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Don't you hate it when you get invited to "fake" parties by co-workers?

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Originally posted by: redly1
Originally posted by: pyonir
Originally posted by: redly1
I hate it when I get invited to parties, but then I am the first one to show up. Before you know it, something happens, and I wake up 2000 miles away in a bathtub full of ice, missing a kidney.
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Quit whining...you only need one of them anyway. ya baby.
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True true. I recently hosted a similar party. Now I have two livers to make up for the missing kidney.
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Any onions?
 
Originally posted by: dug777
I could have sworn that almost exactly the same thread was posted quite a while back....😕
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Maybe the OP just copies/pastes his previous thread whenever he gets these stupid emails 😉
 
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
1st and foremost, being a man in the workforce sucks...considering that women get to have 6 weeks of paid time off for being pregnant....anything longer than that, they can apply for additional time off and get paid 66% of their salary :| That being said, I'm not bitter or nothing....ok maybe I am. 😉
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So unfair huh? Well considering that they have to squeeze a watermelon out of their crotch, not to mention the nine months of having to carry around another life, I think it's appropriate to give them 6 weeks to recover.

 
Originally posted by: XxPrOdiGyxX
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
1st and foremost, being a man in the workforce sucks...considering that women get to have 6 weeks of paid time off for being pregnant....anything longer than that, they can apply for additional time off and get paid 66% of their salary :| That being said, I'm not bitter or nothing....ok maybe I am. 😉
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So unfair huh? Well considering that they have to squeeze a watermelon out of their crotch, not to mention the nine months of having to carry around another life, I think it's appropriate to give them 6 weeks to recover.
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sounds horrible, in all fairness it was their choice. Unless of course the situation was forced upon them (i.e. rape), my opinion changes then.
 
Originally posted by: Rickten
Originally posted by: XxPrOdiGyxX
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
1st and foremost, being a man in the workforce sucks...considering that women get to have 6 weeks of paid time off for being pregnant....anything longer than that, they can apply for additional time off and get paid 66% of their salary :| That being said, I'm not bitter or nothing....ok maybe I am. 😉
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So unfair huh? Well considering that they have to squeeze a watermelon out of their crotch, not to mention the nine months of having to carry around another life, I think it's appropriate to give them 6 weeks to recover.
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sounds horrible, in all fairness it was their choice. Unless of course the situation was forced upon them (i.e. rape), my opinion changes then.
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Give me a break guys! It wasn't their choice to be the one who has babies, it was God's. To me, 6 weeks ain't nothing! They should get 6 months! I hope you have to pass a kidney stone throught your pee pees one day, you winy bastards!
 
Originally posted by: jiggahertz
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
Originally posted by: jiggahertz
Here's an idea... don't go if you don't want to. Who gives a sh1t if it's HR? At the places I've worked I have had 0 interaction with HR. Also, women aren't the only ones who get time off for being pregnant. It's called paternity leave.
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yes, that's called a 1 week paternity leave, not 6 weeks...
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Varies by employer.
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Varies quite a bit. I got two weeks paternity and my wife's still on her 12-week maternity.

And I'd agree with mosh and call you a tool, except to me you just sound like you're still very young. A lack of maturity and self-centered thinking like this usually point out someone who hasn't been in the workforce long enough to know there things more important than the work you're doing.

On the shower, send a card with a savings bond and be done with it.
 
Wow... if you can't get out of going to a baby shower you definitely are not the Fresh Prince. Please change your username to something more appropriate.
 
Originally posted by: Dean
I don't show up to any social event at my work at all, no matter the event. I go to work, do my time, then concentrate on my family and personal friends.

My work social activity is a game a BF2 with a couple co-workers.
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Same stance I've always taken.
I spend 9hrs+ per day with these people. Its NOTHING personal (well in some cases it is). I like a lot of my coworkers both past and present very much. But why would I want to spend MORE time with you? I see you more than my wife, my kids or my couch. Sorry... drinks after work? Ummm no.

If its a strictly work sponsored event (like yesterday we closed down and all went to the 1st place Brewers game) or Holiday party sure I go to those... but something extracurricular? forget it.

At this point people will still invite me, but they always preface it with "I know you hate these things and won't go, but I do want you to know you're invited...."

I set the precedent and they understand.
 
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
I'm talking about the wedding showers, baby showers and the like...

1st and foremost, being a man in the workforce sucks...considering that women get to have 6 weeks of paid time off for being pregnant....anything longer than that, they can apply for additional time off and get paid 66% of their salary :| That being said, I'm not bitter or nothing....ok maybe I am. 😉

let's get back on topic.

So the head of HR sends a "secret" invite to damn near everyone in the company, asking them to join her at her house for a surprise "party" - aka baby shower, for a soon to be mom co-worker, who also works in the HR department...

