Dumb decisions...regrets...

SaigonK

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So last night I went to happy hour, and sure enough i had a few too many Grey Goose and Orange Juice drinks....

A girl that works at the same building as i do was there and I did the normal "Hi!" trying to be cool, etc.
Anyway, I ended up hanging out with some other people while she was with some of our co-workers.

I have been mildy pining over this girl for awhile since the inevitable divorce thing .... I figured I would leave well wnough alone and not ask her out, etc. I know she is single and she is very sweet and cute as well....

Anyway...she leaves and I talk to someone she knows well from work, i of course poke around about her and the person tells me "I shouldnt tell you this in case you two ever get married or sleep togethor in the near future". Then she says I cant tell ou and holds back the info.

I was "what the heck does that mean?" I am sure it was a metaphor, but it struck me as odd since this perosn knows I have a "thing" for the girl. I did gather that she was going home to get take out and watch a movie alone.


So of course I am drinking and then I am thinking...and then my dumbass gets the best of me....
I decide I should call her and talk to her..we are outside work..it's not inappropriate...of course my friends are like.."DO IT!" so i call information and find her number (or i think i got it right) so i start spouting baout going out somewhere with soe mutual people we know..you can see the rest...

Of course she doesnt call back, and now I feel like a total ass for doing it..come Tuesday i know I am going to have to explain why I called here and what for and she will probably think I am a stalker or some crap...dammit!

UPDATE: 5-30-2004

Ok I called her yesterday and she was home....I felt like a total loser trying to talk to her about it, but I just said "This is my feeble attempt at an apology" i said I was sorry for calling her like that, I threw in a little "the friends thought it was a good idea..and I agreed with them at some point so I called."

Anywho!, she said it was fine, that she understood and was ok with it, she even chuckled at me a bit. So it looks like things are ok between us...whew!

The damn thing is that i think i could have asked her out while apoligizing...everyone I have talked to about it has been saying I should have done just that! Arrgh! The bad part is i think they are right...

we both kind of found it hard to say anything, I think i coudl have...dammit!



UPDATE 6-2-2004



Well, I saw her last night at a going away party for a co-worker, fun thing is I didnt even talk to her while I was there, kind of avoided her but I dont think I made it obvious or anything.
I was only at the party for about 30 minutes, long enough to say goodbye to the person leaving and some quick talk with other people there....ah well...I guess I am doomed to be bashful and shy for the rest of my life...oh well!

One woman I work with knows her well, she asked me how my weekend went and asked if I had called the girl and if I ended up going over to her house..this was the same woman who told me the girl was just going home alone....I am getting the feeling this woman is playing matchmaker and neither of us know it!
 

Pliablemoose

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Originally posted by: SaigonK
So last night I went to happy hour, and sure enough i had a few too many Grey Goose and Orange Juice drinks....

A girl that works at the same building as i do was there and I did the normal "Hi!" trying to be cool, etc.
Anyway, I ended up hanging out with some other people while she was with some of our co-workers.

I have been mildy pining over this girl for awhile since the inevitable divorce thing .... I figured I would leave well wnough alone and not ask her out, etc. I know she is single and she is very sweet and cute as well....

Anyway...she leaves and I talk to someone she knows well from work, i of course poke around about her and the person tells me "I shouldnt tell you this in case you two ever get married or sleep togethor in the near future". Then she says I cant tell ou and holds back the info.

I was "what the heck does that mean?" I am sure it was a metaphor, but it struck me as odd since this perosn knows I have a "thing" for the girl. I did gather that she was going home to get take out and watch a movie alone.


So of course I am drinking and then I am thinking...and then my dumbass gets the best of me....
I decide I should call her and talk to her..we are outside work..it's not inappropriate...of course my friends are like.."DO IT!" so i call information and find her number (or i think i got it right) so i start spouting baout going out somewhere with soe mutual people we know..you can see the rest...

Of course she doesnt call back, and now I feel like a total ass for doing it..come Tuesday i know I am going to have to explain why I called here and what for and she will probably think I am a stalker or some crap...dammit!

Ouch, bad move,

I always did the chatting up in person, not by stalking, starts everything off on the wrong foot. Apologize quickly & carefully on Tuesday. Be a man & grovel & get ready to move on quickly & in a politically correct manner since you both work together.
 

waggy

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bwhahahahah

should be fun on tuesday! let us know what happens! heheh
 

SaigonK

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Yeah...bad move for sure.....we often talk to each other in passing at work, making jokes etc. Harmless talk...every so often i would throw out a compliment like "you look very nice today" the standard stuff...
Now I just crashed and burned hard core.. :(
 

SaigonK

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Now I dontknow how to approach her...should I simply wait for us to bump into one another...or should I just go down and see her or email her? Or maybe just avoid her at all costs and hope I got the wrong number......
 

