do you use the terms "sir" and "maam"?

[Muse]

When I'm on the moon, always, on the earth, I try not to.

 

[Greenman]

My name generally works well.

If I'm trying to get a random person's attention, sure sir/ma'am. Otherwise, I see no point in it.

Well duh. If you know a persons name of course you use that. This is simple curtesy, a polite way of acknowledging someone you're not familiar with.

 

[Muse]

I remember a number of years ago hearing a guy respond after having been called "sir" (I think he was black, an American): "I haven't been called that since I was in the military." The inference was that he felt objectified and disrespected.

 

[Red Squirrel]

I won't be surprised if at some point someone refers to me as "maam" from behind.



Getting long.

 

[highland145]

I remember a number of years ago hearing a guy respond after having been called "sir" (I think he was black, an American): "I haven't been called that since I was in the military." The inference was that he felt objectified and disrespected.

How many ways can I get offended for no fucking reason at all...

 

[Muse]

How many ways can I get offended for no fucking reason at all...

I don't know that, only you can know that. Keeping score? One doesn't get offended for a "reason." What does reason have to do with being offended? You're offended. You don't need a "reason" to be offended, you're just offended. It's offensive to have to supply a "reason" for being offended. That equals double offensiveness. 2x offended > 1x offended. It's twice offended.

 

[jmagg]

I won't be surprised if at some point someone refers to me as "maam" from behind.



Getting long.

I made that mistake recently, Dude (looks like a lady).
He didn't seem to mind. I was somewhat embarrassed.

 

[highland145]

I don't know that, only you can know that. Keeping score? One doesn't get offended for a "reason." What does reason have to do with being offended? You're offended, can you grasp that? You don't need a "reason" to be offended, you're just offended. It's offensive to have to supply a "reason" for being offended. That equals double offensiveness, get it? 2x offended > 1x offended.

I've got my White privileged so I don't get to be offended. Grasp that.

 

[Muse]

I've got my White privileged so I don't get to be offended. Grasp that.

Nobody has a get out of jail free card for the prison known as "I'm offended!" If you feel guilty because you're white, that doesn't exempt you from feeling offended. There may be other ways, but guilt? No.

 

[jmagg]

I've got my White privileged so I don't get to be offended. Grasp that.

You do get to be offended, but your being offended will surely offend someone.

 

[highland145]

Nobody has a get out of jail free card for the prison known as "I'm offended!" If you feel guilty because you're white, that doesn't exempt you from feeling offended. There may be other ways, but guilt? No.

Wait, I get to be offended. Hot damn. Tell me how to get my panties in a twist.

Never had White guilt, never will.

 

[highland145]

You do get to be offended, but your being offended will surely offend someone.

Good.

 

[jmagg]

Good.

That sir, is a brutal assault of delicate sensibilities.

 

[highland145]

That sir, is a brutal assault of delicate sensibilities.

Better than an ass raping, right? Gotta have perspective.

 

[BurnItDwn]

I prefer sire or melord ever since playing Warcraft 2 in the 90s.

 

[Motostu]

I answered yes, but in my case it is primarily in the work environment (I work with and support military officers). Outside of that, I generally do not.

 

[Captante]

You do get to be offended, but your being offended will surely offend someone.

I find that offensive.

 

[jmagg]

I find that offensive.

Podcast obviously.

 

[Leymenaide]

you chose to move too far south

once you get south of rt 70, you're basically in "deliverance" in real life

Does this make 70 the new Mason Dixon line?

 

[nakedfrog]

Most women under 65 I've talked to prefer not to be called ma'am. They're archaic terms that can fuck right off.

 

[Muse]

Wait, I get to be offended. Hot damn. Tell me how to get my panties in a twist.

Never had White guilt, never will.

If you're so serene you are beyond getting offended, more power to you.

 

[Captante]

If you're so serene you are beyond getting offended, more power to you.

So what's my reward if I'm perpetually offended by everything ?!?

 

[highland145]

So what's my reward if I'm perpetually offended by everything ?!?

Stroke

 

[Captante]

Stroke

Fortunately I'm not ACTUALLY offended most of the time .... I just really like to complain!

 

[Zorba]

Well duh. If you know a persons name of course you use that. This is simple curtesy, a polite way of acknowledging someone you're not familiar with.

I guess it depends on what the OP means. If I'm trying to get a randos attention I say Sir and Ma'am, but I never say yes sir or call someone I know sir/ma'am.