Dumb decisions...regrets...

[Balt]

Originally posted by: SaigonK
So I think i am going to call her today and see if she wants to go to a little BBQ tonight....

Did you end up doing this? I hope not (unless it worked).

She probably knows by now that you like her. You don't have to necessarily wait for her to make a move, but you should wait until you at least get some feedback (body language the next time you see her, for example) before you call her up again. Calling her only a day or two after the "incident" might make you seem pretty desperate/creepy.

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: Balt

Originally posted by: SaigonK
So I think i am going to call her today and see if she wants to go to a little BBQ tonight....

Did you end up doing this? I hope not (unless it worked).

She probably knows by now that you like her. You don't have to necessarily wait for her to make a move, but you should wait until you at least get some feedback (body language the next time you see her, for example) before you call her up again. Calling her only a day or two after the "incident" might make you seem pretty desperate/creepy.

I didnt call her, a friend of mine says I shouldnt do anything until the next face to face meeting we might have (kind of like you mentioned) and I have to agree he is most likely right.

I am sure she realizes I like her in some sense, especially after calling her and all, but I think I am going to err on the side of caution and just run into her when I do...could be a day...could be a week..could be a month....

 

Women smell desperation a mile away. You do not call her again.

I did the divorce thing a few years back and pretty much went through what you are now, so I know how retarded you feel.

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Women smell desperation a mile away. You do not call her again.

I did the divorce thing a few years back and pretty much went through what you are now, so I know how retarded you feel.

Yeah, I figured as much too, she was probably thinking, he is just looking for a date...called me because he is feeling desperation.

The truth is, I actually like her (no desperation involved) she's funny, pretty, smart and close to my age.
The sad part is now I feel like I might have blwon my chance at getting to know her in a normal fashion...

 

[Muadib]

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Women smell desperation a mile away. You do not call her again.

I did the divorce thing a few years back and pretty much went through what you are now, so I know how retarded you feel.

Yeah, I figured as much too, she was probably thinking, he is just looking for a date...called me because he is feeling desperation.

The truth is, I actually like her (no desperation involved) she's funny, pretty, smart and close to my age.
The sad part is now I feel like I might have blwon my chance at getting to know her in a normal fashion...

She's probably thinking she should change her number to an unlisted one. What can you say to her now, and not come off like a stalker?

 

[SaigonK]

I already called and apologized the next day, she was completely fine and even laughed at me a bit...so I really do think we are smoothed over on that issue.
My problem is what to do now...

 

[Muadib]

How often do you run into her at work?

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: Muadib
How often do you run into her at work?

I had not seen her for a week or two, I might see her once a week if it happens..but we work in two different areas, and I am on the third floor while she is on the first...not much direct interaction.

 

[gururu]

it sounds like a tough situation.
hit all the company parties and have the mustard to chat her up!

 

[TitanDiddly]

UPDATE: 5-30-2004

Ok I called her yesterday and she was home....I felt like a total loser trying to talk to her about it, but I just said "This is my feeble attempt at an apology" i said I was sorry for calling her like that, I threw in a little "the friends thought it was a good idea..and I agreed with them at some point so I called."

Anywho!, she said it was fine, that she understood and was ok with it, she even chuckled at me a bit. So it looks like things are ok between us...whew!

The damn thing is that i think i could have asked her out while apoligizing...everyone I have talked to about it has been saying I should have done just that! Arrgh! The bad part is i think they are right...

we both kind of found it hard to say anything, I think i coudl have...dammit!

Hey, it's not like they ever steered you wrong in the past or anything.

 

[SaigonK]

Good point PhasmatisNox Guess I better be sticking to what i think is right...

 

[SaigonK]

Well, I saw her last night at a going away party for a co-worker, fun thing is I didnt even talk to her while I was there, kind of avoided her but I dont think I made it obvious or anything.
I was only at the party for about 30 minutes, long enough to say goodbye to the person leaving and some quick talk with other people there....ah well...I guess I am doomed to be bashful and shy for the rest of my life...oh well!

One woman I work with knows her well, she asked me how my weekend went and asked if I had called the girl and if I ended up going over to her house..this was the same woman who told me the girl was just going home alone....I am getting the feeling this woman is playing matchmaker and neither of us know it!

 

[Muadib]

Way to blow the perfect opportunity to get to know her better. Dude, wtf are you doing?!?

 

[SaigonK]

being shy and apprehensive i guess
it sucks to say the least..I have not dated in over 10 years, I am very rusty, and i think the thought of rejection isnt very appealing///

 

[Muadib]

Does that mean that you've given up on this girl?

 

[SaigonK]

Well..no i wouldnt say that, I am just kind of nervous...I think it is causing a lot of my issues...

Figure that I have not dated in over 10 years, closer to 13 years.
She is (I think) very pretty, dresses very nice, and modern, she has a great career at work, owns her house, what would she see in a guy who is just finishing up divorce, has two kids and is 4 years older than her....


Thats kind of my dilemia.....ah well.....