I don't like going to these parties already, because there's always an additional agenda...that being gifts. I've already attended plenty of "parties" this year and they've become expensive since every single wedding shower or baby shower, you feel obligated to show up with at least a presentable gift. That's $50 here....$50 there....it all adds up!

I don't hate this co-worker so I don't mind going, but damn, how much money do these women think we have?! I obviously can't turn it down because then it strains this relationship, not to mention that it's an "HR" invite...

Friends should not expect a gift every single time, but you look like a j@ck@ss for not showing up, and an even bigger j@ck@ss if you show up with nothing...

d@mned if you do, d@mned if you don't...
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Suppose you were married and your wife was having a baby. They would let you get that paid + mostly-paid vacation too, right?

That would only be fair....

Also, when I read "'fake' parties," I was thinking Amway pitches...or times when you think there's gonna be a "party" but it's just Chris Hansen sitting there
 
I hate that too, why is there no 'I love being single!' shower? I think everyone should get one and only gift-getting party regardless of situation. Then everyone's dollars aren't funding people who have way too many kids and way too many marriages.
 
sounds horrible, in all fairness it was their choice. Unless of course the situation was forced upon them (i.e. rape), my opinion changes then.
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Last I checked, it took two to get pregnant. It's a joint decision - not just a single person's decision.

Getting back to topic though, I guess it depends on how big the company is. If there's gonna be 20-30 other people there, then just don't show up. If it's small, maybe give them a cheaper gift (I think someone suggested diapers - it's a gift that's greatly appreciated and guaranteed to be useful) and be done with it.
 
Why do you feel like you are forced to go?

Just because she sent it to everybody does not mean she expect everybody to go, unless your company is uber small and she can remember every single invite.
 
Originally posted by: Rickten
Originally posted by: XxPrOdiGyxX
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
1st and foremost, being a man in the workforce sucks...considering that women get to have 6 weeks of paid time off for being pregnant....anything longer than that, they can apply for additional time off and get paid 66% of their salary :| That being said, I'm not bitter or nothing....ok maybe I am. 😉
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So unfair huh? Well considering that they have to squeeze a watermelon out of their crotch, not to mention the nine months of having to carry around another life, I think it's appropriate to give them 6 weeks to recover.
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sounds horrible, in all fairness it was their choice. Unless of course the situation was forced upon them (i.e. rape), my opinion changes then.
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Still don't understand the logic? So you are either suggesting ALL women should be housewives or that humans should no longer have babies. Yes, it was their decision to have a baby. But why should women have to lose their jobs because nature gave them the unfortunate/fortunate (however you look at it) responsibility of bearing children? Either you have never had children or have absolutely no idea what raising an infant is like. Sure they get 6 weeks off from work...but they have countless sleepless nights and stress. You don't have to give berth, you don't have PMS, you don't go through menopause. Consider youself lucky, because I'd rather trade 6 weeks of a ONE TIME "vacation" rather than have to go through that.
 
Originally posted by: XxPrOdiGyxX
Originally posted by: Rickten
Originally posted by: XxPrOdiGyxX
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
1st and foremost, being a man in the workforce sucks...considering that women get to have 6 weeks of paid time off for being pregnant....anything longer than that, they can apply for additional time off and get paid 66% of their salary :| That being said, I'm not bitter or nothing....ok maybe I am. 😉
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So unfair huh? Well considering that they have to squeeze a watermelon out of their crotch, not to mention the nine months of having to carry around another life, I think it's appropriate to give them 6 weeks to recover.
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sounds horrible, in all fairness it was their choice. Unless of course the situation was forced upon them (i.e. rape), my opinion changes then.
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Still don't understand the logic? So you are either suggesting ALL women should be housewives or that humans should no longer have babies. Yes, it was their decision to have a baby. But why should women have to lose their jobs because nature gave them the unfortunate/fortunate (however you look at it) responsibility of bearing children? Either you have never had children or have absolutely no idea what raising an infant is like. Sure they get 6 weeks off from work...but they have countless sleepless nights and stress. You don't have to give berth, you don't have PMS, you don't go through menopause. Consider youself lucky, because I'd rather trade 6 weeks of a ONE TIME "vacation" rather than have to go through that.
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QFT!!!
My wife was sick almost the entire 9 months of her second pregnancy. I would gladly work the rest of my life to not have to endure half of what she did. Then again, she is a stay at home mom, so no coworkers were affected. I can see both sides of the arguement... but it all comes down to where your priorities are. If you're a motivated person that is working hard to move up in the corporate world, most likely you will view 6 weeks of paid leave as unfair and rediculous. Heck... there was a time a few years back I felt that way too. However, after getting married and having children, my whole outlook changed. I'm still motivated and am doing well in my career, but I also have a great deal more empathy for women going through pregnancy and childbirth. Oh yeah... I've never been to a baby shower! That just isn't a place for men, for the most part.
 
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