Everything that girl should know, but doesn't.

obiwaynekenobi

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1. If a guy repeatedly asks you out. and you don't want to date him. Just freaking tell him, he'll get over it and move on rather just kind of beating around the bush.
2. being lonely isn't a bad thing meeting over the internt is ok in a highly public place. ALWAYS show up early.
3. don't play with our minds, most men I know take things either at face vaule, or we don't beleive you at all becaue woman do play our minds.
4. if you ask for an opinion ask for it. and don't be upset when we give you an aswer that you don't like. You *ASKED* for our opinion remeber?
5. don't lie. When we ask what is wrong. Just freaking tells us. don't make us guess or say "oh nothing" or "it's nothing important" when obviously it is. because if you tells us it's nothing we will believe that it's nothing.


 

Kadarin

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6. (this should be #1) Do NOT take what John Gray has to say literally. He is an emasculated mental weakling, and does not know what he is talking about.
 

Maetryx

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7) Men are fully aware of their superiority, but pretend that they think men and women are equal.
 

AreaCode707

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1. If a guy repeatedly asks you out. and you don't want to date him. Just freaking tell him, he'll get over it and move on rather just kind of beating around the bush.
Given the number of guys who hit on me (none), this isn't an issue. If it ever did come up, I can't imagine giving anything but a straight answer.
2. being lonely isn't a bad thing meeting over the internt is ok in a highly public place. ALWAYS show up early.
Ask Kelvrick, JeremyJoe, and PrincessGuard, I was early when I met them for lunch on campus at UCD. :) Some internet guys are spooky, meeting over the internet can be cool I think, but calls for a lot more caution, definitely.
3. don't play with our minds, most men I know take things either at face vaule, or we don't beleive you at all becaue woman do play our minds.
Too many girls have messed with your heads, being straight up and not being believed is so frusterating. What do I gain from confusing a guy? Nothing; I'm mostly pretty clear about things.
4. if you ask for an opinion ask for it. and don't be upset when we give you an aswer that you don't like. You *ASKED* for our opinion remeber?
Yep, lesson is, don't ask a guy for his opinion. However, if we ask you if you like the dress (and it's something we already own and we're about to walk out the door), we're asking you to please tell us we look pretty. Saying, tell me I look nice, is direct but pointless.
5. don't lie. When we ask what is wrong. Just freaking tells us. don't make us guess or say "oh nothing" or "it's nothing important" when obviously it is. because if you tells us it's nothing we will believe that it's nothing.
Don't lie, check. However, responding with nothing on the first time through is a crime I'm guilty of. It's a matter of, am I important enough to you to make an effort to hear the bad parts of my day along with the good? We don't want to just dump on you, and you don't want us to either. If you're willing to hear it, double check with an, are you sure? It's a proctective mechanism, keeping you from getting frusterated because we're whining.

Guys and gals communicate differently, it's so odd to watch. When you say, just tell us! you show that you don't understand that the message isn't as important to us sometimes as the meta-message (the relational part of what you're saying, the info is negligable). The girls don't get that the guys don't get this and so they push the envelope further, making things confusing and annoying to everyone. If we could acknowledge that we have inherently different styles, maybe there could be a fair compromise and everyone would understand each other a little better. It's not that one way is right and the other wrong, it's just a matter of figuring out which way is being used at a given time.
 

Turkey

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Nope, it actually is that men are right and women are wrong. If women could just understand this basic principle of human interaction, relationships would be much more pleasant for both parties.









Hehe :).
 

Kelvrick

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Bleh, I was gonna comment, but I'll just say that I only kind of remember the UC Davis meet. I think me and jeremyjoe showed up a minute or two late and stood around because we didn't wanna hold up a paper saying AT. Then, you came up and asked us, so all was well. :)

I figure the MU is pretty much as public as you can get in Davis. :) Wait... is this your way of telling us we're weird?! :(;)
 

Geekbabe

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Originally posted by: Maetryx
7) Men are fully aware of their superiority, but pretend that they think men and women are equal.

In your dreams pal,the hand that rocks the cradle has ruled the world since time began, we humor most of you and let you think you're smarter than we are :D
 

Kelvrick

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Originally posted by: baffled2
Originally posted by: Maetryx
7) Men are fully aware of their superiority, but pretend that they think men and women are equal.

