(EDIT: MY FINAL THOUGHTS...) Is it wrong for a 21 year old to date a 16 year old? Even if....

WayneTeK

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Ok, i'm in a huge moral dilemma here.

I know how wrong this question seems; an adult asking a riduculous question like this must be crazy. Well, if that is what it is called, then call me crazy. Not yet though. :D

There is this particular girl and she is fly. Very fly, and I'm asking you kind folks your opinion regarding this scandalous topic.

Is it morally acceptable to date somebody who is that young? :eek: It isnt' against the law is it? Hope not. Let me tell you what though, being brought up in a Christian household, i not intend to have sex before marriage and besides, I did meet her at a church. :) But on the other hand, i'm a 3rd year college student and she is still in HS... I kind of feel like i'm robbing the cradle. =( ARgh.. What 2 do?

She is soo fine. She looks like a Korean singer named Boa. Here is Boa's picture.

Boa 1
Boa 2
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Last Boa

Well anyways, here is the picture of the gal I like... This is my gal

So what do you guys think? Proceed on or back off? She does have a wonderful personality and isn't stuck up or anthing if that helps. I realized that women who grow older get more corrupted with drinking, smoking etc... I prefer my women holy and still innocent. :D



Edit: my final thoughts :frown:

Ok, here is my final thought on this ongoing controversy. I'm not gonna advance the relationship. I'll just tell her that we come from two different worlds, Krypton and Earth.

Reasons why i decided to pull the plug?
1. My mom highly disapproves because she says she doens't look like my type. Also, she says that she looks like she has too much experience with guys. on a third note, she says she doesn't look her age. My mom mainly disapproves because she looks too flirty and not innocent enough i guess.

2. my sister as well disapproves. she says she is to young and that i'm crazy. she also says she doesn't look good with me.

3. I value my parents' decision regarding life choices, women, money, etc. Since i am asian and all, i was brought up to be respectful to elders and highly value/apreciate their opinions and guidance in life. I guess this all comes with the terrority of being Asian.

So much for love, eh gang? It's aite. there are plenty of other mosquitos around the swamp... :(

how should i break it to her? bleh, its aite. guess i need to worry about finals now.. damn school!

 

slycat

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age has never been any deterrent to me..
and i dun care what anyone else says...i'd date 15yr olds.
 

amdforever2

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THIS IS THE POLICE. YOU ARE SURROUNDED. RELEASE THE CHILD AND COME OUT WITH YOUR HANDS UP.

[/megaphone]

Totally wrong. Bad bad bad.

 

Descartes

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Whether its morally wrong is only something you can decide.

Personally, I wouldn't date a girl my age, or any younger (22 now) due to lack of maturity in most cases. I've met a lot of girls my age who act around 16, so I don't think it's a maturity issue; rather, I think you'd encounter so much opposition from every angle that it wouldn't be worth it.

my $.02
 

rudeguy

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Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Ok, i'm in a huge moral dilemma here.

I know how wrong this question seems; an adult asking a riduculous question like this must be crazy. Well, if that is what it is called, then call me crazy. Not yet though. :D

There is this particular girl and she is fly. Very fly, and I'm asking you kind folks your opinion regarding this scandalous topic.

Is it morally acceptable to date somebody who is that young? :eek: It isnt' against the law is it? Hope not. Let me tell you what though, being brought up in a Christian household, i not intend to have sex before marriage and besides, I did meet her at a church. :)

She is soo fine. She looks like a Korean singer named Boa. Here is Boa's picture.

Boa 1
Boa 2
Text
Last Boa

Well anyways, here is the picture of the gal I like... This is my gal

So what do you guys think? Proceed on or back off? She does have a wonderful personality and isn't stuck up or anthing if that helps. I realized that women who grow older get more corrupted with drinking, smoking etc... I prefer my women holy and still innocent. :D

I wouldnt do it...and not sure how legal it is...check here for your state's laws age of consent laws
 

XZeroII

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Just be ready to deal with the consequences of your actions. With an age difference of 5 years this early in life, you two have very different mentalities. Get to know her before initiating anything and make sure she isn't just lusting. Good luck.
 

