Do you think Porn is cheating? POLL

[dawnbug]

Originally posted by: Sqube
Depends on what you're wankin off to. If it's Midgets N Latex 27, nah.
If the girl next door is sitting in front of her webcam, yeah.

I concur.

 

[Bryophyte]

Originally posted by: Tom
Cheating at porn would be difficult.

*psssttt* hey, Tom, what'd you write down for #6?

 

[MisterJackson]

I've had girls that fought me over it and I dated a girl that probably looked at it more than me and most guys here. As a matter of fact, and I know you'll call shens, and I have no way to prove this, but my last girlfriend loved to watch porn. She was even more turned on by watching ME watch it.

She liked to give me uh.....a "Lewinski" while I was at my computer looking at it. Weirded me out at first, to the point I wasn't sure if I liked it or not, which seriously fvcked with my head. I mean, come on, why WOULDN'T I like it. I know every guy here would say "Hell yeah that's the perfect gal.", and in respects like that she was, but it also put me off a bit for some reason, and that was something I sure as hell didn't expect. I think it was because she had this whole facade and image she built up to me and others of her being this sweet innocent angel everyone loved, but deep down the girl had some serious sh1t going on upstairs. Deeper than I could deal with.

I look at one website every now and then. To me, porn's a tool to get a job done, but usually I only use it when I'm single.

I don't collect porn but know guys who have terabytes of the stuff.....seriously, this one dude has 5 400GB hdd's full of that stuff. It's sad too, because to him it's an addiction, it overtakes him. He looks like your run of the mill father and husband but the dude has issues.

 

[her209]

Is it cheating if I read a dirty book?

 

[TXHokie]

You're only cheating yourself of a real exercise by not doing the real thing.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: TXHokie
You're only cheating yourself of a real exercise by not doing the real thing.

Menage a trois?

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: BrokenVisage

Topic Title: Do you think Porn is cheating?

God mode is cheating.. porn is more along the lines of using a strategy guide.

:laugh: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA :laugh:

This isn't a black-and-white question. It depends on the people who are a part of the relationship.

 

[theprodigalrebel]

Originally posted by: DaShen
I find that most guys look at porn/masturbation as an outlet for frustration or lack of self esteem in their own life. It is a cheap, quick thrill that satisfies them enough that they don't have to take a proactive step in finding a partner (SO) and moving on with a productive life.

You could say the exact same thing about movies/novels/video games/high-performance cars n'bikes etc. My life lacks adventure: so I check out the adventures of Jack Sparrow. Does that mean I suck? No.

C'mon pal...it's just masturbation. And I find it offensive that you think all people who watch porn regard women as mere T&A. As a man, sometimes, I feel this uncontrollable urge to gawk at breasts. Wouldn't you rather I did it at my computer than out in the park?

OP: Porn, is not cheating. Neither is writing "I'd hit it" in a Jessica Alba tribute thread.

 

[Anghang]

Originally posted by: DaShen
wouldn't you rather learn with someone that you can be vulnerable with and learn together through talking about it and experimenting while watching porn together

yup

 

[lokiju]

I don't, doesn't mean my SO wouldn't be pissed if she caught me though

 

[VoteQuimby]

Originally posted by: DaShen
I find that most guys look at porn/masturbation as an outlet for frustration or lack of self esteem in their own life. It is a cheap, quick thrill that satisfies them enough that they don't have to take a proactive step in finding a partner (SO) and moving on with a productive life.

Of course, that is all done subconsciously, most guys think of it as quick enjoyment, but I find that porn has negative aspects. I find that the only times that I have looked at porn were times where I was unsatisfied with my life, or frustrated with where I was in my life. And it is a losing battle, the more you feel despondent about your life, the more you turn to porn to give you that quick, cheap fix, and the more you don't deal with the real issues.

Yes, it is cheating. Cheating you out of cool relationships. Cheating you from viewing others in a manner that could build relationships (i.e. - viewing every pretty girl that passes your way as a girl you would like to have sex with and therefore being incapable of treating them as a human being). Fantasizing about a girl that other than physical beauty is probably really damaged emotionally means that you only regard physical beauty in relationships and therefore become calloused to mostly everything else. Building relationships with that mindset will eventually cheat you out of a great relationship with a girl that would make you a better person.

