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Don't you hate it when you get invited to "fake" parties by co-workers?

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FreshPrince

Diamond Member
I'm talking about the wedding showers, baby showers and the like...

1st and foremost, being a man in the workforce sucks...considering that women get to have 6 weeks of paid time off for being pregnant....anything longer than that, they can apply for additional time off and get paid 66% of their salary :| That being said, I'm not bitter or nothing....ok maybe I am. 😉

let's get back on topic.

So the head of HR sends a "secret" invite to damn near everyone in the company, asking them to join her at her house for a surprise "party" - aka baby shower, for a soon to be mom co-worker, who also works in the HR department...

I don't like going to these parties already, because there's always an additional agenda...that being gifts. I've already attended plenty of "parties" this year and they've become expensive since every single wedding shower or baby shower, you feel obligated to show up with at least a presentable gift. That's $50 here....$50 there....it all adds up!

I don't hate this co-worker so I don't mind going, but damn, how much money do these women think we have?! I obviously can't turn it down because then it strains this relationship, not to mention that it's an "HR" invite...

Friends should not expect a gift every single time, but you look like a j@ck@ss for not showing up, and an even bigger j@ck@ss if you show up with nothing...

d@mned if you do, d@mned if you don't...
 
Oh I thought it was like the type of party that Jay invites Andy to in 40 Year Old Virgin. It's going to be really, really colorful.
 
I ain't got a heart of stone
I'm hurtin' more now than I've ever known
If you mean the things you said
I'm gonna wind up outa my head
Can't sleep alone at night
I just can't seem to get it right
Damned if I do
Damned if I don't but I love you

Alan Parsons Project 4 life 😉
 
Originally posted by: AgaBoogaBoo
I ain't got a heart of stone
I'm hurtin' more now than I've ever known
If you mean the things you said
I'm gonna wind up outa my head
Can't sleep alone at night
I just can't seem to get it right
Damned if I do
Damned if I don't but I love you

Alan Parsons Project 4 life 😉
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APP REPRA-ZENT!!!
 
Why not get a group together and pitch in on a "big" gift like a stroller or car seat? It will be less money per person and the mom-to-be will still get a nice gift.
 
Originally posted by: MrChad
Why not get a group together and pitch in on a "big" gift like a stroller or car seat? It will be less money per person and the mom-to-be will still get a nice gift.
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that's a good point..but since I've ignored the invite for a week...I guess I've missed out on all the group buys...DOH!
 
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
I'm talking about the wedding showers, baby showers and the like...

1st and foremost, being a man in the workforce sucks...considering that women get to have 6 weeks of paid time off for being pregnant....anything longer than that, they can apply for additional time off and get paid 66% of their salary :| That being said, I'm not bitter or nothing....ok maybe I am. 😉

let's get back on topic.

So the head of HR sends a "secret" invite to damn near everyone in the company, asking them to join her at her house for a surprise "party" - aka baby shower, for a soon to be mom co-worker, who also works in the HR department...

I don't like going to these parties already, because there's always an additional agenda...that being gifts. I've already attended plenty of "parties" this year and they've become expensive since every single wedding shower or baby shower, you feel obligated to show up with at least a presentable gift. That's $50 here....$50 there....it all adds up!

I don't hate this co-worker so I don't mind going, but damn, how much money do these women think we have?! I obviously can't turn it down because then it strains this relationship, not to mention that it's an "HR" invite...

Friends should not expect a gift every single time, but you look like a j@ck@ss for not showing up, and an even bigger j@ck@ss if you show up with nothing...

d@mned if you do, d@mned if you don't...
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well it's like this.... they feel they have to invite EVERYBODY or someone might get offended if they aren't invited.

also, this bit about women getting time off for having babies and you sounding resentful really is well... sad. like having a baby is a vacation.

lastly:

Originally posted by: Howard
Say you've got some family crap and can't attend.
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I agree with Howard. You hate these parties so much so make an excuse, and don't send a gift in your place. Who cares if they think you're cheap, and maybe if you're lucky and if you keep giving excuses they'll start not inviting you anymore.
 