In your dreams pal,the hand that rocks the cradle has ruled the world since time began, we humor most of you and let you think you're smarter than we are :D

Bah, we just make you think that... And the cycle continues...

<== heads off to sleep
 

Geekbabe

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Originally posted by: Kelvrick
Originally posted by: baffled2
Originally posted by: Maetryx
7) Men are fully aware of their superiority, but pretend that they think men and women are equal.

In your dreams pal,the hand that rocks the cradle has ruled the world since time began, we humor most of you and let you think you're smarter than we are :D

Bah, we just make you think that... And the cycle continues...

<== heads off to sleep

LOL, whatever you say, keeping in mind that you're the one sporting "all girls are evil" in your sig
and I don't see similar sigs from the ladies here about men, I'd say it's pretty clear which sex is really
in charge :)
 

Kadarin

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I have had this conversation with my g/f more than once:

her: "How do I look?" (hopefull, showing off outfit)
me: "You look great!" (big grin, sincerity, meaning)
her: "You don't like it..." (crestfallen)
me: "Yes, I do, I really do!" (earnest)
her: "No, you don't.." (unsure)
me: "If I didn't like it, I would tell you.." (logical)
her: (changes to new outfit)
me: (rolls eyes, gives up, leaves room)
 

Geekbabe

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Originally posted by: Astaroth33
I have had this conversation with my g/f more than once:

her: "How do I look?" (hopefull, showing off outfit)
me: "You look great!" (big grin, sincerity, meaning)
her: "You don't like it..." (crestfallen)
me: "Yes, I do, I really do!" (earnest)
her: "No, you don't.." (unsure)
me: "If I didn't like it, I would tell you.." (logical)
her: (changes to new outfit)
me: (rolls eyes, gives up, leaves room)



Your mistake was in waiting for her to say "How do I look?" if you'd beaten her to the punch and told her how great she looked everything would have been all good, he who hesitates is forced to suffer thru an outfit change :)
 

Kadarin

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Originally posted by: baffled2
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
I have had this conversation with my g/f more than once:

her: "How do I look?" (hopefull, showing off outfit)
me: "You look great!" (big grin, sincerity, meaning)
her: "You don't like it..." (crestfallen)
me: "Yes, I do, I really do!" (earnest)
her: "No, you don't.." (unsure)
me: "If I didn't like it, I would tell you.." (logical)
her: (changes to new outfit)
me: (rolls eyes, gives up, leaves room)



Your mistake was in waiting for her to say "How do I look?" if you'd beaten her to the punch and told her how great she looked everything would have been all good, he who hesitates is forced to suffer thru an outfit change :)

The thing is, she will specifically come out of the room to where I am just to ask. I don't even get the chance to compliment her. The deal is that she already believes that the outfit does not look good on her, she's just baiting me for some unknown reason.
 

Lithium381

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Hah, sorry guys, but i'm going to have to agree with the girls on this one, they are in control.....i've already given up and submitted....there is no hope for me in this life, through all the experiences i've had with girls, my record is like 3-3,000 not very good, maybe i'm just not good at it....:(
 

her209

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Originally posted by: Lithium381
Hah, sorry guys, but i'm going to have to agree with the girls on this one, they are in control.....i've already given up and submitted....there is no hope for me in this life, through all the experiences i've had with girls, my record is like 3-3,000 not very good, maybe i'm just not good at it....:(

Darwinism at work?
 

her209

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Oct 11, 2000
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Originally posted by: Astaroth33


The thing is, she will specifically come out of the room to where I am just to ask. I don't even get the chance to compliment her. The deal is that she already believes that the outfit does not look good on her, she's just baiting me for some unknown reason.

If she thinks it already looks bad on her, then why da hell does she ask you for?
rolleye.gif


Ummm
... I guess for break up excuses later...
 

Geekbabe

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Originally posted by: her209
Originally posted by: Lithium381
Hah, sorry guys, but i'm going to have to agree with the girls on this one, they are in control.....i've already given up and submitted....there is no hope for me in this life, through all the experiences i've had with girls, my record is like 3-3,000 not very good, maybe i'm just not good at it....:(

Darwinism at work?


that was rather cold and mean.....
but also funny :D


 

her209

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Originally posted by: baffled2
that was rather cold and mean.....
but also funny :D

Doing what guys do.... straight to the point... and with some charm ;)