As for the learning aspect of porn, :roll:... there are plenty of books out there that talk about sex if you want to learn, but seriously, wouldn't you rather learn with someone that you can be vulnerable with and learn together through talking about it and experimenting, rather than a Cathode Ray Tube or LCD that puts up images that can't reciprocate those cheap thrills? (run-on, I know for you grammar nazis)

ding ding ding - winner

 

[spherrod]

Originally posted by: BrokenVisage

Topic Title: Do you think Porn is cheating?

God mode is cheating.. porn is more along the lines of using a strategy guide.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Eli

Originally posted by: Bryophyte

Originally posted by: DaShen
I find that most guys look at porn/masturbation as an outlet for frustration or lack of self esteem in their own life. It is a cheap, quick thrill that satisfies them enough that they don't have to take a proactive step in finding a partner (SO) and moving on with a productive life.

Of course, that is all done subconsciously, most guys think of it as quick enjoyment, but I find that porn has negative aspects. I find that the only times that I have looked at porn were times where I was unsatisfied with my life, or frustrated with where I was in my life. And it is a losing battle, the more you feel despondent about your life, the more you turn to porn to give you that quick, cheap fix, and the more you don't deal with the real issues.

Yes, it is cheating. Cheating you out of cool relationships. Cheating you from viewing others in a manner that could build relationships (i.e. - viewing every pretty girl that passes your way as a girl you would like to have sex with and therefore being incapable of treating them as a human being). Fantasizing about a girl that other than physical beauty is probably really damaged emotionally means that you only regard physical beauty in relationships and therefore become calloused to mostly everything else. Building relationships with that mindset will eventually cheat you out of a great relationship with a girl that would make you a better person.

As for the learning aspect of porn, :roll:... there are plenty of books out there that talk about sex if you want to learn, but seriously, wouldn't you rather learn with someone that you can be vulnerable with and learn together through talking about it and experimenting, rather than a Cathode Ray Tube or LCD that puts up images that can't reciprocate those cheap thrills? (run-on, I know for you grammar nazis)

Most guys recognize that porn/masturbation is a normal outlet for a healthy sex drive. Most are well enough adjusted mentally to understand that watching porn is merely a way to enhance arousal and isn't some huge emotional bandaid for someone depressed and damaged and incapable of having a relationship with a real living breathing woman. It's really absurd to overanalyze something that's really quite a simple and basic function.

:thumbsup::thumbsup:

Again, this is just my opinion on the matter. I have been doing a lot of thinking about life and stuff in general lately, and I have found again IMO, that Porn can damage real relationships with people.

It treats people as nothing more than sexual objects. Which gets ingrained in our psyche.

Lately, I have also been limiting how much TV I watch everyday and trust me when I say my thinking has been 10X clearer. The only problem now is that my mind races if I don't numb it with something and I read too much already. But I have been playing a lot more guitar laterly. But I digress.

Again, this is IMO, but I think at some subconscious level, this actually happens with every guy I know that watches it.

**EDIT**
This is not a judgement on anyone that does watch porn. My best friend has about 30 GB of the stuff himself and we have been friends since I was 12. I just have seen in almost every case that I know how porn actually takes away from intimate relationships with friends and your SO. You may think otherwise, but again IMO, I think it gets done at a subconscious level.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
I've had girls that fought me over it and I dated a girl that probably looked at it more than me and most guys here. As a matter of fact, and I know you'll call shens, and I have no way to prove this, but my last girlfriend loved to watch porn. She was even more turned on by watching ME watch it.

She liked to give me uh.....a "Lewinski" while I was at my computer looking at it. Weirded me out at first, to the point I wasn't sure if I liked it or not, which seriously fvcked with my head. I mean, come on, why WOULDN'T I like it. I know every guy here would say "Hell yeah that's the perfect gal.", and in respects like that she was, but it also put me off a bit for some reason, and that was something I sure as hell didn't expect. I think it was because she had this whole facade and image she built up to me and others of her being this sweet innocent angel everyone loved, but deep down the girl had some serious sh1t going on upstairs. Deeper than I could deal with.

I look at one website every now and then. To me, porn's a tool to get a job done, but usually I only use it when I'm single.

I don't collect porn but know guys who have terabytes of the stuff.....seriously, this one dude has 5 400GB hdd's full of that stuff. It's sad too, because to him it's an addiction, it overtakes him. He looks like your run of the mill father and husband but the dude has issues.

Porn can really mess with a girls mind, too.