GasX

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You ever see the movie, Swingers?

leave a bunch more messages, quick!
 

BlueWeasel

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Track down her address and go apologize in person, but only do it really late at night.

Girls like that.... :D
 

Pliablemoose

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Originally posted by: SaigonK
Now I dontknow how to approach her...should I simply wait for us to bump into one another...or should I just go down and see her or email her? Or maybe just avoid her at all costs and hope I got the wrong number......

Since you have her number, you could google her address & go apologize in person today. j/k...

Don't email her, it's like writing a company memo admitting to stalking her.

How likely is it that you'll bump into her @ work?
 

SaigonK

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Originally posted by: BlueWeasel
Track down her address and go apologize in person, but only do it really late at night.

Girls like that.... :D


HA! That would be bad...I can see it now....I would of course have to get the courage up to do it, then i would stumble all over the place trying to say something and then try to be funny......

But of course my boyish charm and shining personality would win her over and she would go out with me.......

Or not....
 

SaigonK

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Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Originally posted by: SaigonK
Now I dontknow how to approach her...should I simply wait for us to bump into one another...or should I just go down and see her or email her? Or maybe just avoid her at all costs and hope I got the wrong number......

Since you have her number, you could google her address & go apologize in person today. j/k...

Don't email her, it's like writing a company memo admitting to stalking her.

How likely is it that you'll bump into her @ work?


I had not seen her for about a week or so at work, maybe longer.
The chances could be pretty slim since I am a couple of floors up from where she sits....

Email is always bad, and i hate to say anything while we are at work, just opens up that whole door to issues.
 

Pliablemoose

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Originally posted by: SaigonK
Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Originally posted by: SaigonK
Now I dontknow how to approach her...should I simply wait for us to bump into one another...or should I just go down and see her or email her? Or maybe just avoid her at all costs and hope I got the wrong number......

Since you have her number, you could google her address & go apologize in person today. j/k...

Don't email her, it's like writing a company memo admitting to stalking her.

How likely is it that you'll bump into her @ work?


I had not seen her for about a week or so at work, maybe longer.
The chances could be pretty slim since I am a couple of floors up from where she sits....

Email is always bad, and i hate to say anything while we are at work, just opens up that whole door to issues.

I'd make the effort to go apoligize in person & make a dedicated trip to do it. Women like to see the groveling in person.

Just keep it short & sweet, she already knows you like her, evidently... make it a short, sweet, open ended apology & if it get uncomfortable, run (have a withdrawl strategy)

Also be careful, women generally don't like the whole rebound thing. You might want to cool your jets for a few months.
 

moshquerade

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grey goose and orange juice = screwdriver ???



and too bad you let that liquid courage get the best of you. :p
 

SaigonK

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I hate to blame it on the booze, that seems like it might come across as i drink too much....well last night I might have but normally i dont go out and get wasted or anything.
 

Orsorum

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I've made many, many mistakes when it comes to women, whether not continuing to date a great women (happened my freshman year of college, she was 21, beautiful, smart, but we went a little too far on the first date and I freaked... damnit), or not taking hints (various hints from one woman in particular that I worked with last year). All you can do is swallow your pride, laugh about it and move on.

Cheers!
Nate
 

SaigonK

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Ok I called her yesterday and she was home....I felt like a total loser trying to talk to her about it, but I just said "This is my feeble attempt at an apology" i said I was sorry for calling her like that, I threw in a little "the friends thought it was a good idea..and I agreed with them at some point so I called." :)

Anywho, she said it was fine, that she understood and was ok with it, she even chuckled at me a bit. So it looks like things are ok between us...whew!

The damn thing is that i think i could have asked her out while apoligizing...everyone I have talke dot about it has been saying I should have dne just that! Arrgh! The bad part is i think they are right...

we both kind of found it hard to say anything, I think i coudl have...dammit!
 

Kadarin

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Seppuku. It's the only option.

so i call information and find her number

Now that's just plain cheezy and low-class. If you had wanted to talk to her, you should have gone up and talked to her.
 

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Not that I know anything about women, but they seem to like flowers. Maybe you could hand deliver her some flowers on Tuesday, you know, apologise in person...then if she's taking it well, you could ask her out for dinner or something.

My two bits.
 

SaigonK

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Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Seppuku. It's the only option.

so i call information and find her number

Now that's just plain cheezy and low-class. If you had wanted to talk to her, you should have gone up and talked to her.

Actually I didnt call informaiton, someone else did and handed me the phone..so i wasnt the cheese ball....at least not for that part of the fiasco.