I hate it when I get invited to parties, but then I am the first one to show up. Before you know it, something happens, and I wake up 2000 miles away in a bathtub full of ice, missing a kidney.
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
I'm talking about the wedding showers, baby showers and the like...

1st and foremost, being a man in the workforce sucks...considering that women get to have 6 weeks of paid time off for being pregnant....anything longer than that, they can apply for additional time off and get paid 66% of their salary :| That being said, I'm not bitter or nothing....ok maybe I am. 😉

let's get back on topic.

So the head of HR sends a "secret" invite to damn near everyone in the company, asking them to join her at her house for a surprise "party" - aka baby shower, for a soon to be mom co-worker, who also works in the HR department...

I don't like going to these parties already, because there's always an additional agenda...that being gifts. I've already attended plenty of "parties" this year and they've become expensive since every single wedding shower or baby shower, you feel obligated to show up with at least a presentable gift. That's $50 here....$50 there....it all adds up!

I don't hate this co-worker so I don't mind going, but damn, how much money do these women think we have?! I obviously can't turn it down because then it strains this relationship, not to mention that it's an "HR" invite...

Friends should not expect a gift every single time, but you look like a j@ck@ss for not showing up, and an even bigger j@ck@ss if you show up with nothing...

d@mned if you do, d@mned if you don't...
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well it's like this.... they feel they have to invite EVERYBODY or someone might get offended if they aren't invited.

also, this bit about women getting time off for having babies and you sounding resentful really is well... sad. like having a baby is a vacation.

lastly:

Originally posted by: Howard
Say you've got some family crap and can't attend.
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I agree with Howard. You hate these parties so much so make an excuse, and don't send a gift in your place. Who cares if they think you're cheap, and maybe if you're lucky and if you keep giving excuses they'll start not inviting you anymore.
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well, if having babies isn't such a vacation, then why have them? they're not forced upon you by the company, it's a choice made by the women and their husbands. so, yes, I think it sucks that women get to take extended paid time off for a choice they made themselves. no one forced them to have children, yet when they do, it's sit on your @ss for a month on the company's dollar. That's fine, I've come to accept this, but what pisses me off is when women whine about equal pay! what equal pay?! you get to take more paid off time than most men will take in 5 years.

anyways, back on topic...I can't just make an excuse now because it's an invite by the head of HR...meaning, ya'll better come or you're on the sh!tlist for the next 10 years...

 
Here's an idea... don't go if you don't want to. Who gives a sh1t if it's HR? At the places I've worked I have had 0 interaction with HR. Also, women aren't the only ones who get time off for being pregnant. It's called paternity leave.
 
Originally posted by: jiggahertz
Here's an idea... don't go if you don't want to. Who gives a sh1t if it's HR? At the places I've worked I have had 0 interaction with HR. Also, women aren't the only ones who get time off for being pregnant. It's called paternity leave.
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yes, that's called a 1 week paternity leave, not 6 weeks...
 
Pretty sure dudes are not suppose to go to babys showers. In fact I have never known a guy that got the invite.

You sending out the wrong signal to these women?
 
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
I'm talking about the wedding showers, baby showers and the like...

1st and foremost, being a man in the workforce sucks...considering that women get to have 6 weeks of paid time off for being pregnant....anything longer than that, they can apply for additional time off and get paid 66% of their salary :| That being said, I'm not bitter or nothing....ok maybe I am. 😉

let's get back on topic.

So the head of HR sends a "secret" invite to damn near everyone in the company, asking them to join her at her house for a surprise "party" - aka baby shower, for a soon to be mom co-worker, who also works in the HR department...

I don't like going to these parties already, because there's always an additional agenda...that being gifts. I've already attended plenty of "parties" this year and they've become expensive since every single wedding shower or baby shower, you feel obligated to show up with at least a presentable gift. That's $50 here....$50 there....it all adds up!

I don't hate this co-worker so I don't mind going, but damn, how much money do these women think we have?! I obviously can't turn it down because then it strains this relationship, not to mention that it's an "HR" invite...

