Does anyone here not have any friends?

[theeedude]

Originally posted by: iamaelephant

Originally posted by: senseamp
I don't have any local friends at the moment. I had some, they moved away or got married and do different things.

This seems to be a disturbing trend in this thread. Overall I find this an extremely depressing thread but these comments in particular are very disturbing. I'm 21 years old and have a core group of very good friends, mostly older than me (22 - 29). Many of my best mates are now in serious relationships and will very likely get married in the next couple of years.

Are you guys saying that when someone gets married they basically ditch all of their friends? I sincerely hope this isn't the case because my friends are like brothers to me and I couldn't stand to lose them if they got married. Even now with their long term girlfriends I see much less of them than I used to, I'd hate to lose them completely

I guess they could still be your friends. Especially if you have common activities that don't interfere with their family lives. If you guys go running or playing golf, it shouldn't be a problem. But for purposes of going out and partying, they'll probably not be available.

 

[winr]

All of my real Friends got married a long time ago and the Friendships kind of faded away.

I crap canned all of the rest of my phony moocher user friends.

I like having time for myself to do things I want to do at my own pace.


Being alone does not mean lonely to me.


To all the lonely people a big ole hug and some :sun:

 

[totalcommand]

Originally posted by: iamaelephant

Originally posted by: senseamp
I don't have any local friends at the moment. I had some, they moved away or got married and do different things.

This seems to be a disturbing trend in this thread. Overall I find this an extremely depressing thread but these comments in particular are very disturbing. I'm 21 years old and have a core group of very good friends, mostly older than me (22 - 29). Many of my best mates are now in serious relationships and will very likely get married in the next couple of years.

Are you guys saying that when someone gets married they basically ditch all of their friends? I sincerely hope this isn't the case because my friends are like brothers to me and I couldn't stand to lose them if they got married. Even now with their long term girlfriends I see much less of them than I used to, I'd hate to lose them completely

Yah, sorry man that's what happens. You'll see less and less of them as the years go on, it's just a fact of life.

 

[totalcommand]

Originally posted by: Canai
Yeah all the good friend I had are gone now... most of them are stuck in a bitter struggle with various drugs and booze, in and out of jail, or living with their girlfriends. It's really hard, having been a hardcore pot smoker for so long, to make new good friends, since all my old friends do is smoke and sit in front of the tv.

At this point I don't even give a fvck... I just want to concentrate on school so I don't have to work some shiat fvck job the rest of my life. fvck them all, bunch of junkies and losers.

I'm better off alone.

/should have made better choices, am alone now because I didn't.

Well, you made a great choice in concentrating on school and getting rid of those 'friends'.

 

[Bryophyte]

You guys who are all alone make me want to cry. Don't you have any relatives to spend time with? Siblings, cousins, that sort of thing? Friends that are female?

I'm one of the least social people I know, but I have friends, go out once in awhile, keep in contact with them by IM or email or phone. I find as I get older, that the socializing I do is mostly with my spouse or spouse and kids.

 

[gopunk]

this thread is shocking to me...

 

[dr150]

Guys.....your friends in World of Wracraft DO NOT constitute as friends.....

Nor would you want to be friends with them if you saw them in real life.

 

[amicold]

Originally posted by: Accipiter22
When I'd read books growing up,and there'd be a main character who was relatively lonely, even they had at least one semi-close friend. I really have none. I go to bars/clubs alone. So when girls ask 'so where are your friends' i have to make up some lie about them being on their way, or me meeting them elsewhere in a few minutes. usually girls don't fall for it at all. Anyhow, am I the only one here with absolutely no close friends at all? No friends at all really?


I post all the stuff I do on ATOT because honestly, I have not a single friend in the world, and no one to tell any of this to. All my YAGTs and all that garbage, it's really because other than you guys reading it, there's not a single friend on Earth that knows I exist.

I know someone like this, I feel bad for you both.

 

[iliopsoas]

I have a very close group of friends from childhood. Unfortunately, most are married now.

So...I guess I have no friends either LOL

 

[imported_hscorpio]

Originally posted by: Martin
I don't mean this as an insult, I'm surprised at how anti-social some of you are. Honestly, having a bunch of really close friends is one of the best things a person could have and certainly not something that should be avoided. Ideally your friends should be almost like brothers and sisters, you shoudl be able to always trust them and count on them for help whenever you need it.

On second thought, you guys are probably just average. Perhaps poeple don't want to go through the trouble of having 'real' friends...

Being anti-social is often a front or defensive mechanism to make it appear as if the person is choosing not to have any friends when in reality they long for close friendship but for whatever reasons fail to achieve it. Then it looks better to play the anti-social role saying they don't like socializing rather than admitting they just suck at it. Thats my theory anyways.

 

[episodic]

Just join myspace! Millions of people in your extended network!