PsychoAndy

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Dec 31, 2000
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Um, wow. I would say it's morally acceptable (i guess), but not socially. You're robbin the cradle, mang.
 

Eli

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Oct 9, 1999
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16 is pretty young... My girlfriend was 16 when I met her, I was 20.. but she turned 17 a couple weeks later. ;)

She's 18 and I'm 21 now.
 
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As long as its dating its fine.. your not having sex.. so there is nothing barring you..

however i am not sure if "kissing" someone under the age of consent is considered illegal..

I would say go for it.

just warning you that girls at this age and upto 20 can be really finiky.
 

pulse8

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At 21, what do you possibly have in common with a 16 year old?

Especially enough to have any sort of relationship with her.
 

rudeguy

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Originally posted by: Jumpem
For what it's worth i'm 24 and dating a 16 year old girl.

IMO there is just something wrong with that...I am 24 dating a 20 year old and I feel like I am robbing the cradle....isnt it weird having to listen to her talk about high school and all that teen stuff?
 

Dark54555

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go for it if it's legal in your state. If you're in Texas, for example, wait till she's 17
 

Passions

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AHAHAHAHHAHAHHA THAT GIRL DOESNT LOOK LIKE BOA!!!!!! You got da beer goggles on, my friend.

To be honest, 5 years isn't all that bad. For ex. 28 and 23 is totally fine. But, a 16 yr old doesn't know what she wants and probably will like many different guys before she can formulate what type of guy she really wants. If you want to have 'fun' but nothing serious, go for it. But if you are lookin for something serious, you will be in a world of trouble. And he said, Boa, *laff*
 

bjc112

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Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Ok, i'm in a huge moral dilemma here.

I know how wrong this question seems; an adult asking a riduculous question like this must be crazy. Well, if that is what it is called, then call me crazy. Not yet though. :D

There is this particular girl and she is fly. Very fly, and I'm asking you kind folks your opinion regarding this scandalous topic.

Is it morally acceptable to date somebody who is that young? :eek: It isnt' against the law is it? Hope not. Let me tell you what though, being brought up in a Christian household, i not intend to have sex before marriage and besides, I did meet her at a church. :) But on the other hand, i'm a 3rd year college student and she is still in HS... I kind of feel like i'm robbing the cradle. =( ARgh.. What 2 do?

She is soo fine. She looks like a Korean singer named Boa. Here is Boa's picture.

Boa 1
Boa 2
Text
Last Boa

Well anyways, here is the picture of the gal I like... This is my gal

So what do you guys think? Proceed on or back off? She does have a wonderful personality and isn't stuck up or anthing if that helps. I realized that women who grow older get more corrupted with drinking, smoking etc... I prefer my women holy and still innocent. :D


If you were 24 and she was 18 i would say cool.. But 16, come on man...
 

theNEOone

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Personally, I wouldn't do it but not because it's "immoral" or anything. I just like girls my age. I'm sure there are plenty of "fly" girls in the 18-25 age man. Look around!!!!!!
 

Deeko

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I'm gonna say NO. Is it illegal for you to date? No....for you to do anything with her? Yea, its called statutory rape.
 
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Originally posted by: amdforever2
[megaphone]

THIS IS THE POLICE. YOU ARE SURROUNDED. RELEASE THE CHILD AND COME OUT WITH YOUR HANDS UP.

[/megaphone]

Totally wrong. Bad bad bad.

LOL. Can't say I don't agree. Stay friends, wait two years. Sorry, man.
 

MikeMike

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go for it, it isnt illegal as long as the parents dont care and acknowledge it.

i wouldnt tap it but thats jmo so yeah it never matters with age unless its like a high schooler goin out with a middle schooler college-high school is fine