Uh, stop drinking and go out. I've done it for a while, it's a downward spiral that doesnt help s*** you just gotta go ou and meet people. That girl you've been into for 4 years? theres other women in the sea. forget about it and try to move on.
moshquerade
No Lifer
- Nov 1, 2001
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this is really a call for help.
JohnCU, muster up some determination! you know what you want out of life - so go get it.
curling up inside of a bottle and feeling sorry for yourself is nothing but a dead end.
is there anyone you can talk to? someone who you can look to for support?
AA only works for 20% of its members. Therapy and picking up a less dangerous addiction is the way to go.
Find an alternative to AA if you're seeking help. It's a cult that won't help you kick the habit.
narzy
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- Feb 26, 2000
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this comment right here scares me and I pray for you and I'm agnostic...what you are describing is CLASSIC alcoholism, you need to quit drinking it is simple as that and you probably need support LOTS of support. you need to find and AA meeting and GO TO IT, that is the best and only advice I can give you. And just in case you were wondering NO YOU CAN NOT PICK UP THE AA GIRLS!
You are in what is called Active Addiction the only way to quit is to quit and the only way you are going to be able to do that is to change you life. If you are worried about your weight take walks, play Wii boxing, do activity get exercise.
AA resources:
http://www.aa.org/bigbookonline/ START READING
http://www.alcoholics-anonymou...g/US_CtrOffice/sc.html FIND A MEETING
I can't find the AA crisis line phone number but if someone else knows it please post it. (do they even have one? I know NA does...)
Edit:
some of the beliefs of AA and AA-like groups in this thread are whoahfully out of touch with reality and the people posting said mis-information are not doing this gentleman any favors. AA works for people who want it to work and who work it. Addiction is a VERY difficult thing to kick and the program is equally as difficult. For the people who stick with AA it works.
It works if you work it so work it, it's worth it!
Start by going to a regular doctor. He can help you find additional resources. Trust me, you want to stop if you are drinking that much a day.
I think it's time for an intervention. Let's call A&E 
AA works for some folks, for others it doesn't. However, it's free, and the support you'll get there is much better than any single therapist.
AA works for some folks, for others it doesn't. However, it's free, and the support you'll get there is much better than any single therapist.
alkemyst
No Lifer
- Feb 13, 2001
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umm how about going to a bar to drink? Drinking alone regularly is usually a pointer to an underlying problem.
Also pining on about one girl for 4 years is an entire other issue. #1 religions really do not have to match to have a successful relationship...
There are a lot of avenues you can take to get help. Some were suggested by other members (such as AA for example).
If you are looking for one-on-one counselling, you should try talking to a family member and get advice from them if your Blue Cross/Blue Shield doesn't cover it. If you have some money saved up, you should seek a professional and it will be one of the better investments you'll make.
With that said, you should tell the girl you want to be with straight up how you feel about her. It's not healthy to obsess about one person for 4 years. If she feels the same way about you, that's one hurdle crossed. If she doesn't, you know that you should move on and try to find someone else.
Instead of spending your money on alcohol, try taking some dance or art lessons. It's a great way to learn something new and meet people in the process. Hell, you could even sign up for a gym membership and get into shape. In any event, you'll be doing something to better your situation instead of sitting in your room and drinking by yourself.
It doesn't matter if he is drinking alone or drinking socially. The fact that he begins to feel the "need" to drink at the end of the day is the problem. It's beginning to become an mental addiction and if he keeps up the amount he is drinking, which will become more because of tolerance, it will become a physical addiction. At this point, people will want to drink to get rid of the physical symptoms (shakes, anxiety, sweating, etc.). Stopping on your own becomes next to impossible and to safely stop, you'll need to be admitted to some detox facility where they can safely monitor your withdrawal.
You need to be tougher mentally. If you really want to quit just tell yourself to quit.
j/k. you probably need help.
j/k. you probably need help.
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