Engagement Ring

[Crazee]

I like Abazias. They have a huge selection of stones which you can search and select by price, size, cut, clarity, and color. Their prices are nice and you have a huge selections of settings as well.

 

[ss284]

If you do go with blue nile or one of these online companies, remember that they typically have free next day shipping, that you don't have to pay tax, and that there are almost always 10% coupons floating around. Plus, many CC companies have 5% cashback as well.

 

[seepy83]

If you do go with blue nile or one of these online companies, remember that they typically have free next day shipping, that you don't have to pay tax, and that there are almost always 10% coupons floating around. Plus, many CC companies have 5% cashback as well.

Should say that you don't have to pay tax at the time of purchase but most likely need to pay and equivalent Use Tax when you file your state income tax.

 

[Falloutboy]

lol been looking in my spare time at work all day. damn my head is hurts....The places that have a setting I think looks sharp are ethier charging an ass load for that style setting, or they come preset with a Moissanite or other fake diamond...hmm I wounder what her reaction would be, and how I could breach the topic. she has been no help just has given me the line of whatever you want to get me i'll love..ugh lol, what I like the look of is a .75ct knife edge tiffany knock off, if real well lets just say I can't afford it.

wounder if anyone sells a good Asha CZ, or Mossanite local I wounder what tey even look like side by side with a real.

yup I'm about to be called a cheap ass....I know but i'm tempted to get one with a nice setting and tell her then if she wants a real rock in it down the road i'll get her one, I just hate that diamonds are considerd so rare and expensive when there not.

 

[zoiks]

I recently got married and I also was in the same situation although my budget was slightly more than yours. You need to educate yourself about clarity and color of diamonds to understand whether you are getting a good deal or not. There are sites that explain those. Any diamond with a G-H color and SI-1 or VS-2 clarity will be good. You also want to get a certified diamond by GIA or some other reliable agency.
After looking all over, I got a 1.07 ct GIA certified SI-1, G color diamond ring for 3,500 from pompeii3. You can get cheaper diamonds with lower clarity and that might fit your budget. In my case, my gf (now my wife) was pretty knowledgeable about all of this so I couldn't get anything of lower quality. Although you might be able to wing it.
Good luck.

 

[crashtestdummy]

Have you ever asked the GF her opinion of diamonds? My fiancee specifically didn't like diamonds; thought they were boring (not to mention DeBeers). I'm personally much more a fan of sapphires and rubies which can also be made synthetically and are much cheaper.

Moissanite looks just fine, but if she's at all status concious, she'll be constantly reminded of the fact that it's "fake". It's like eating a turkey burger: sure it tastes just fine, but you're thinking the whole time that you're not eating beef. At least if you go with pulled pork you're eating something totally different.

 

[ichy]

yup I'm about to be called a cheap ass....I know but i'm tempted to get one with a nice setting and tell her then if she wants a real rock in it down the road i'll get her one, I just hate that diamonds are considerd so rare and expensive when there not.

F the people who call you a cheap ass. Spend the money you would've spent on a worthless hunk of carbon on something cool like a trip together instead.

 

[Falloutboy]

she is a simple gal, really is its one of the reasons I love her, but she really is clueless on this stuff, I mean I casually got her looking one night "by accident" but that was little help she just said everything looked pretty lmao.

 

[Falloutboy]

Have you ever asked the GF her opinion of diamonds? My fiancee specifically didn't like diamonds; thought they were boring (not to mention DeBeers). I'm personally much more a fan of sapphires and rubies which can also be made synthetically and are much cheaper.

Moissanite looks just fine, but if she's at all status concious, she'll be constantly reminded of the fact that it's "fake". It's like eating a turkey burger: sure it tastes just fine, but you're thinking the whole time that you're not eating beef. At least if you go with pulled pork you're eating something totally different.

any good places to look at Sapphires and jazz online? i'm curious to look into that (mainly the white variety)

 

[crashtestdummy]

any good places to look at Sapphires and jazz online? i'm curious to look into that (mainly the white variety)

I'd recommend against getting a white sapphire for the reason above, and look at a colored one that she would like. You should be able to walk into any decent jewelry store and get any ring you see with a stone you like. My fiancee picked out this one in 18k palladium white gold with a blue topaz and loves it. She's an EMT (among other things), and particularly likes that the ring goes over the stone so that it doesn't get caught in things and is hard to break.

