What a weird way to look at how networking work. Does this mean all your networking buddies can cut you off if you lost a job and need a new one? Basically, you are a waste of their time by this point.
What a weird way to look at how networking work. Does this mean all your networking buddies can cut you off if you lost a job and need a new one? Basically, you are a waste of their time by this point.
When my friends dragged me out of my own vomit and became covered in it themselves, I knew then that it was true love :heart:
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kranky
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In my experience, most people who have jumped on the "networking" bandwagon in the last 10 years are exactly that way. The concept of give-and-take is foreign to them. The only reason many people play the networking game is to see what they can get out of it. You'd think they'd understand the benefits of being part of a group of people who could help each other out from time to time.
Heck, the only reason they do it is because they keep reading articles about how valuable it is to their career. So I guess you can't blame them for only being in it for themselves.
No, I've never noticed that, because I choose my friends very carefully. I'm still friends with people I went to kindergarten with. In fact, when I'm really in trouble friends I haven't seen or heard from in months or years suddenly appear unbidden to lend aid and/or comfort. If you aren't willing to kill or die for each other then you're not friends, you're acquaintances.
At the risk of sounding like a jerk:
I won't think twice to stick through situations with friends if it (the funk) was out of their control.
If they get themselves into a situation repeatedly and dwell on it, I don't tend to hang around them too long. People with constant financial troubles who seemingly do it on purpose just to dwell on it all day and night can be a pain in the ass. Who wants to be around someone like that? I mean people (former friends) who take out massive loans to waste it on a new car and furniture and then call me at 5pm because, on their way home from work, they ran out of gas and have no money. That is completely avoidable. (If they forgot their wallet, on the other hand, thats one thing--but people who have 0$ in a bank and still drive on an empty tank :roll: )
Woe is me crap, too. I do have compassion from people that naturally suffer from depression and have stood through hard times with them. If its mind game crap or something someone purposely dwells on, then no, I'm not going to feed the attention and stick around during their "down" time.
More often than not, a lot of trouble people have in their life is their own doing IMO. Who wants to hang around a downer if it was all their own fault and could have been easily avoided? (Again, yes, there are completely legitimate reasons for situations , too.)
I won't think twice to stick through situations with friends if it (the funk) was out of their control.
If they get themselves into a situation repeatedly and dwell on it, I don't tend to hang around them too long. People with constant financial troubles who seemingly do it on purpose just to dwell on it all day and night can be a pain in the ass. Who wants to be around someone like that? I mean people (former friends) who take out massive loans to waste it on a new car and furniture and then call me at 5pm because, on their way home from work, they ran out of gas and have no money. That is completely avoidable. (If they forgot their wallet, on the other hand, thats one thing--but people who have 0$ in a bank and still drive on an empty tank :roll: )
Woe is me crap, too. I do have compassion from people that naturally suffer from depression and have stood through hard times with them. If its mind game crap or something someone purposely dwells on, then no, I'm not going to feed the attention and stick around during their "down" time.
More often than not, a lot of trouble people have in their life is their own doing IMO. Who wants to hang around a downer if it was all their own fault and could have been easily avoided? (Again, yes, there are completely legitimate reasons for situations , too.)
Aikouka
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Heh, I know what that's like. Although my friends with girlfriends have no problem with hanging out... they just need to be mindful of the wimmen. It's my friends that are married (yes, at my somewhat young age of 22... also be aware that I'm the youngest of my friends) that seem to have the problems. Wives that seem to think everyone hates them... sigh, it's kind of annoying when you try to be more sociable (kind of hard too when you're not very sociable to begin with) and it's like talking to a brick wall.
Geekbabe
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I've learned over the years that I have no friends,nobody to count on when the chips are down.What I do have is myself,a strong back,a lucky streak and a drive to just keep plowing forward.
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