Friends should not expect a gift every single time, but you look like a j@ck@ss for not showing up, and an even bigger j@ck@ss if you show up with nothing...

d@mned if you do, d@mned if you don't...
Click to expand...
well it's like this.... they feel they have to invite EVERYBODY or someone might get offended if they aren't invited.

also, this bit about women getting time off for having babies and you sounding resentful really is well... sad. like having a baby is a vacation.

lastly:

Originally posted by: Howard
Say you've got some family crap and can't attend.
Click to expand...

I agree with Howard. You hate these parties so much so make an excuse, and don't send a gift in your place. Who cares if they think you're cheap, and maybe if you're lucky and if you keep giving excuses they'll start not inviting you anymore.
Click to expand...

well, if having babies isn't such a vacation, then why have them? they're not forced upon you by the company, it's a choice made by the women and their husbands. so, yes, I think it sucks that women get to take extended paid time off for a choice they made themselves. no one forced them to have children, yet when they do, it's sit on your @ss for a month on the company's dollar. That's fine, I've come to accept this, but what pisses me off is when women whine about equal pay! what equal pay?! you get to take more paid off time than most men will take in 5 years.
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You sound like a total tool.

anyways, back on topic...I can't just make an excuse now because it's an invite by the head of HR...meaning, ya'll better come or you're on the sh!tlist for the next 10 years...
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Secretly I'm sure they really don't want you and your attitude there either.

Drink some syrup of ipecac and make yourself puke = instant stomach flu. And now you have a real excuse. They'll appreciate that you aren't there.

 
Just because HR issued the invite doesn't automatically mean you MUST attend,half the time the people throwing these parties hope to get a lot of turn dows as it makes party costs less,yoiu send along a card with á $25 savings bond for the baby and you're done🙂

Btw,I work in a place that celebrates everything and I do mean everything, I pitch in on collections for people I like across all 3 shifts and any collection for people on my own team,the amount I give varies on my relationship with that person. My only exception is for berevement,somebody losing a spouse,child,father,mother? I throw $5 in the envelope
and sign the card.

Oh and what goes around comes around,my work thru me an awesome wedding shower that was massively well attended and beautifully done,they also remember my birthday🙂
 
Originally posted by: FreshPrince
Originally posted by: jiggahertz
Here's an idea... don't go if you don't want to. Who gives a sh1t if it's HR? At the places I've worked I have had 0 interaction with HR. Also, women aren't the only ones who get time off for being pregnant. It's called paternity leave.
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yes, that's called a 1 week paternity leave, not 6 weeks...
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Varies by employer.
 
Originally posted by: redly1
I hate it when I get invited to parties, but then I am the first one to show up. Before you know it, something happens, and I wake up 2000 miles away in a bathtub full of ice, missing a kidney.
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Quit whining...you only need one of them anyway. ya baby.
 
Grow up and be a man. If you care this much about it then tell them you don't want to go and get over it.

People do too much doubletalk these days, just say what you mean.

Oh and complaining because women get leave for having a baby is tasteless.
 
Originally posted by: pyonir
Originally posted by: redly1
I hate it when I get invited to parties, but then I am the first one to show up. Before you know it, something happens, and I wake up 2000 miles away in a bathtub full of ice, missing a kidney.
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Quit whining...you only need one of them anyway. ya baby.
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True true. I recently hosted a similar party. Now I have two livers to make up for the missing kidney.
 
our parties are usually drinking, bbq...sporting event...havent had to have many of those "hidden agenda" parties...but I will say one thing, a gf is the same deal- she things we just keep shelling out money and gets pissed if we were to mention "im trying to save up a bit"....good times... cant tell you the last time she actually bought me something either now that i think of it...
 
I don't show up to any social event at my work at all, no matter the event. I go to work, do my time, then concentrate on my family and personal friends.

My work social activity is a game a BF2 with a couple co-workers.

 
If you got invited to a baby shower, they probably think you're gay. Dudes don't usually go to baby showers unless:
A) It's their baby
B) One of their closest friend's baby
C) Wife/GF makes them go

If not any of the above, then don't go. Your personal time belongs to you, not the company.
 
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