouts of America. It appears that the Boy Scouts is tolerant of other religions, but will kick out atheists/agnostics.
I'm personally atheist, although I prefer the term non-religious as religious people seem to view atheism as a religion of its own.
When I "came out" as atheist as a teenager, I lost a bunch of my friends. I had friends of varying religions: Hindu, Muslim, Jewish, Christian, etc. A decent number of them told me that they could understand if I believed in a different religion, but they could not accept that somebody could be atheist. The mother of the last girl I dated refused to accept me because I was atheist, but she was fine with other religions.
Apparently this is a common view-point, but I don't understand it.
How could a religious person, who doesn't believe in all the other religions, be tolerant of all the other religions, but not of atheism?
The following quote comes to mind:
"I contend that we are both atheists. I just believe in one fewer god than you do. When you understand why you dismiss all the other possible gods, you will understand why I dismiss yours"