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Do you think Porn is cheating? POLL
- Thread starter VIAN
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BrokenVisage
Lifer
God mode is cheating.. porn is more along the lines of using a strategy guide.
KillyKillall
Diamond Member
:thumbsup:
middlehead
Diamond Member
No, and I wouldn't stay long with a woman that thought so. That's a good sign to me that she's built for stupid.
Electric Amish
Elite Member
No....and if you think it is you're dumb.
I find that most guys look at porn/masturbation as an outlet for frustration or lack of self esteem in their own life. It is a cheap, quick thrill that satisfies them enough that they don't have to take a proactive step in finding a partner (SO) and moving on with a productive life.
Of course, that is all done subconsciously, most guys think of it as quick enjoyment, but I find that porn has negative aspects. I find that the only times that I have looked at porn were times where I was unsatisfied with my life, or frustrated with where I was in my life. And it is a losing battle, the more you feel despondent about your life, the more you turn to porn to give you that quick, cheap fix, and the more you don't deal with the real issues.
Yes, it is cheating. Cheating you out of cool relationships. Cheating you from viewing others in a manner that could build relationships (i.e. - viewing every pretty girl that passes your way as a girl you would like to have sex with and therefore being incapable of treating them as a human being). Fantasizing about a girl that other than physical beauty is probably really damaged emotionally means that you only regard physical beauty in relationships and therefore become calloused to mostly everything else. Building relationships with that mindset will eventually cheat you out of a great relationship with a girl that would make you a better person.
As for the learning aspect of porn, :roll:... there are plenty of books out there that talk about sex if you want to learn, but seriously, wouldn't you rather learn with someone that you can be vulnerable with and learn together through talking about it and experimenting, rather than a Cathode Ray Tube or LCD that puts up images that can't reciprocate those cheap thrills? (run-on, I know for you grammar nazis)
Of course, that is all done subconsciously, most guys think of it as quick enjoyment, but I find that porn has negative aspects. I find that the only times that I have looked at porn were times where I was unsatisfied with my life, or frustrated with where I was in my life. And it is a losing battle, the more you feel despondent about your life, the more you turn to porn to give you that quick, cheap fix, and the more you don't deal with the real issues.
Yes, it is cheating. Cheating you out of cool relationships. Cheating you from viewing others in a manner that could build relationships (i.e. - viewing every pretty girl that passes your way as a girl you would like to have sex with and therefore being incapable of treating them as a human being). Fantasizing about a girl that other than physical beauty is probably really damaged emotionally means that you only regard physical beauty in relationships and therefore become calloused to mostly everything else. Building relationships with that mindset will eventually cheat you out of a great relationship with a girl that would make you a better person.
As for the learning aspect of porn, :roll:... there are plenty of books out there that talk about sex if you want to learn, but seriously, wouldn't you rather learn with someone that you can be vulnerable with and learn together through talking about it and experimenting, rather than a Cathode Ray Tube or LCD that puts up images that can't reciprocate those cheap thrills? (run-on, I know for you grammar nazis)
Electric Amish
Elite Member
I feel sorry for you if you think wanting to have sex with someone means you cannot treat them as a human. 🙁
It really depends on your definition of how you treat a person as a human being.
My criteria is a bit strict. But I have found that I have deeper, longer lasting friendships because of that. **There have been times in my life (times of doubt) where I chose not to do this (very regretable) 🙁**
Sure most people can treat each other with a certain level of civility. I have even seen people "mask" their true nature, just to attract a girl they want to have sex with.
But my definition of treating a person as a fellow human being is treating them as you would treat yourself. In other words, being genuine and honest with them (Meaning you can't be anybody other than who you genuinely are in front of someone just to impress them <most guys that just think about pretty girls they want to have sex with do this quite frequently> ). Treating them with respect, but with respect that is innate in every human, as well as respect that is earned. Mind you, I notice a pretty girl just like every other Joe Schmoe out there, but I find that if I do the above, I get to know the person on a more genuine level, and from there I can see if the person is a genuine human being or not. It works with same gender friends, too. If the person is at all fake while I am being genuine, you can spot it a mile away. But again, the issue is that porn somehow skews your view of women to only look for physical beauty.
You take half of the guys in ATOT and you show them a picture of a pretty girl, and the first thing they say or do, is "I'd do her." :roll:
If they see a girl that doesn't fit their view of beauty (which is totally physical to them), they shun her or make lewd remarks. (Example - the picture of the 23 year old that many joked as looking 43) From what I could deduce from the OP who posted it, she was a perfect match in personality and looks for him (and that is what made her beautiful).
Electric Amish
Elite Member
Just because you have sex with someone doesn't mean you have to form any kind of relationship. There is nothing at all wrong with keeping them mutually exclusive.
Personally, I would screw any non-diseased woman that offered...regardless of whether I "liked" them or not.
ViviTheMage
Lifer
no
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