 

[hellokeith]

Originally posted by: sash1
oh, and maybe THIS is why you have no friends. :laugh: lololol thread of the year

3 times per day :Q

 

[Gimli43Orcs]

I find after I got married and now two kids, there basically is no time for real friends. After work, spending time with the wife and kids, I find my desire for social time with other people to be at zero. Now, I wasnt a social butterfly before marriage, but I did have a few close friends. The few moments of free time I have now, I just want to keep my mouth shut and just type

 

[NorthRiver]

Lost all of my friends when I left the country in 1990.

 

[ViviTheMage]

Originally posted by: NorthRiver
Lost all of my friends when I left the country in 1990.

canada? hahaha

 

[KrillBee]

Originally posted by: Rastus
Not even Tom added me on my Myspace page.

lol!

 

[KrillBee]

i have some friends, but no one that i really hang out with much anymore. i dont feel like i can connect to these friends like i used to.

ive turned down several invites to things, just because i know itd be boring.

when im by myself i tend to find funner things to do.

im not sure which is worse, being lonely but entertained, or being with others and bored out of your mind.


maybe one day ill become more social again, once the internet loses its attraction. but ive been on the net for like 6 years now, and that hasnt changed yet, so i question whether it will.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

Originally posted by: KrillBee
im not sure which is worse, being lonely but entertained, or being with others and bored out of your mind.

Not sure? Hell, being lonely but entertained beats the hell even out of being with others and equally entertained. Costs less money that way and you aren't dependent on other people to bring you happiness.

 

[iamaelephant]

This thread makes me so sad

 

[HombrePequeno]

I like my time alone but if I didn't have any friends I would be a sad, sad person. I'm not exactly the most social person but I have at least a dozen or so friends that I'm pretty close with, not to mention the 50-100 acquaintances that add to the mix.

 

[KrillBee]

Originally posted by: HamburgerBoy

Originally posted by: KrillBee
im not sure which is worse, being lonely but entertained, or being with others and bored out of your mind.

Not sure? Hell, being lonely but entertained beats the hell even out of being with others and equally entertained. Costs less money that way and you aren't dependent on other people to bring you happiness.

yes but at the same time its nice to have company. and not just company from the same people but a variety of company.

right now i live at home with my parents. ive contemplated moving out into a single apartment, but some people think doing that is a bad idea and that i may go crazy. while im not sure if the go crazy part is true, i can see a positive side of having company.
but i just dont think my parents count as company, lol.

 

[KaOTiK]

I have what i'd consider 2 friends but have a lot of accquaintces (sp?)

Personally I really do enjoy being by myself most the time. I enjoy quietness.

 

[LS20]

time to befriend SmarterChild

 

[Canai]

I guess I grew up accustomed to being alone... Only child, lived waaaaay out in the middle of nowhere, spent every day out in the woods just walking around, listening to nature... Chose bad friends, got really sick of being mr. popular, we had 5-20 people over every night of the week last year, and after a month or two of that I'd lock myself in my room and shove shirts under the door so I couldn't hear everyone.

And I don't want to sound like a pompous ass, but I've always been quite a bit more intelligent than the majority of my friends, yet they have always seemed to look down upon me, to question everything I say, second guess everything I do, and I absolutely hate that.

My room mate from last year, who I've been great friends with since grade school (I actually lived with his family for a while) became such an alcoholic, he'd kill a bottle of brandy literally every night of the week. On top of that he ordered large amounts of purified DXM, the stuff that's in cough syrup, and he would take three or four doses every day. And when he got drunk he got mean, always insulting me, calling me a dumbass and an idiot, and he'd kick and hit my cat, and he was especially bad when he was on the DXM and booze.. I'd always tell him to knock it off and to just leave me and my cat the fvck alone, but he never paid any heed to me. One night after he was staggering drunk and all fvcked up, he picked up my cat and threw him into the next room. I rushed him and took him down and just pummeled his face until my other roommate pulled me off. I guess I just sort of snapped. I told him to never show his face to me that fvcking wasted again, and I haven't seen or heard from him since. He was an amazing guitarist and we had been in a band for close to three years until that night.

After watching his decline I pretty much swore off any sort of friendship. I've always been lost in books and stories, and now the computer. I think what hscorpio said could be true for some people, but it's nowhere near a blanket statement for those who wish to live life alone, or at least not constantly surrounded by others. I, personally, would rather live a life of my choosing, rather than being surrounded by idiotic people urging me to do this or do that. Maybe once I get a little older (I'm 21 now) things will improve, but for now, I don't care enough to let myself get close to someone just to watch them fail.

 

[Staples]

I consider my sister my best friend.

In life I have two friends that I talk to probably once every week or two (not sure if you would call them friends). No girlfriend. And rarely leave the house. No bars or clubs.

So no to the OP, I live a pretty lonely life too.