Originally posted by: Farang
I've noticed it but it usually only happens with friends that have girlfriends. For example my high school buddies and I all got long-term girlfriends. We used to always drink together and do was really crazy sh1t, but we hung out less and less. Then I broke up with mine and was getting ready to move across the state, and none of them ever gave me a call. I called them but it gets old after awhile when you're the one who always has to arrange everything. That was a really crappy time for me and I only had my family to count on.
Then I come back for Spring Break and have my Dad's house empty for a week. Again, nobody gave a crap because they live with their girlfriends now and turned into hermits.
as well as GF's it happens with sports and college's
i used to swim over 10 times a week, and make sure i did all of my homework so yeah i barely had any time left to spend playing with my mates. swimming lost me my first serious gf, which hurt alot...she didnt understand the commitment involved to swimming.
all of my friends at the time were cool though, we had a laugh, but again i rarely went out an about with them because i was otherwise engaged and subsequently i never got invited to many birthdays or anything
when we finished our exams and i'd decided on a different college to what most of my friends chose i dont think a single one bothered to keep in touch unless it was me making the first move. but then thats where i differ from them.....they'd chosen a college so they could stick together....id chosen a college because it offered me the best oppertunity.
so i had to make friends all over again, and the same thing happened......nearly all the mates i made i college i rarely if ever speak to. i moved on to uni, again chosing a uni that offered me the best oppertunity, and had to make friends all over again.
its odd but its hard to see who's the good friend here, i didnt bother to keep in touch because they hadnt, i guess that makes me as much of a friend to them as they did to me.
however one old friend, sara, actually bothered to keep in touch and we speak every now an then...she's a good friend. and the guys im with at uni now all seem to be genuine mates.
they knew about my swimming, and obsession to do my work right and on time and yeah i guess they do realise having me around is useful to them (helps them get their work done) but even in the times when i am no use to them work wise.....they still wanna know me.
they pestered me forever to come out to the union with them on nigths out and it made me feel really good when i turned up one night and they practically cheered me on the spot. it seems to make them really happy when i join them for nights out.... i guess its their way of saying thank you for helping them with work, which at the end of the last exams they always make sure i know my efforts have been appreciated. i help them work...they help me party...seems like a fair deal
now after 2 years it seems like we're only happiest when all 6 of us are in the same room.
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