Edit: Don't be shy about walking into a store just to look and not buying a ring. They're used to that.

 

[Albatross]

Whatever you get,make sure to enchant it.

 

[Gibson486]

lol been looking in my spare time at work all day. damn my head is hurts....The places that have a setting I think looks sharp are ethier charging an ass load for that style setting, or they come preset with a Moissanite or other fake diamond...hmm I wounder what her reaction would be, and how I could breach the topic. she has been no help just has given me the line of whatever you want to get me i'll love..ugh lol, what I like the look of is a .75ct knife edge tiffany knock off, if real well lets just say I can't afford it.

wounder if anyone sells a good Asha CZ, or Mossanite local I wounder what tey even look like side by side with a real.

yup I'm about to be called a cheap ass....I know but i'm tempted to get one with a nice setting and tell her then if she wants a real rock in it down the road i'll get her one, I just hate that diamonds are considerd so rare and expensive when there not.

You know...you do not have to buy a diamond. There are other stones as well. That knife setting is very common. Any place can make that. I have seen those "expensive" CZ or whatever stimulants you talk about side by side with a diamond. The first thing you will notice that they do not really look different at all at first glance. In fact, the stimulant looks perfect. However, upon closer inspection, you will notice that the fake has A LOT of fire. Much more than a diamond. In case you do not know, fire is colored light return. Some people like it, some do not. The next difference is how pure white the fake is. It's kind of hard to explain. It is not really a bad thing, but it's just different. Last, the biggest difference is how tough they are. Diamonds last longer, period. CZ will scratch with in weeks. The stimulants will look dull after a year or two. It's just how it is.

Also, if you want to get a discounted diamond, you have two options. Go to a pawn shop, or try to find a diamond with florescence.

Get what you want. I am not going to judge. Not everyone can afford or wants to spend that cash on a rock. I will tell you this, do not go trying to find the most your money can get. It will be a losing battle. Decide what you want, set your budget and go buy it.

 

[Texashiker]

IIRC, the engagement ring is considered the man's property until the actual wedding takes place in some states. I believe there was a lawsuit in Pennsylvania (IIRC) where a girl broke it off but tried to keep the ring and the guy sued her and won.

Not to dispute your post, but here is a link where a judge ruled the woman was responsible for 1/2 the cost of a missing $5,000 engagement ring.

The woman also went missing right after the court case.

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2011/11/2...en-missing-orlando-mom-from-ex-fiancees-care/

The television judge said Parker was responsible for paying Smith for half of the value of the ring.

That is why you do not spend a lot of money on an engagement ring.

 

[Anonemous]

You can also checkout pricescope.com and jamesallen.com if you are still interested in getting that engagement ring.

 

[Atomic Playboy]

That is why you do not spend a lot of money on an engagement ring.

No, that is why you do not propose to unscrupulous bitches who don't care about you at all and are merely trying to get paid at your expense. If you honestly felt like your fiancee is liable to fuck you over at any time, it doesn't matter if you propose to her with an onion ring, you're a fucking idiot and you deserve whatever happens. If you don't trust someone, maybe you shouldn't be trying to marry them.

Back on the topic of rings, you can't go wrong with traditional in the absence of knowing what she prefers. But my fiancee detests the traditional solitaire ring; she plays pool and wears loose clothing, and she didn't want a ring that would get caught on things 10 times a day (or scratch her $600 pool cue). I ended up going ring shopping with her and ended up with a low-profile diamond ring which cost a fraction of most diamond solitaires; win-win. Granted, it's not easy to figure out what sort of ring she likes without tipping your hand; asking her is a dead give-away, and if you try talking to her friends about it, they may just run and blab to her.

 

[torpid]

Not to dispute your post, but here is a link where a judge ruled the woman was responsible for 1/2 the cost of a missing $5,000 engagement ring.

The woman also went missing right after the court case.

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2011/11/2...en-missing-orlando-mom-from-ex-fiancees-care/



That is why you do not spend a lot of money on an engagement ring.

Wouldn't the man lose 1/2 of the $5000 ring if they get divorced? At least in some states you get 100% of the ring back instead of 50%. Since you only seem to care about the pure financials of marriage I thought that might be of note to you.

 

[Texashiker]

No, that is why you do not propose to unscrupulous bitches who don't care about you at all,,,, But my fiancee detests the traditional solitaire ring

You are not married, but you want to offer advice to someone who has been married twice?

lol, that is funny.

My first marriage lasted 14 years, second marriage has been 8 years so far.

Come back after you have been married for over 10 years, then talk about the value of an engagement ring. "Right now" the engagement ring "might" seem important, but after you are married for a decade or two, you start to realize what is important in life. No ring can compare to sharing your life with someone.

The engagement ring is nothing more then a phase in your life, like high school or college. Buy it, get it over with, then move onto the next phases of your life.

I see no use in putting a lot of thought into the topic, she will probably have the wedding ring and engagement ring made into a set later on anyway.

 

[torpid]

You are not married, but you want to offer advice to someone who has been married twice?

lol, that is funny.

My first marriage lasted 14 years, second marriage has been 8 years so far.

Come back after you have been married for over 10 years, then talk about the value of an engagement ring. "Right now" the engagement ring "might" seem important, but after you are married for a decade or two, you start to realize what is important in life. No ring can compare to sharing your life with someone.

The engagement ring is nothing more then a phase in your life, like high school or college. Buy it, get it over with, then move onto the next phases of your life.

I see no use in putting a lot of thought into the topic, she will probably have the wedding ring and engagement ring made into a set later on anyway.

So why do you advocate spending 4x as much on a wedding band then? Seems like the "logic" applies to both. BTW, what happened to the engagement and wedding ring of your first wife? I assume you got to keep the wedding band but not the engagement band, right? No? Hmm... odd.

 

[Texashiker]

BTW, what happened to the engagement and wedding ring of your first wife? I assume you got to keep the wedding band but not the engagement band, right? No? Hmm... odd.

The divorce with my first wife was rather nasty, the engagement ring was the least of my concerns.

 

[theeedude]

Anyone deal with b2cjewels?
They seem to have better deals than even overstock and lower prices than everyone else.
I am thinking of upping the budget to $1K and getting something in the 1/2 carat range and returning the overstock ring.

Is this a good deal on a diamond:
http://www.b2cjewels.com/dd-1-2616212-0.46-carat-Round-diamond-H-color-SI2-clarity.aspx

 

[Zargon]

another thread of texashikerlulz.....


I bought from Helzberg Diamonds, after extensive e-shopping because they were basically the same price. + in person CS and local clenaing/fixing. also lifetime buy it back at market price

everytime we get cleaned they offer to buy it back and give us a bigger stone

Another thing, when you get married, you want the ring to stand out where it can be easily seen by other men.

When your wife is around town doing some shopping, do you really want some single guy walking up to your wife and ask her out? Only for her to hold up her tiny wedding ring so the guy can see it?




Sounds good to me.

The relationship should not be based off of how much money I spend on her.

If she gauges the relationship on the amount of money spend on her rings, she needs to head on down the road.

lolol

not based on money but STILL buying an expensive ring, just in a different order?

if you wife doesnt wear her engagement ring anymore thats something you should think about.....

Wouldn't the man lose 1/2 of the $5000 ring if they get divorced? At least in some states you get 100% of the ring back instead of 50%. Since you only seem to care about the pure financials of marriage I thought that might be of note to you.

depends. I think in IL guy gets to keep, ring is part of a verbal contract and is a premarital asset

 

[vshah]

When your wife is around town doing some shopping, do you really want some single guy walking up to your wife and ask her out? Only for her to hold up her tiny wedding ring so the guy can see it?

The relationship should not be based off of how much money I spend on her.

a bit contradictory, don't you think?

 

[Spikesoldier]

Anyone deal with b2cjewels?
They seem to have better deals than even overstock and lower prices than everyone else.
I am thinking of upping the budget to $1K and getting something in the 1/2 carat range and returning the overstock ring.

Is this a good deal on a diamond:
http://www.b2cjewels.com/dd-1-2616212-0.46-carat-Round-diamond-H-color-SI2-clarity.aspx

IMO spend more on cut quality. Try to swing at least a very good or an excellent. if you are on a budget, consider a fancy shape (non-round)

 

[mztykal]

I got my now wife's rings from Excel Diamonds. Awesome service from them and a gorgeous stone that appraised higher than what I paid.

 

[JSt0rm]

My opinion,

Engagement ring = one weeks salary

Wedding ring = one months salary

Do you make $700 - $1,000 a week? If so, that should be fine for an engagement ring.

I dont care what style you look at, as long as it has a single diamond in it. I think multiple diamonds should be reserved for wedding rings.

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